My bfs mom hurt my feelings?

[Anonymous]

We went over one day for dinner, she had made us enchiladas. She asked my boyfriend when was the last time he had enchiladas. My boyfriend to confirm was like from who from you? He wasn’t sure if she meant in general or just hers you know. So she was like well mine who else’s? My boyfriend answered and said that he had some from me the other day that I made. Then she asked me a million questions, like what kind I made and then she made some comment like asking if they were bought or if I made them. But it’s like I made them. And I don't know it overall hurt. Like I don’t have a problem her asking when he last had them, but it was the comment of who else’s?
Like I don't know that hurt me. It’s like dang I don’t matter, and it’s like I don’t do shit and also that I am not good enough for asking if they were bought. I don't know I’m just overall just kind of hurt by this. I know I’m supposed to ask a question but I don’t have one. I just need to let this out.

[Rosexøxø]

I apologize sis ☹️. I mean, if I were satan I’d obvi. punch her for you lol

but I don’t mind punching the wall a bit

*light punch* ☹️🤜 🚪

but yeah, the whole thing is YOU CAN feel these emotions, but set a timer for it, or so. 🤔 At the end of the day, and at the end of life- what she says doesn’t matter.

It doesn’t even compare, next to all the things you wish to do in life for yourself, and all the positive things you would want to surround yourself with- landscapes/ adventures/ friends/ laughter/ memories/ warm feelings/ and everything grand. 👐 ✨

She’s just one lady… ☝️ she’ll die soon in her own time, as you and me. We don’t have to give her that much “importance,” as if she were immortal or something. 😂😭

She has nothing over you!! Boo! 👏😄

All she has is her age and her own life experience, which cannot and should not ever be compared to anyone else’s. Especially not yours, nor your boyfriend’s.

A true fact is, that as adults get older, they don’t filter things as good, and so they sound like little children speaking their mind, and not always thinking about how it would affect others.

So just view that, as a reflection of her age. Dismiss the comment (s), and don’t let it/ them live rent free in your mind. :/

Recognize she’s not better than you, at all… in any way.

And to be fairly honest, you DID surprise her and prove her wrong in some instance. Even if she assumed you didn’t cook or so-

you definitely showed that to her now, without you even having to lift a finger. Your boyfriend mentioned what you had done-

and that’s how life works. We live for ourselves and focusing on our passions, and responsibilities. Those we care for; etc. etc. and it will soon be impossible to be denied by anyone or falsely judged.

Let your character speak louder than words. 🗣 💪 Let your life be lived with deep conviction. 🙏 That it would be one you want- “to thine own self be true.”

and it will bring then conviction to those who don’t live with conviction- or passion, better yet.

When you’re completely satisfied with the life you live, you will never have to feel bad by ANYTHING, anyone says or does. Directly or indirectly.

You don’t live for them.

You live for you! ✨

Enjoy your boyfriend. Maybe casually discuss with him how it “kind of” bothered you, and maybe you’ll overlook it this time..

Just so you show him where you stand; you’re not complaining, but next time if you should happen to overreact, he’ll remember you had said it bothered you, and hopefully next time if he is keen on this, he will also step-up a bit, and side with you- just to NEUTRALIZE anything,

but for the most part,

I’m sure you and his mom shouldn’t have any problems.

As long as everyone keeps going about their business, and strives for respectability. It should naturally, never pose a problem as this, again.

For the sake of anything nice going on in the relationships, and for your peace of mind and contentment, I hope it doesn’t.

Best to you sis!

Treat yourself. Hang out with your bae. 🤞 Make some enchiladas in that kitchen 🔥 and absolutely smash the taco bar 🌮 FEAST like a king and queen

and absolutely LIVE. IT. UP 🤘😝

dont let the wrong things stay rent free in your mind sis.

2k23 for the win! 💁‍♀️ 💃 🕺 💃 👑

[Asker]

Oh my goodness thank you so much for this! I truly needed this, like you don’t know how much I needed it. Your words are so kind and it means so much to me, you truly touched my heart and I cannot thank you enough. I am so thankful that I got on here and wrote this because I would have never came across your kind and thoughtful words. I truly appreciate you taking the time into writing this cause you added so much meaning into your writing. Thank you so much. And I feel so much better that you understand where I am coming from. You are so sweet ❤️🫶🏻

[Asker]

Now I can sleep good

[Rosexøxø]

That’s so awesome 😁 sis I’m so happy for you. That is like my motivation! To see other people doing well for themselves!

Like we all need to just slay lmaoo

And I’m glad I read this tbh because I’ve been inspired to make myself some tacos! 🤣

It’s a good day!

And wishing you many more good ones in the future! 😎🔥🔥

[Asker]

Lmfao 🤣 thanks for the laugh 😂 I needed that too 😂
Well I’m glad I inspired you as well! You will make some bomb ass tacos! 🌮

[Rosexøxø]

#NomNomsAwayyy 😄🌮🤪🤜🤛

[Asker]

I talked to my boyfriend about it and it only made me feel worse

[Rosexøxø]

Ouch! Then he doesn’t value your emotions on the matter. Considering of course he argued this- your confession of feelings on the matter, or he defended her actions and made you seem hysterical, or so.

If you just felt worse about sharing it, I would say don’t because communication in relationships are essential, and emotions of people are valid to be expressed.

[Guy13]

One thing to remember about partners, family, and successful relationship. We may feel a claim and borderline ownership with our partners and this is normal. Even so, they have been with their brothers, sisters, and parents much longer than with us.

They are always going to take sides with Family. Even some of my friends seven years in are dealing with some Dad's that can't like their daughters go and keep their opinions to themselves. Not meaning to generalize but the India/Indians are the worst ever with the butting in and the Dad thinking he runs all the siblings lives.

Good luck with the Mom...

[KnewHOUSE]

Your a softy and you can't compete with any parent just suck it in or go to court with it.

[Asker]

Well yea I am a softy. I don’t make comments like that tho cause I know she’s a softy too and cause it’s his mom, I’m also a respectful person. I’m not mean or anything I’m nice and I treat her good but stuff she does/says kind of gets to me.

[KnewHOUSE]

Mom's boy I'm one also I had this in-between stuff any woman friend I brought in her home.

[Asker]

Oh okay. What did you do about it? Or like what happened? Just curious

[KnewHOUSE]

I used to expect them to bring it to me but most of the time it was Petty stuff they work it out or feeling died down as long as one walks away there never conflation of any kind and I never new about most disagreements.