What are your thoughts?

[Anonymous]

I would say I've been brainwashed by feminism, especially for the really toxic side of feminism.

I want to be a good house wife for my future husband. I just have these fears holding me back. Like if the guy I'm with takes me for granted and doesn't respect me. Treats me bad just because I am a house wife, like he thinks he can respect me less because I'm helplessly at his disposal. I don't want that to happen. I'll put a scenario, say I'm busy cleaning and my boyfriend/husband is hungry for a sandwich. Am I supposed to drop everything and make him a sandwich? I just think he can easily do that himself since I'll already be making breakfast/lunch/dinner. He can make himself a snack. I don't want to be waiting on him hand and foot. I also don't want to baby him. It would be annoying to have him acting helpless about everything little thing when he can do it himself. Is this a rationale fear? Or most guys won't act like this?

[tenor55]

My wife has never been the career type. She stayed home and helped raise the children. She could have done anything she wanted because she is talented and brilliant. She did work some after the kids were grown and now owns her own antiques business. I have never expected her to wait on me. I am owed capable of getting my own lunch. We often share making dinner. We also share the work at home. Stay away from a guy who says, “ I am the head of the house.” You want an egalitarian relationship no matter if you work at home or work out of the home.

[Shamalien]

All depends on the guy. I would never make demands of my wife like that if she’s already working to keep the house clean

[Guy13]

You are going to disrespect one another. It is good to have discussions in a very mature way so that terms snd expectations can be known without emotional garbage attached to it. Do NOT use absurd examples as stated above as those are easily ignored with “I would never or I know better”. Good luck if you are seeking Perfection to your standards. Guys and perfection, Nah

[Summeroflove]

Have morals and standards and pray a lot and don’t use men

[Anonymous]

It does sound like you've been brainwashed by feminism. Just because you choose to be a SAHM doesn't mean your husband can treat you disrespectfully or expect you to wait on him. But I do think it's fair for him to expect you to take care of the home while he takes care of the income. Sounds like a great life for both of you.

[pers0n]

There are mature non-dumbass people of both genders. It is possible to be a good person and not be abused.