Should we normalize separate bedrooms for couples? Why or why not?

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crossdressingrihno · Accepted Answer

Personally I think the most optimal solution is to have a guest bedroom.

Sleeping alone has the benefit of comfortability but lacks the intimacy.

Sleeping together brings the intimacy any long lasting relationship needs but isn’t always a good option.

The solution is to have a guest bedroom so you have the option to sleep alongside your significant other or alone will let you get the sleep you need when you need it while also letting you cuddle up with your partner when you just need to be around them.

gorydetails · Accepted Answer

An adult woman using stupid filters isn't the type of person whose opinion on anything I would consider.

DaveJord · Answer

No studies shown that people that sleep together have significantly better relationships and emotional bonds with each other.

www.leesa.com/.../benefits-of-sharing-a-bed-with-someone

I dated a woman that claimed she had a sleep disorder... and she would not sleep with me. Seriously we had sex and then we would cuddle for like 5 to 10 minutes and then she would want me to go to the couch, because she was an extremely light sleeper. She claimed to have insomnia... I guess maybe she did or could of. But she was also a very uncaring and centered person.

AviatorTom · Answer

My SO says I snore too much, so she sleeps in her room and I sleep in mine. Occasionally, we get together, typically in my room, for fun and games.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

What is normal about it? If people want to do that, it's their business, and I don't care. But don't tell me that I must call it "normal" so their feelings don't get hurt!

Apple1996 · Answer

Nah that's just sad. They might as well get divorced if they can't stand sleeping together

Summeroflove · Answer

I don’t think it matters. It’s whatever they want to do

RangerBlue22 · Answer

We don’t have to “normalize” anything. There are too many people in our culture (almost always from a specific political leaning) who make it their entire life mission to “normalize” society to their very biased viewpoints which are constantly in flux.

Anyway I have no problem having a separate bedroom for a spouse. I remember it being hell on earth sharing beds with a few of my ex gfs. One would always murmur weird crap in her sleep and often flail around. One time she back elbowed me hard right in the face. I often dreaded having to share a bed with her.

On top of that many women like to cuddle when they fall asleep on my chest. That’s cute and all but I have high body heat (not overweight but I have a high metabolism rate). I often have to find a cold spot on my pillow to lay my head on. I often overheated and in comfortable if I have to share a bed with a girl

Also both men and women can both snore. If I’m snoring I don’t want to make it difficult for my girlfriend/wife. If she’s snoring it’s not embarrassing for her and frustrating to me I’m a light sleeper.

So all in all I leave it with this. Have a big bed to share but also have separate bed if someone really isn’t feeling it and/or just needs a guaranteed good night’s sleep. Just talk to out and have your partner realize it’s not personal. Nothing wrong with that time to time.

Finchie40 · Answer

No, if you need separate rooms from your partner then your relationship is pretty much over, you my as well just be roommates , and live your separate selfish lives , my ex wife started to tell me she wanted separate rooms from me so she stopped coming to bed with me to find out she was cheating on me , so if a girl tells me she wants separate rooms she is best to just pack her shit and go , if someone really loves you they wouldn’t want to be away from you they would rather feel safe and secure beside you , I will not commit
To a girl that needs space from me , she would be a waste of time

AaronKrieger · Answer

Sure, cuddling can be uncomfortable for sleeping and you don't have to sleep in each other's beds. It's all based on what you both want in a relationship.

My grandparents used to have split rooms because my grandmother couldn't sleep due to how loud my grandfather snored. Sounds like a white lie to a kid, but the men in my father's side of the family fucking snore LOUD. I remember my dad falling asleep in my bedroom as a kid was a death sentence, since I'd be awake till 2/3 am with George Lopez playing on the CRT TV

MaddyAsks · Answer

Um no thank you. I want to sleep with my husband no matter what. Most things can be solved with a split bed these days. Thanks but no thanks. We are married now, we share everything.

petitedollbabee · Answer

Hell yes! Me and my partner have separate bedrooms and we love it. It means that we both can have beds that we find most comfortable, he enjoys a hard bed while I enjoy a soft bed, and we can both sleep soundly.. I can’t sleep with noise and he snores a lot. Plus, we can have little sleepovers occasionally, which feels great. And we also get our own spaces to decorate and we don’t have to have one bedroom with everything cluttering the space.

ShellyB · Answer

I think people should do what they prefer but for me, I would hate this except maybe temporarily for some special reason like recovering from something medical related. I am way more nervous when alone at night and somebody elsewhere in the house is OK but I would really rather he were in the same room. JMO!

smashleyy · Answer

to each their own. If it’s a positive for certain couples I don’t see why not. Although I feel very strongly that not slipping into codependency and keeping your individuality is crucial for a healthy long lasting relationship I think separate bedrooms takes it to a whole different level😂. It’s not a lifestyle I’d personally care to participate in cause sleeping together is one of my favourite simple forms of intimacy

The_Shadow_Dweller · Answer

People are getting wayy too much influenced due to the content on the internet. It is just like sheep. I think we should just let go of this topic as it is a very subjective matter.

It may not only depend on the person, but may also depend on the situation at hand. That's why.

Mangospacho · Answer

Why does it seem like this tiktoker “normalizing” is actually “demanding” people do this? Otherwise, it’s just couples doing whatever they want to do for their relationships. Nobody is forcing her to sleep in the same room but I have a feeling she told someone in real life what she and her partner do and they thought it was weird.

Rockstarrrrr · Answer

Well, some people just don't like sharing a bed with anyone even their s. o... It can be intimacy issues or whatever reasons but it's just who they are... Now, if the other person is " normal " and not like that... Which one of them should compromise? I think it's the one who wants to sleep in a separate bed because relationships are all bout intimacy... You can't just take that from babe lol

Legendarylegacy13 · Answer

I say yes because certain people need more alone time then others. Also I think a couple should do what ever they have to. To make it. And I think that having your own private space especially when things get tense would relieve tension early and easier

TrueConfection · Answer

My husband wakes me up with his snoring. Oh well. For better or for worse. I want a husband, not a roommate.

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

There's pros and cons to everything. Some couples sleep separate due to different sleeping routines and patterns.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I keep weird hours with my job, so coming home and hopping in a different bed has been the norm for me as I don't want to wake her. If she does not sleep well because of me, I suffer the next day. 😂

ObscuredBeyond · Answer

A room divider and some modularized beds that can fuse into one or split. Options like that could resolve quite a few issues. Social and health issues are what they are, but smarter engineering can buy time.

electromagnetic · Answer

I think many people already do that but that’s something sorta personal and private. I don’t think everyone needs to know that a couple has different sleep rooms.

Sasha0426 · Answer

We should. Especially, if one of you snores or tosses around too much. That way both of you get your sleep and you won’t be at each other’s throats the next morning.

DizzyDesii · Answer

I hate sharing a bed so i wouldn't be against it but im not gonna encourage it either

Justmeagain1 · Answer

It makes me sad for anyone that would need a separate room to their partner. Normalising disconnection isn’t ideal , but sometimes there may be a need for it. I have separate room and I hate it.

TheeTrybrid · Answer

I mean if it works for them  Personally I agree because I like privacy to be by myself at a certain point of the day. Doesn't mean I'm hiding something , it means I just like me time

loveslongnails · Answer

Let's make a big deal out of a personal choice, shall we? "Society" doesn't give a shit where or how you choose to sleep, or not sleep, with your partner!!! If it's normal for YOU, it's normal.

Astarlessnightsky · Answer

If you want it, there is nothing wrong with it, i and my girlfriend would not sleep in separate bedrooms.

Anemone978 · Answer

Nah when I wanted my own room it was cuz I didn't like him anymore, I don't think it is a good thing..

exitseven · Answer

My wife likes to keep the bedroom like a meat locker. It is usually 50 degrees in the winter. I really hate it. I sometimes think I should sleep in a room with heat

Pudsmucker · Answer

As you get older as a couple it's probably wise to have your separate rooms. You both get awfully cranky and don't want to be bothered by anybody. You can go to sleep whenever you want without being interrupted.

Exterminatore · Answer

Hell yeah! Sick of my wife stealing the covers at night. She can have her own bed and room.

sage2021 · Answer

The only reason I am for separate bedrooms is so I can get some sleep 😴💤. He snores sooooo loud.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Sleeping alone wouldn't work for me.

Kylie_M · Answer

I don't know much regarding relationships however I think that if couples want to sleep in separate bedrooms that's their choice and it shouldn't be stigmatized.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I can see reasons. One is an early bird, the other a night owl. One is a light sleeper the other snores loudly.

Reorx · Answer

There's no way that would work for me. I want to hold / caress my girl before I show her a night & possibly the next day of her life. She wants to deprive herself of that experience & my mink glove rub down after I'll find someone else more willing:)

Jerre · Answer

My cock is big, but not big enough to reach into another room

asphaltrhymes · Answer

Not really. I don't see the point? How else can couples then sleep together or get "it" on 😈😋

Adam1978 · Answer

I would say no unless one is a heavy snorer and that's their only fault.

SAMI_DABBAB · Answer

No because I can't imagine something else it would feel like roommates

Zodiac10 · Answer

If one of the individuals worked night shift it would be reasonable to me. There are other reasons im sure but that one sticks out to me. It's whatever the couple wants not what anyone else wants.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes why not?  Many times couples need to sleep separately. There is nothing wrong with that. Everyone needs space.

Juxtapose · Answer

I'm with a woman to be her lover, not a convenience or a friend who is occasionally a lover. She should want me by her side.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

Separate bedrooms? For real 🤣 In this case, it's better that they separate completely...

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Sleeping in different rooms for 2 to 3 straight days I think its good.  Sometimes you just desperately need alone space to recover mentally and emotionally.

Nelaary · Answer

For me personally i like to feel close to the person I love so it's a no for me

Mr1derful · Answer

No. If it gets to that point we might as well divorce.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

It should be normalised if the relationship is going well but if it's not, it's a sign of problems.

lightbulb27 · Answer

No. Occasional is ok as sleep is essential and we sometimes have issues to work through. But when the dog or cat moves in, it's roomates, the end is near.

soe11 · Answer

Yes for temporary basis, as soon as get closer one another than go to sleep in one bed.

Greenbean27 · Answer

Yes sleeping in someone else's space, the fight over covers, one person waking g up can wake the other. I'm in the separate beds crew.

Paul09 · Answer

Sounds good to me. If that is what is needed. Sleep is extremely important. Sleeping alone usually the best method for that.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

I don't see anything wrong with that. Everyone needs their personal space from time to time.

Likes2drive · Answer

Only if they snore or always moving in their sleep and steal the covers

zagor · Answer

A whole lot of older couples I know have already done that.

motownplayer2000 · Answer

Yeah. Go ahead and do that and see how long you stay a couple. Lol

PointTaken · Answer

No way. Why would someone not want to be sleeping next to their partner?

shades777 · Answer

I'm guessing you don't enjoy a good snore or surprise fart

Guardian45 · Answer

I prefer same bed/bedroom, but I know some people who need separate beds.

rosemilk · Answer

YES. i can't sleep with snoring.

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