If someone tells you they’re toxic and have red flags, would you take that as a warning?

[Anonymous]

I think if someone tells you they’re bad to be with, you should take it as a sign to find someone else.

[TenderFantasy]

Yes, but my ex never told me directly (why would he? !) He covered this up at times and used his looks to manipulate.

I had to read a lot between the lines (his actions) to realize it. But even then, I was too far gone to realize it and took him back countless times in our 7 year on and off relationship!

I thought he was good person deep down, but his associate, in the end, even confessed that he concluded that he was a narcissist.

Did I tell you I was too far gone? Well, yes I was. I thought POSITIVELY about the situation and didn't BELIEVE the people who were telling me that he's a bad person and not a good one to date. Did I listen? Nope! My vagina (and hormones) was the one speaking! My, what I thought was also the same, built up memories (shared) and time shared, etc. I thought that would build attachment (well it did) but he was still on his way down... like really down... homeless, 47 year old with mental ISSUES down! Went from renting a room in 2015 and having a temp job to that, down!

I guess I'll just should be happy we never had kids? !

[Cynicaldreamer]

I would thank them for being honest and not wasting my time: damn right that's a neon red sign! Time find someone else!!

Even if they're exaggerating or joking, one thing does matter: they're trying to detour you from dating or a showing interest in them. Why? The feeling isn't mutual.
It's like when someone rejects you but says, "It's not you, it's me!"

... it's usually you, lol. They just aren't that into you but don't want to hurt your feelings.

I'd take their "warning" and move on.

[Guy13]

No 🚩 🚩🚩, yeah, you’re one of those lucky people. May I see your resume and references list please ⁉️

I assume these contacts are all current? I would appreciate you letting them know that I will be reaching out. It will make it go much quicker as I will have to leave a voicemails.
Anything else that you would like to attend too before I begin processing you for Eligibility

[Paul_in_Indy]

If I picked up a bottle which was labeled with red “Toxic” stickers, I would take that as a sign to drink something else. This is common sense, isn’t it?

What answer are you looking for? If someone warns me, I take that as a warning.

[Asker]

Not many people would. They would want to know why that person is toxic and want to see if they’re truly bad.

[Paul_in_Indy]

Maybe they would be interested in finding out the truth. …but they would, absolutely, “take it as a warning/sign.” Do you think most people would think you were trying to order coffee if you warned them you were trouble?

But I, also, think most people would steer clear of you. I would.

[Asker]

And that’s ok. That’s the smart thing to do. If anything, I would find me a toxic guy.

[Sorrento-Sun]

I'd definitely stop associating with them.

When I was younger, I would sometimes ignore red flags and try to look for positive aspects of their personality. I always ended up regretting overlooking the red flags, because I only got hurt in the end.

So now I never go against my better judgment. I trust in my own perception and intuition.

[Red-Blaze]

Not sure, I mean is it true or they only belive it?
Someone that is toxic and knows it can do something about it
Its qhen they dont know when its a problem as they do nothing about it

[tiajoka]

Yeah, believe someone when they tell you this truth. Either it’s true, and they’re trying to manipulate you by getting ahead of it… or they’re very insecure/self critical and need to work on themselves before being ready for a relationship.

[Jhunitor]

Yes. If a girl tells you that it means she is really insufferable but think it is cute. That makes her a thousand times more toxic than what she says.

[Asker]

I can admit I’m toxic but I never think it’s cute. I just want the guy to find someone better.

[Catarine]

Yes. They are nice to be telling you this but it's probably being said because it's true. That's not something a sane person would joke about

[melanieeeB]

Of course, they're already warning you... so better go

[Lynnfriend]

Yes at my age you don't have time for abad relationship.

[DizzyDesii]

Yes but instead some people see it as a challenge 🤦‍♀️

[LiamJHayden]

Sometimes I think you can read my mind.

[DizzyDesii]

@LiamJHayden

[littlered14]

It's a good heads up. Smart to take a hint before you fall down the rabbit hole

[LiamJHayden]

Yes, but I'd ask some questions. Sometimes the claim stems from shyness or loneliness or fear of rejection/getting close to someone and not from actual toxicity.

[pupluv45]

sweetie, nobody is gonna tell you that. you're a fool if you think anyone will say that about themselves

[magiusX26]

yes but these days more and more people. take that as postive things about the other person.

[AmeerX]

I would take my chances if I found her pleasant.

[SweetTwistedSatanist]

I would have them list me arguments. I need details.

[Anonymous]

Gotta agree. I'd thank that person for warning me. At least they did a favor. I'd look for someone else.

[msc545]

Yes. Pay attention to and believe what people say about themselves.

[Mansearching]

Depends on what they are calling toxic

[HaveNoName]

Most toxic people do not realize they're toxic.

[Bklynbadboy12]

Sure would and run away 🏃‍♂️🏃‍♂️🏃‍♂️🏃‍♂️

[sheenagwapa]

not at all