So basically there is a man I really like at work. I don’t know if anything will ever happen or if he even likes me in that way but I am hoping he might…
If anything did happen my work doesn’t care about people dating…
We have both worked together for 3 years. After a while he started being extremely flirty with me but I was a bit hesitant as I never knew if he was just being nice and at the time I was going through a lot, my dad had cancer and I was in a bad way. But I never spoke to him or anyone about it. I kept myself to myself and overtime I became really down and I haven’t been myself for a while. I became very quiet with everyone not just at work, basically everyone in my life. I just had a lot going on and feel like he got the impression I wasn’t interested when I really was. We told each other we liked one another but nothing ever happened. Some days he would be super chatty and flirty then other days he wouldn’t talk at all. I then realised it was because he got back together with his ex.
He ended things with her in October. I want to go back to how it was but it’s been like a year since we were ‘closer’. We still talk but it’s not like it was.
Any tips on how to start fresh and maybe see what happens? I’m sick of being miserable and he makes me smile everyday.
I have just lost my grandmother in September and my cousin at Christmas to cancer and feel myself going back to being in a bad place and I don’t want to be like this or shut him or anyone out again.
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I really think that rather than focus on a getting a man and being in a relationship you should consider therapy and work on healing first. The reason I say this is because you don’t want to become codependent of him to be your main source of happiness. Not only is that a lot of responsibility to put on him, but this hurt and broken person isn’t the version of yourself that you want to bring into a new situation. You should work on creating a life you can get excited about with him (or any other man) being only an extension of it, not the sole embodiment of what gives you purpose and the only thing that makes you happy.
Wow thank you this is super helpful.
He doesn’t know about a lot of what’s been going on with me. Thank you 😊
No worries! I’ve been down that road before and realized it’s so important to take care of yourself first. Once you’re in a better place and there’s still opportunity to go for him then you should by all means☺️
Talk it out with him talking is Key