Having a hard time accepting my partners career choice... help?

[Anonymous]

I'm having a hard time accepting my partners career choice... and not sure what to do...

I'm 28 my partner is 26, originally we spoke about having kids/ a house etc. When I turn around 30. She is currently earning a good amount as a teacher and we will end up moving soon so she will end up earning around 40k.

She wants to cut down on teaching and go into doing tattooing, now the plans we had for a house have been put aside.. and at 30 if she starts now we can't have a family/kids on the starting salary she will be getting and it will be a good few years after the apprenticeship is done till she is earning a similar amount.

I'm wondering if I'm being selfish or not... as this idea affects me as well and I'm not happy with it fully... I want to be supportive but it means for the 1st year or more of the apprenticeship she will have to do... I'll hardly see her, we will be struggling for money and I'll be paying her share of the rent. I'm at the age where I want to travel etc. go places and she knew this when we got together, I want to do it before I get too old. Once she finishes, with the amount expected... we will be struggling on mortgage payments or at least she will and currently I'm making sure she is alright every month as she is always worrying about money or crying a lot as she doesn't feel she has enough. I've done the hard work over the years of getting to where I am on a decent salary to actually enjoy life and relax more. I honestly don't want to feel like I'm struggling/stressed all the time... while also hardly seeing my partner as the apprenticeship takes a lot of time

Any thoughts/opinions on what to do? Am I overreacting?

[exitseven]

I would not even call that a career. I think tattoos are a fad that will be less popular because "everyone " is doing it. Not surprisingly, Extensive tattoos cause toxicity issues because the inl leaches into your body. When people just got one or two little tattoos it was never a problem but the full sleeve and whole body tattoos use so much ink it becomes toxic. She should stick to teaching, It is a steady paycheck, you get lots of time off and there is a nice pension when you retire.

[AimeeKyle]

A tough conversation…. you can only ask questions and ask more questions based on responses. If you try to curb or change her path it could bring on long term resentment and negativity.
by the way, there is never a good or right time to start a family. You can only be somewhat prepared….. whatever your thoughts are about it, they will change as you work through the trials, tribulations, joys of parenting.
If you love her, enjoy the journey and work through / support each other and everything will work out.

[Dinklex3]

You just need to have an open conversation and communicate your concerns.

[KrakenAttackin]

From teaching to tattooing... get rid of this skank.

[msc545]

Get rid of her.