Do you mainly spend time with your partner along with other friends or one-on-one?

[Bethany22]

Maybe extraverted couples tend to spend more time together while in friend gatherings?

With other friends

One on one

[AmandaYVR]

I'd love a foursome of friends. But they're almost impossible to achieve. Always, always disparate feelings.

[Tstrbrainer]

Foursome as in foursome? 🤔

[AmandaYVR]

@Tstrbrainer lol No, I actually did mean just friends. I've never had more than one friend at a time who like each other equally, and it doesn't cause jealousy or private asides that cause trouble later.

I'm not interested in foursomes. For one thing, because I have zero sexual interest in women. And because the more you try to share, the more awkward it gets.

I did two threesomes back in my twenties, and I'm glad I did. Great, sort of fascinating experiences for me. (MMF) They were very good friends with each other. (This is two separate situations.) I was also friends with them, but didn't know them as well as they knew each other. They were very close. One set, best friends. They do get complicated, though.
I've never had any desire to be involved in one with my husband. That's an entirely different type of relationship.

[Tstrbrainer]

Cool.
I don't know, I never really had a hard finding friends who share same interests.

By the way, maybe you should write about that mmf as a story someday

[AmandaYVR]

@Tstrbrainer I can navigate one-on-one relationships pretty easily. I just have never found that anymore than two is simple. Someone always has hurt feelings, or feels more left out, or just plain doesn't like another. They're tolerating them, at best, for the sake of the group.

Yeah, I suppose I should.
Do you think I should write them with all the emotional messiness that was also a part of them, or should they be more straightforward and just hot sex, that's about it?

[Tstrbrainer]

Question, were your friend groups female only or mixed? Workplace or school?
Mine were usually boys only and it was fine and we were not in a professional setting

[Tstrbrainer]

If it's just hot sex, I'll be able to enjoy it.
But if you also add the emotional details I'll be able to learn from your experience as well as enjoy it.

[AmandaYVR]

@Tstrbrainer When I was in my 20s it was just girl friends.
As an adult, mixed.
In the workplace, I think it's not as relevant, because people are friends based more on the proximity principle. Each two people are colleagues, and potentially also friends/friendly. But there is work that binds them together, regardless of how the group interacts.
As an adult, when any group of people is together, I always feel the differences, disparities in feelings, the side looks, etc., which show how people feel about each other.
Take two couples getting together as friends... nope, never had a good situation with that, either. Some are closer. Others don't like it.
I may have had bad luck. It works for some. But my entire life, it's more of a headache than it's worth, in my experience. It disbands mighty quick.
I also think that if a couple spends a ton of time together, the last thing they need is more time together. They benefit from some separate experiences. So going off to be with a friend, just the two of them, can be a good and beneficial thing. Unless that friend does not support the relationship of the other. Then they can be extremely destructive. It takes a strong and independent-thinking person to not be influenced by that friend's opinions of their relationship.

[Tstrbrainer]

Maybe I was lucky, differences happened between us when we were children, but as I grew up, friends were more cool with each other, at least that's what I know.
And they were quite ready to sacrifice for the other

[DeeDeeDeVour]

We're both very outgoing & engaging but we make it a point to have frequent one-on-one time with each other.

[Guy13]

The time with my partner is always one-one as I want her to know she is priority and what makes my world go around.

This is the only reason I stop by the Trader Joe's for flowers... So she knows that I miss, Value, and long for time by ourselves.

[SteveSmith1985]

One-on-one for sure! (that's... when the actual relationship happens).

I'm an extrovert, I used to be a party-animal too. So while I'm sure I DID end up spending more time with my girlfriend in a group setting than someone who was introverted... it's still going to be a tiny tiny fraction of the overall amount of time I'm spending with her. 98% of the time... it's one-on-one for sure.

[SecretsofKB]

I live with my partner so we end of spending most of our time together one-on-one by default.

We do tend to hangout with friends together though too, unless it's work friends or something like that.

[AviatorTom]

Mostly one-on-one, less often with other friends.

[FunkyMonkee]

When I had someone, I spent most of my time with her. In a way, we were like John & Yoko. But, we never had any problems with being away from each other for hours on end. Weekdays, she'd spend her days studying in the library and I'd eventually go over to hang with her and, after about an hour, she'd be so excited that I was there she couldn't study anymore so, we'd go out for a walk or to sit in the sun for a while. On weekends, she had to go to work as a waitress for the dinner rush at a fairly high class restaurant so, we'd get on the bus and ride over there. I'd walk her into work, maybe hang a few minutes until she was dressed and ready to work, then go catch another bus to my parent's house where I'd spend the next several hours recording, eating dinner and doing whatever it was I'd do there until it was time for her shift to end when, I'd get back on a bus to Brandy's, get there and wait for her to finish working, at which point, we'd grab another bus and either spend the night at my parents' or go back to her place.

[Lliam]

I spent most of my time with my group of friends when I was in high school, even though I always had a girlfriend. But that kind of thing disappeared once I had a really good job.
So I voted 'B'. I spend most of my time with my wife and only hang out with groups of people if there is some kind of party or gathering. And most of the gatherings ceased when the pandemic hysteria hit because most of my friends turned out to be dip shits.

[StormChaser838]

usually its always been with others, of cause anyone of the crowd can take their detours. However, many times me included, we have done the nasty to claps. I can't understand why people clap? why?

[TenderFantasy]

One on one. What's the point of "special time" if we are going to spend it with other people? ! Where's the PRIVACY? !

🙂

[Anonymous]

usually always one-on-one although i'd like to bring friends along sometimes, but not always because the time we spend together has a bit of a limit.

[petitedollbabee]

We live together and we’re both introverted, so mostly one on one.

[weysally]

spend a lot of time with husband, and have time with friends,

[Nikki1989]

Alone with my husband during the week. With friends on the weekends.

[Luffy1990]

more if one on one , but I would occasionally have her over with other friends

[AnusNdaPainus]

A lot times we don’t even talk we just like to be together

[exitseven]

we do not entertain excepth for our kids.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

I'd rather do one on one.

[LemiaOfThunder]

I try to mix it when i can

[Jennz6]

Mostly girlfriends

[peedy]

No I spend my time alone

[shortster]

I prefer one on one.