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Do You Need To Train Your Partner Not To Cheat?
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This is such a great question.
I've had to think about it several different ways.
The short answer is no.
First, if you're having to train them, they've already cheated. Not sure those are the sort of goods one wants.
Second, training (and the words in the message image you provided) means practice and dealing with the bad behavior. What's enough and too much and who defines that.
Finally, it means there are fundamental, foundational flaws in the relationship that the cheater needs/wants to cheat. I don't accept the premise that cheating is instinctual. It's a choice. Yes, there's a gazillion reasons (not excuses) for cheating, but they're all choices. Conscious choices.
But, yes, I've said here before on GaG that relationships can survive (and perhaps thrive) despite cheating. But that's a one time thing (I believe) with a MASSIVE amount of time, counseling, and hard work. It's not like litter training a cat or teaching a dog not bark or something.
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I think you can't train your partner not to cheat I'd rather say that if a person tried that he or would just make cheating more likely not less. I think the main reason people cheat is because they either don't feel loved or acknowledged or they put their sexual pleasure on a pedestal.
If at best people should help each other not to cheat by finding ways to make the relationship deeper and stronger.
If a man or woman looks at a significant other and even thinks about training them then that means they look at them as being on the same level as a pet. They don't view the other person with any respect at all. They are also placing themselves in a position of power over the other person and see themselves as being like an owner of the other person. They think they are better than their significant other. Here's just an overall good lesson in life.
Don't hangout with anyone that views you as being beneath them. Those people are normally insecure themselves and are looking for someone to control.
- 350 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
He can be trained in other ways, but cheating is something he should know on his own.
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- 494 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
No. That's absurd. Whoever wrote that has some really messed-up views. I wouldn't take any advice about relationships from that person. They don't know what they're talking about.
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One can not be Spouse and Mother.
- 676 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
If you have to train someone to not cheat, they're not worth being around, much less worth dating. If a person wants to cheat, they'll do it regardless of whatever "training" you give them. Cheating is always the fault of the cheater, not the partner who got cheated on.
Any decent person with send respect, respect for the relationship and care for their partner know not to cheat. - 2.9K opinions shared on Relationships topic.
I believe that boundaries and expectations need to be established and maintained, but I don't think you need to "train" your partner not to cheat. There's a difference.
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You can't change people when it comes to relationships.
- 3.7K opinions shared on Relationships topic.
Well you cannot train anyone not to cheat on their partner. They are either loyal and devoted or they are not.
You cannot train these things. - 3.5K opinions shared on Relationships topic.
If the relationship gets that far they should come rained right out of the box.
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To be fair some people are pets… but that’s a different type of training.
- 380 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
That’d take away all the charm in a relationship. Adjusting life choices is a different thing but loyalty is something that comes from within.
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Nope cheating is something that people should just know not to do at all
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No, you don't. You need to choose a better person that has integrity.
- 1.1K opinions shared on Relationships topic.
If you need to be conditioned not to cheat; you are a terrible person and shouldn't be dating in the first place.
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You can't train anyone. It just doesn't work.
- 433 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
Nope. Cheaters will cheat irrespective of "training."
- 341 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
Lol @ the 4 trolls who voted the 2nd option
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No, just cheaters. It isn't a default by far.
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Cheaters cheat because they are cheaters.
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By not giving them a reason to.
- 510 opinions shared on Relationships topic.
Yeah, better build a kennel too
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I need to be trained
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