Is it ever acceptable to stay in a relationship because you’re scared you can’t financially support yourself?

Question

Like my girlfriend frequently talks about breaking up but ultimately doesn’t want to cause she’s scared she can’t financially support herself

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

I'm bisexual I guess but I would consider myself more on the Hetrosexual spectrum. When I'm dating a person I don't really need another of the opposite gender. Although I will say that all of the guys I've dated including my current guy is OK with me sleeping with other women as long as i tell them about it, or they can watch or even get involved. I've actually no real intrest in sleeping with other women. My current guy for instance last week he was super horny and I wasn't really but I wanted him to finish super quick so I start telling him about the time I had sex with that girl at the gym he's always checking out and how I f*cked with a 12inch strapon (more like 5 inches) and I swear he finished within 2 minutes of thrusting, men are so much easier than women. I've also let him watch me with another girl and had threesomes with other girls but to be honest though I enjoyed them it's really only for him, I'd rather we only had sex together.

beautifulgirl192023 · Accepted Answer

i think it is not acceptable to stay in a relationship because you want to be financially stable because that is not love that means that she is just interested in money and that is not okay because if your in a relationship you love that person the she should not care about money but if there is really a need for a money then both in the relationship should talk but it is best to only stay if you both really love each other and leave if she wants only money but if she has a need then ask what she needs the money.

TomMarks · Accepted Answer

That’s the worst thing to do, you’re just using some one for money. Not only are you basically stealing from them but setting them up for failure in possibly two ways. The pain they will feel when you do ultimately move on, also, they could totally miss out on their future if the right person for them comes along and they turn that person down cause of you.

Fireguy17 · Accepted Answer

I know it happens, but then the burden of being in a relationship that will go nowhere falls on your shoulders, and you cannot move on to find someone that actually wants you for you.
I would not like to be in that kind of relationship, you end up being two people in the same house and you are the wallet.
Not fun.

Pinay_ako · Answer

That’s unacceptable and toxic… leave because you’re not happy with me anymore but don’t stay either coz you want to live rent free in my house or eat free food. Grow up.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

And you are okay with being her second choice and her staying so she can use your money?

PinkMichae · Answer

If your partner knows that you're in it for their financial support and they don't care, then it's acceptable. It won't last and you would be missing out on being in love. But if there isn't some sort of deception, and you both are happy, who am I to judge?

Haha456 · Answer

she can't support herself because she doesn't have an education. she doesn't have any valuable skills. there's a saying: "if you don't pay the price at school during childhood, you will pay for it in adulthood".

Anonymous · Answer

How did she ever let herself get in that predicament? Your girlfriend sounds lazy to me. It sounds like she wants to "show you" but not so bad that she actually wants to work.😆 Do you have any idea how many open jobs there are right now? If she ain't got a job it's because she don't want one. I'd call her bluff and get her some job applications. 😆😆😆

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I think you need to take the reigns on this one and ask her to leave. You're not doing her any favors and that type of situation is not favorable for you either. You are not her keeper.

Northernlight19 · Answer

A lot of unhappy couples remain together primarily, if not entirely, for economic reasons.

It's not an ideal situation but life is expensive and economic uncertainty is extremely intimidating.

That being, said one party actually saying that they would be gone if they could afford to do so is not acceptable.

Nikki1989 · Answer

People do that all the time. It is not healthy.

Anonymous · Answer

Why still be with her when she clearly doesn't want to be with you?

I mean now you know she's just staying with you for financial reasons, if you still want to be with her then get something out of the deal at least. Have her earn her keep, I mean does she cook, clean or have sex with you regularly?

Don't just let her have her way.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

Lots pf girls do that, but I have no idea how could I do that. I have always been financially independent.

Sour-rose · Answer

Suuuure it's acceptable. But ya know what's more acceptable? tellin the fker to fuk off, if they drown, they drown. :)

imawfulatusernames · Answer

Extremely toxic. If it’s like hey we’ve signed this tenancy together and neither can afford it so let’s rotate the couch for the rest of the time when you’re 16 that’s one thing. Any adult saying this is manipulative

jshm2 · Answer

That speaks more about your shitty taste than their behaviour. You're attracted to human leeches!

SeriouslyFunny00 · Answer

Oh gosh. Get a girl who will appreciate rare men like you.

inhua · Answer

must be soul crushing to know that her love for you is superficial

Peter_Penetrator · Answer

Depends on if you are in a healthy relationship. Maybe she needs some guidance from a mentor.

Texaskid1 · Answer

Sounds like a shitty relationship. It is like being in a job that you hate but you can't afford to leave.

serious_miss419 · Answer

Men used to pride themselves in supporting his woman, but now he complains. Ironic

shades777 · Answer

I'm sure she'll figure it out, very small amount of woman are homeless, there's always someone who will take care of her as a sleep in girlfriend or family or parents, not a luxury a man has

mommymommymommy · Answer

I don't want marriage or kids. Mostly because of that but, also because I just see no point in marriage or kids

KrakenAttackin · Answer

She's just waiting for the wealthier simp to come along. Dump her ass.

sadgirl0210 · Answer

It not acceptable because that means she using u for money

Janders · Answer

No, this is not normal. If your girlfriend says this, then toss her to hell. Straight up disgusting behavior. Your money is your money. It is not hers to complain about

Anonymous · Answer

Thats a good reason to stay with your parents, not with a significant other

Sasha0426 · Answer

And how is that your problem? If she doesn’t have a job, oh well 🤷‍♀️ Let her go.

Nominal · Answer

Help her. U kinda know her finances, and u can give a suggestion how to live in her own. If u want to break up, dont hesitate.

Alitator · Answer

So you're a sugar daddy, bro. How do you feel about that?

LazerBean · Answer

Yeah, that's really pathetic.

sheikalana · Answer

Not acceptable but very common.

LiamJHayden · Answer

I would find that unacceptable.

LimitedBenefits101 · Answer

Its very common amongst women

OddBeMe · Answer

Yeah move out of your parents house.

MyAltProf · Answer

No, you'll figure out how to make it

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