In relationships, does "damaged attract damaged" and "healthy attract healthy"? (Page 2)

LovingJo · 2023-05-10T00:14:46Z

I think everyone is a little bit "broken" in some way or another, and definitely some more than others. I think in my own experience I've not only seemed to attract broken men into my life, but it almost seems like I sought them out, on an unconscious level.. Like I want to try and "fix" them, or like I can help them, whilst they supposedly help me? But this isn't always the case, this can be a recipe for disaster.. 💯 You can help one another along, thinking because you're both hurting or that you're in similar, yet different predicaments that you're able to sympathise and hold each other close.. but if you're not healing yourself, or have gotten enough support for your own issues first.. Then how are you meant to support someone else to the best of your ability? 🤔 Like wise, when it comes to healthy relationships, does this mean that you are able to rely on this person when something DOES eventually go wrong, not knowing what to expect because you were in a good head space to begin with? 🤔

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BrookeS Follow
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I dont think that is true. I agree with you thay we are all a little broken but i never really like the word damaged. We attract people that find us interesting, they aren't always the same as us

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Yes. Simply because we can feel and empathize with each others trauma.

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Doesn't look that way, to me!! Look how many girls willfully get involved with abusive men! Most often, she's a healthy undamaged girl chasing after an unhealthy damaged man.

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  Hmm, don't agree, but continue
  
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exitseven Follow
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I had an uncle that was a cop. He used to say the sadists always find the masochists.

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Nope, lots and lots of " I can fix him / her " relationships...

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It's not true with me. I'm like you, I try fixing or helping people

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well im not damaged at all and my wife is as you would say damaged she has never been treated right by a guy before and I'm the first one to do it and she has had some experiences that would cause her to be "damaged"

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Me personally I love broken men for some reason, I'm not looking for them I just always fall for them. I always convince myself that I can help them or "fix" them when I can't even help myself lol

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I think it depends on the behavior they show when they meet the person

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No, I actually attract some pretty healthy people.

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YourExLover69 Follow
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I'd say poor, average or rich girl goes for rich/wealthy guy only. That's what I learnt from my past experiences

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Mansearching Follow
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Ehh... You can say that. But have seen normal every day people attract totally crazy people. Like, a person arguing with themselves and losing.

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Anonymous
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I would say healthy attract healthy and damaged attract damaged so much as healthy doesn't put up with damaged and damaged is to f***ed up to recognize healthy.

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  Lol.. 😄 Ok. Hence the anon.. So you don't get judged for your response?
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  Of course. 😉
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I don't attract anyone, and its better that way. I prefer to fix my damaged self.

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There is zero evidence to support that theory.

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Crazy attracts crazy because it feels familiar and exciting.

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Kinda yeah. Maybe not intentionally but yeah

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I think you're right.

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inhua Follow
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no. physical attraction =/= emotional attractive

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I attract narcissistic broken girls

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