Girls, Does she actually care about me?

[Anonymous]

I'm in a lesbian relationship with a girl in the uk who I love, we chat and call a lot. We role-play in chat as if we actually live together. She made up a character another girl who she pretends to kiss and do sexual things sometimes behind my back. I sense she is taking advantage of my love for her this way because it bothers me a bit and she knows it. She will say things sometimes to make me feel bad when arguing (we don't argue a lot but it hurts when we do). I posted a status that said I'm not a toy I have feelings and for some reason got upset about it. It wasn't about her and I told her that but she's still upset. I'm wondering, does she actually care about me?

[Anonymous]

How could you not feel like a toy when all you are to each other is role play? You Live in separate countries playing make believe every day, nothing sounds real about that. Sorry if I sound harsh but I urge you to be realistic, not characters in fairytale land.

[Asker]

Thanks you just made me feel worse

[Opinion Owner]

I’m sorry, it’s just a shit situation to put yourself through. I could lie but you aren’t here for that.

[Asker]

How do I cheer myself up

[Opinion Owner]

I would say to start being real about your situation with her. Roleplay is fun but it can’t be what your relationship is built on, because now you’re upset over fictional characters and it’s hard to separate fake emotions from valid ones. I’d also say to get on the same page about what you two actually want from one another, because I think a big contributor in why you feel sad are these hurtful situations in the storylines. No one wants to play around as if their partner is interested in someone else.