I regret what I did, but at the same time I believe that long distance relationship seems like an open relationship.
What do you think that I slept with someone else in a long distance relationship?
This is really simple. Is a long distance relationship one that SHE thinks is an open one?
If not, then you're just 100% full-of-shit. It doesn't matter what it seems like to you. It matters what you've led her to believe this was. If she would feel betrayed, you cheated. The long-distance nature of your commitment to this girl isn't what matters. It's the commitment to this girl period.
You've acted like a scumbag. You don't feel badly enough. Not nearly. You're CONTINUING to be a scumbag by trying to justify your cheating. That's horseshit.
You need to tell your girl you cheated. Don't try and give her any of this "long distance relationship seems like an open relationship" nonsense. It does not help anything. It just makes you look like even more of a scumbag.
You're in denial about what you've done. What are you talking about you "feel bad?" Get outta here with that man. If you felt bad you could never have asked this question... like it was possibly a valid thing for your long-distance relationship to suddenly seem like an open relationship... to only you... behind your girlfriend's back.
... smh...
u "long distance relationship seems like an open relationship." That's what YOU think, or at east it's what you say now to justify being a cheater. Did your partner agree to have an open relationship? Did you ever discuss it with her? Or did she expct you to be faithful to her?
@fisher HOW is a long distance relationship an "open" relationship?
A long distance relationship is NO DIFFERENT than a normal relationship and that means unless you and your partner AGREED it's an open relationship then guess what, it is NOT and it NEVER was an open relationship.
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"What do you think that I slept with someone else in a long distance relationship?"
You cheated = you're a douchebag.
And the worse thing is, is you're trying to excuse your cheating by saying it was a long distance relationship instead of "manning up" and admitting that you were in the wrong. So you DON'T regret behavior, you are just saying you do... actions say you don't care
Does your partner know it's open relationship? No? Congrats, you're a certified douche.
As for long distance relationships... If you can't last without physical intimacy, stop wasting their time and break up. You're doing no one favours.
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That means that anyone that dates a man in the military, the moment they are deployed, their woman can sleep with anyone and that should be perfectly acceptable.
And the soldier at war can knock women up overseas while his woman is waiting for him at home?
No. That’s not okay.
Long distance does not mean open relationship, no matter what you feel.
When it comes to open relationships, that arrangement needs to be 100% openly communicated. Otherwise, don’t be surprised if it ends your relationship.
I've been involved with my boyfriend for the last 3 years. He occasionally has to live the USA to go back to Egypt at 2 to 6 month intervals to help his grandparent.
We've never cheated. Why? Because we were raised to RESPECT ourselves & others.
That's the problem with cheaters. They don't respect themselves - it's why they cheat, they're not "man enough" or "woman enough" to just say there's a problem - and they sure as hell don't respect others.
You're a prime example of this.
If you were a decent respectable person after all who respected your girlfriend you'd have addressed the sexual relations issue a LONG time ago. Just simply say - hey girlfriend we might meet physically every 5 months, how do we deal with the sexual.
Instead you cheat AND have the gale of saying long-distance = open relationship without ANY consideration for your girlfriend or ANYONE else.
I'm going to be blunt, you're trying to play the victim none of us give a fuck if you feel guilty or bad because you deserve it. Your actions show that you truly do not care about this person. Now it's time for you to man the fuck up and tell her what you did. Don't ever try to play the victim here saying oh you feel bad and try to play it off as an open relationship. You know exactly what you did and I'm glad that you have to live with it people like you are a Cancer. People like you is why the rest of us get called pigs even though you are quite literally that when I look in the dictionary your profile picture pops up shame on you. Congratulations on your selfish desires because you must be absolutely phenomenal at fucking with people mentally go to therapy.
Ha ha, a long-distance relationship is an open relationship for you what a joke. You have to discuss this with your partner first that this is your point of view to a this. Long-distance relationships are not open relationships. If Long distance relationship is a chance for you to sleep with another person then you have to talk to your partner without hiding anything. Mutual understanding, trust and loyalty is the pillar of any healthy relationship. Figure it out with your partner. As you mentioned above that sleeping with another person might be a red flag for your partner so clear things out and please don't make your relationship a community project. Talk listen talk that's how it works. Bye
It's not about what it "seems like". It's about what the other person in the relationship believes & that is reasonable. If you really thought it was an open relationship then you would not have hidden anything and even told the other person what you were going to do before you did it.
Nope you cheated and messed up big time.
A relationship is only open if both partners discussed it and agreed to it.
A long distance relationship doesn't automatically become open. That's just your weak attempt to free yourself from guilt. What you did was despicable and if you have any shred of self respect, integrity and care for your partner, you will be honest with them about what you did.
if your asking that question here you need to ask that to her in-person to understand what your in & conditions. it would be irresponsible to give yourself a hall pass because of distance Without clarifying with your partner
I think you should tell your significant other that you cheated. A long distance relationship does not automatically mean open, you can only open a relationship through a conversation and agreement.
a bird in the hand is worth two in the bush.
so you feel shame, ok fine. might as well accept LDR doesn't work and stick with the local one and be honest. You don't have to spill your guts, just end it respectfully and move on.
No, long distance relationships does not automatically indicate that it is an open relationship.
It is simply that you assumed it is. I would say you confess what you did and then break up.
Long distance relationships suck, but they aren't open by default unless you've both talked about and accepted that beforehand, which it sounds like you haven't. It seems like you're coping with cheating on her by convincing yourself it was an open relationship. Do her a favor and break things off in a civil manner so she doesn't waste more time.
Did your girlfriend agree to an open relationship? If not, then you cheated. Spare her the inevitable heartbreak that you're going to cause her and end the relationship.
If you regret it then it clearly was a bad idea. You have already destroyed your relationship so may as well end it and get with the girl you slept with
A LDR isn’t an open relationship, and you aren’t free to do what you want. Clearly you didn’t think enough of your partner to go behind her back.
Even a long-distance relationship cannot be assumed to be open in this way. It depends on what you agreed with your partner.
YOU may think it is but I have feeling your partner didn’t consent to an open relationship. So, in this case, you cheated.
If you wanted an open relationship, you should’ve said so sooner. That doesn’t automatically make it an open relationship.
i think ldr just isn't for you. you should "break" things off. I don't know if you two even met before. another fact that ldr never works out.
It is cheating. Unless otherwise known to the other party that things are going to be open then it is cheating. What you did could potentially end you guys relationship. Be prepared for a break up.
If you were in a formal relationship and you didn’t actually talk about opening things up, you aren’t actually in an open relationship.
If you discussed being "in a relationship" unless you verbally added the "open" she likely assumes it is exclusive, because you did not indicate otherwise.
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