My friend lost my watch that my ex fiance bought for me, I am really upset?

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So, my friend lives with me before she figures out her life. I work 3 jobs everyday from 9 to 9 and I have no time for taking care of my apartment daily, I just go there to have a shower and sleep.

She stays there all day since she doesn’t work and she cleans up all the mess all the time, which I never ask but I am extremely thankful for.

The last day when we returned I was wearing an apple watch that my ex fiance bought for me, I was sleepy I took it off and put it in the shopping bag next to my clothes thinking I would take things out the following day.

Next day she decided to clean, took out my clothes from the shopping bag and threw the rest away.

She couldn’t see obviously but I am really upset about this, cause it was something my ex fiance gave me and it meant a lot to me.

I can buy a new one if I wanted but I loved that one cause it was special for me.

I feel really angry and upset. For me it was a precious object because someone who I loved gave it to me.

I would rather her not clean anything at all if she’s going to lose my things.

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Well… We had an amazing evening yesterday but fast forward today, I feel like I am not the one to live with someone, now I am annoyed because she posts TikTok videos and didn’t even ask me, I just saw her video - She’s wearing the towel robe that my boyfriend used to wear and I didn’t wear it because it still smelled like him and I didn’t want the scent to wear off.

Is it just me or would you be annoyed as well?

Juneberry91 · Accepted Answer

It’s alright to be angry & upset, and it’s appropriate to communicate to your friend who is trying to be helpful to you as your helping her with your place. Scratching each other’s back.

This Is the perfect opportunity for you to step forward and talk to her on what happened. Open up and tell her that you were grateful that she cleans in organizes making a place feeling fresh when you had a loooong day. Then tell her what has happen & come up with boundaries of things she is not allowed to touch. Or to leave your room alone period.

Thie will not bring watch back but it will set the tone for nothing like this to happen again. I’m sorry it’s gone, I’m sure she will feel horrible about it but it’s important she is aware of it.
What you do with your belongings is your business And I’ve learned this myself to not put any precious things in places where is swept, Can fall down the drain or In a bag we can easily be thrown away. I have a special box on my nightstand that has precious belongings are jewelry that can’t be This place or tampered with. I cook in the kitchen I make a special trip to put it in this box. There one place And it is sacred!

good luck on that talk don’t forget get she was trying to help but add this boundaries in :) or you will container to grow Resentful to the point where you need to boot her out.

dynamicyandere · Accepted Answer

That’s understandable. I’d be upset too. I value sentimental things much more than expensive things.

And having someone throw them away without asking you can be really upsetting. I remember someone I lived with who threw away letters that were actually from good friends of mine, letters I kept for years because their words meant something to me. Discovering that they got thrown out really upset me. It made my heart sink. It both angered and saddened me.

And I’m sure, you feel something like that, and properly even to a greater extent, since he was your ex fiancé.

But what’s done is done… And you’re right. You have been through worse, and you can let this go.

I know you’re strong and can move on from this. You can accept what’s done is done, and focus on your future that you’re working hard towards.

3 jobs and 12-hour days is a lot. You must be really driven to reach a goal. I’m sure you’ll get there. You got this. 💪

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

There's nothing we can do about it now, but I know sometimes about it and getting our emotions out helps. So I'm just leaving a comment here letting you know I hear you and I can understand how that is frustrating.

noohair · Answer

It is a thing. If a thief took it you still have no watch. This is a typical women's response. When they are digging the hole at the end, things don't matter. Relationships matter. She did not do it on purpose.

Mangospacho · Answer

Are you more upset about losing the fiancée? Or losing the watch?

PointTaken · Answer

That sucks. Sounds like you still love your ex. Maybe the watch will turn up.

Marked_Man · Answer

Hopefully it got misplaced and not thrown out.

msc545 · Answer

Sometimes things don't go the way we want them to. It's a bitter pill to swallow, but I think you're going to have to just decide to put up with this.

Anonymous · Answer

Relaxed babe pm me your address i will send you new apple watch 😘😘

EaterPeter · Answer

Sorry to hear that. My partners have also done that

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

Have you talked to her about it yet

My friend lost my watch that my ex fiance bought for me, I am really upset?

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