My boyfriend (35) doesn't want to move forward in our relationship until I've lived on my own for a year and "learned independence". Under normal circumstances for someone who hasn't lived alone before, I get that and see how it would be useful for someone who hasn't figured out how to adult. I understand it may have been helpful to him when he was younger. I'm 27 and was forced into a caregiver role for my parents as I finished college. I've been on my own, and have been caring for two whole other human beings. I'm not an infant who doesn't know how to do laundry or dishes without crying to my mom. Wth would living on my own give me other than quiet blissful nights not having to care for another human being for maybe the only time in my life. I find this to be a dumb reason for him to rely on for why he doesn't want to move forward. Would have posted on reddit, but I dont want him to come across this by chance. What do you all think?
You said a lot about yourself, but not much about him. Does he have a job? is it a good job? is he broke and simply living in his mom's basement. Does his parents love him very much? and does he love his parents very much? I'm asking all of those questions, because there is no easy answer when it comes to people living by themselves. I will give myself as an example. I have a good job and I'm making a Very respectable salary and yet I choose to live with my mom. I'm happy living with her and she is x10 more happier living with me. So, even though I'm more than capable living by myself, I'm choosing not to. Now you tell me your B. F situation. Where is he financially? where is he educationally? how is his relationship with his parents? how is he as person? respectable or play type? is he a hardworking type of guy or is he lazy?
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He is immature and controlling and can’t stand you have outgrown him.
It really is up to you, I always recommend that people do live on their own before they get married.
I've seen too many move out from their parents for the first time, in with a SO (or spouse) and they have no idea how to live in the real world.
You have experience though, or at least it seems that way that he isn't giving you credit for.
I don’t quite understand the situation. Is the plan for you to be a stay at home? If so, you’re more than well-equipped since you’re already doing the things stay at home spouses do (dishes, laundry, taking care of other humans). Or is he worried that if something were to happen to him you wouldn’t know what to do or how to manage?
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