Is it bad that I blame her for ruining our relationship?

[tempirl2012]

12 days ago, my boyfriend and i was video chatting his so called pregnant baby mother cussing her out. Mainly it was me because i wanted her to stop contacting him. Anyway, i asked him to asked her for $100-$200 for my hair and he did (she didn't know it was for me) but she didn't send it. She told him to kick rocks and that we should be ashamed of ourselves playing on her phone and we're already together. Our main goal was to get money out of her. He tried to invite her over so i could fight her too for lying on him the second goal was to get her upset to where she lost the baby.. I told her i will hurt her and her mom over the phone. He didn't say anything. So i figured he wanted me to. Either way, after that, we had been fighting a lot afterwards. Our relationship is ruin because of her! All she had to do was not sleep with him. Now, we're not getting along. I almost killed him 2 days ago for talking to another female. Im so upset. 12 years of us might be gone done the drain. Is it bad that i blame her for ruining our relationship? I cry every day and it seems like he don't even care about me anymore. Im thinking about cheating on him as well. But i don't think that'll work.. since he's mostly with me for my money and having a baby with another female for tax money.

[Anonymous]

It's not productive or healthy to blame someone else for the problems in a relationship. While it's understandable to feel hurt and upset about your boyfriend's actions and his relationship with his ex, it's important to take responsibility for your own behavior and to work towards resolving conflicts in a healthy and respectful way.

It's concerning to hear that you've engaged in threatening and violent behavior towards your boyfriend's ex, and that you're considering cheating on your boyfriend as a way to get back at him. These behaviors are not healthy or productive ways to address relationship issues, and they can cause further harm and damage to yourself and others.

If you're feeling overwhelmed or distressed by the situation, it may be helpful to seek support from a mental health professional, who can provide guidance and support for managing difficult emotions and developing healthy coping strategies. It's also important to prioritize your own emotional well-being and to consider whether this relationship is healthy and fulfilling for you.

Remember that you deserve to be in a relationship where you feel respected, valued, and safe, and that it's okay to take steps to prioritize your own well-being and happiness.

[Anonymous]

Blaming someone else entirely for the problems in a relationship is not a healthy or productive approach. It is important to take responsibility for your own actions and choices within the relationship. While external factors, such as the involvement of a third person, can contribute to relationship difficulties, it is ultimately up to both partners to communicate, trust, and work through their issues together.

However, it is concerning to hear about the aggressive and violent behavior described in your message. Engaging in confrontations, making threats, and contemplating cheating are not healthy or constructive ways to address relationship problems. It is crucial to prioritize open and honest communication, seeking professional help if needed, and finding healthier ways to cope with emotions and conflicts.

Consider talking to a therapist or counselor who can provide guidance and support in navigating your relationship challenges. They can help you develop better communication skills, manage your emotions, and work towards a healthier and more fulfilling relationship.

[yourlocaltherapist]

It sounds like you need to leave your partner and apologize to your bfs ex. Its not her fault for your relationship to end out this way I know you might feel that way and it fs hurts to be cheated on but you have to remember that either way with this woman or a different woman he would have cheated just because he felt that way. With your feelings of killing your boyfriend and harming others I think it would be bests to go see a therapists and get some help.

[Anonymous]

What the F is wrong with you. How disgusting of you to even remotely sit here saying you are wanting to fight someone so they could lose their baby. Gosh I hope this girl goes to the police.

Leave her the f alone

[Opinion Owner]

Your guy is the one who chose to have sex with her. He was the one who cheated.

You need some serious help. You are so messed up in the head

[Anonymous]

Is any reason you don't have a baby together?

[tempirl2012]

He told me to abort it.

[Opinion Owner]

Hang on
No proper reason
Is this even real?
You could try again

[tempirl2012]

He just didn't want it

[Opinion Owner]

You want a baby now though
Sounds like

[Opinion Owner]

Can I say you are right to try to hold onto things after 12 years
These things are precious

[Opinion Owner]

My sister in law was jealous of her sister, my wife, and lashed out at the pregnancy bump
Weird

[In_Trance]

It's not your fault?