So, my friend lives with me before she figures out her life. I work 3 jobs everyday from 9 to 9 and I have no time for taking care of my apartment daily, I just go there to have a shower and sleep.
She stays there all day since she doesn’t work and she cleans up all the mess all the time, which I never ask but I am extremely thankful for.
The last day when we returned I was wearing an apple watch that my ex fiance bought for me, I was sleepy I took it off and put it in the shopping bag next to my clothes thinking I would take things out the following day.
Next day she decided to clean, took out my clothes from the shopping bag and threw the rest away.
She couldn’t see obviously but I am really upset about this, cause it was something my ex fiance gave me and it meant a lot to me.
I can buy a new one if I wanted but I loved that one cause it was special for me.
I feel really angry and upset. For me it was a precious object because someone who I loved gave it to me.
I would rather her not clean anything at all if she’s going to lose my things.
Is it just me or would you be annoyed as well?
It’s alright to be angry & upset, and it’s appropriate to communicate to your friend who is trying to be helpful to you as your helping her with your place. Scratching each other’s back.
This Is the perfect opportunity for you to step forward and talk to her on what happened. Open up and tell her that you were grateful that she cleans in organizes making a place feeling fresh when you had a loooong day. Then tell her what has happen & come up with boundaries of things she is not allowed to touch. Or to leave your room alone period.
Thie will not bring watch back but it will set the tone for nothing like this to happen again. I’m sorry it’s gone, I’m sure she will feel horrible about it but it’s important she is aware of it.
What you do with your belongings is your business And I’ve learned this myself to not put any precious things in places where is swept, Can fall down the drain or In a bag we can easily be thrown away. I have a special box on my nightstand that has precious belongings are jewelry that can’t be This place or tampered with. I cook in the kitchen I make a special trip to put it in this box. There one place And it is sacred!
good luck on that talk don’t forget get she was trying to help but add this boundaries in :) or you will container to grow Resentful to the point where you need to boot her out.