Does your girl/guy forget your B-day, V-day, Anniversaries, etc. does it make you feel like they don't pay attention to you anymore?

[OfMiceandMen]

Are they always late or forget it completely? Do you tell them how it hurts you or just let it bottle-up inside?

Tell him/her and get it out in the open... clear the air!

Let it fester till it bursts... better not to rock the boat!

[misogynistic_pig]

It is important to note that men should focus on their own emotional independence and not depend on the attention or validation of another person, including their partner.

In this sense, if a man's partner forgets his birthday, V-day or anniversaries, this should not be a determining factor in his happiness and emotional well-being.

However, it is understandable that a man may feel a little disappointed or ignored if his partner forgets these important dates.

In this case, it is important to communicate with the partner and explain how he feels without blaming or attacking the other person.

Rather than expect his partner to give him attention or gifts, a man must learn to meet his own needs and find his own happiness and fulfillment without depending on another person.

[OfMiceandMen]

I am happy if they remember, don't need anything to show for it though.

[Guy13]

Nothing makes another look more selfish and self-absorbed than not electronically putting important dates in your phone to honor your woman or relationship milestones.

I’m scared if you can’t tell…It is going to make it hard for me because she’s all over those girly traditional things “in love” kind of way. Hope I don’t forget or disappoint that way. Phone 📱 with dates is filling little by little.

[Anonymous]

Of little thing I try to let it go by myself but it does hurt me (ex. V-day). On a forgotten B-day I would be super pissed off. Forgotten anniversary I would be pissed too, a little less than B-day tho

[OfMiceandMen]

I agree, if they treat you well all year round then V-day is just another day. The rest are kind of important.

[annabananna]

It would hurt a bit if he forgets but I think after so many years your bound to forget something at some point.

[OfMiceandMen]

It's not so bad if it is once in awhile, but if they have a track record it would concern me.

[OlderAndWiser]

My fiancée is Chinese and the celebration of holdays is quite different for her, but we always do something for my birthday, but I've never received a birthday card from her.

[OfMiceandMen]

Are birthday cards something her family never did?

[OlderAndWiser]

Right. I don't know if other Chinese people did that before 1992, but she did not. China has become more westernized since she left.

[21Cowboy21]

Bday and vday - I always like to plan with my spouse together. And if they throw a surprise a day or two in adv (or maybe a month in adv to really be a surprise randomly) instead of celebrsting on the day - and just doing something low key on the day - thats cool with me.

I like planning and getting excited about the fun holidays to enjoy, together.

[OfMiceandMen]

Sounds like you've got it covered.👌

[HippieVeganJewslim]

St Val’s Day is a joke, as I’d love my partner 365.25 days a year, and I also forget anniversaries, but it’s rare that I get a partner for longer than a year. None of my partners seemed to forget my birthday, but I forgot all of theirs, except Shayna’s.

[OfMiceandMen]

Shayna must have been special then.

[HippieVeganJewslim]

Of course! She was a pescetarian, didn’t seem to care about age gaps (She was 4.5 years younger than I), admitted Her infatuation and kissed me the day after We met, and seemed to live Her own way. No wonder my brother called Her a hippie.
Dawn Marie was also kinda special, but I forgot her birthday, but I think it is somewhen in April. I love Shayna more, to be honest. Miss Her a lot!

[TheSpaceGnome]

I do not expect her to remember any of that, I'm not the type of person to think about those things. I'd rather she focused on whats in front of her.

[OfMiceandMen]

I'd be fine with her remembering something like an anniversary as it is special between us. Don't need anything for it, but maybe spend some time together that day.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

There should be a third option. I don't celebrate anything. If they're of the mindset to want me to, I will but I'd ask that they do nothing for me.

[OfMiceandMen]

True... some people choose not to celebrate those things at all.

[BrookeS]

When the forget I just cut them off with sex for a week and they come crawling back

[OfMiceandMen]

Wow, you're a hit them where it hurts kinda gal! LOL

[Anonymous]

I don’t really believe in these celebrations so I wish they would forget tbh they’re all meaningless, I love and cherish the person I’m with all year round every year, I make displays of affection and treat them to days out and presents so why tf should I remember a specific day to do what I’m already doing albeit more intensely? Birthday I can understand somewhat anniversary sure maybe a special date night but v day? Really? And Easter, Halloween and Christmas? Pointless consumerism

[Nikki1989]

No, he never forgets.

[OfMiceandMen]

That's awesome, and I am sure you appreciate it!

[Mamasanma]

They were forgetful. I didn't care

[OfMiceandMen]

They should at least remember the day you met them. The rest isn't as important.