I (25f) and my boyfriend (30m) went to a music concert a few nights ago, my favorite metal band was playing, this was my first music concert I've ever been to, and I was over the moon, when i found out this band was playing. i brought tickets straight away (next time im getting myself VIP tickets). i mentioned to my boyfriend that i was pretty upset we left, he said that we had to. I then tried to talk to him about how i was feeling in bed last night and he said "i dont care" and then went to sleep, i told him that next time they are back, im going by myself, im getting 1 vip ticket and booking a motel for 2, that way i can go to the concert by myself and he can go and do what he wants, he didn't know this band and didn't know any songs, so he stood in the corner the whole time bored out of his mind, he does this all the time, every time i want to do something with him, he gets bored and i have to leave early or go by myself, like a single person. its unfair, i thought that perhaps i am the ahole, cause i actually felt selfish about it all. I've even told him that i like to do stuff with him, but its impossible, cause he is like a little child that gets bored and wants to go home, all he really does when he is home, is sits on the computer, getting drunk and talking crap to his friends on discord.
while i am basically the mother, i clean the whole place, i look after my pets and feed them, i wash dishes by myself, do our laundry (cause he doesn't know how to use a washing machine) i even cook dinner by myself (he doesn't know how to cook anything without burning it or let alone cook anything at all), i told him that i just wanted 1 thing and that was to stay at the concert until it finished and i couldnt even have that, at the moment i have given him the cold shoulder and I've stopped replying to his messages. i really do like doing stuff with him, his funny and that, but its so upsetting that he acts this way and without a care in the world.
AITA for being mad at my boyfriend after he mad me leave a music concert early cause he was "bored"?
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You’re not the asshole you spent money on an experience and didn’t get to fully enjoy that. You’re right to be upset. That said it seems like you and boyfriend really aren’t compatible and he seems very controlling. Also if you’re doing all of the house work and animal care you need to leave him and find a man who’s parents actually raised him. He needs to go back to his parents and learn the basic life skills he’s clearly lacking. Seriously who doesn’t know how to run something as simple as a washing machine; and how has he made it this far in life if he’s incapable of mastering the basic skill of cooking; it doesn’t even have to be extravagant but he should know those skills by this point in his life
Not the a$$hole. You wanted to stay for the whole concert, he couldn't respect your wish. It's frustrating. I am not friends with someone anymore because they wanted to leave a ballgame early to go drink, when I said I want to stay. He left early & I had to take care of his drunk a$$ after. You are well within your rights to be mad.
its so upsetting cause he literally does this all time, i am not much of a drinker. its very rare that i will have a drink, that night i wanted to stay sober and enjoy the concert, he kept asking me who the guys were and what the songs were called, i missed out on 3 of my favorite songs, 1 they played while he dragged me out of the venue, then the other 2 i saw in a video that someone posted and i was pretty upset about it, due to the fact that this band only visits AUS once every 3-4 years. every time i go to do something with him (whether its shopping or visiting family) he sits on his phone sighing and asking when we are leaving, then he pesters me until we leave. i keep saying "we will leave when im ready", then sits around in such a mood or he makes sure to get angry before we go somewhere, so the whole thing is miserable. I've never really seen a 30yr old act this way, i told him that Falling In Reverse is coming to AUS at the end of the year, i like them (not as much as the band that played), but i feel like being petty at doing what he did to me, to him
I'm no relationship expert, so I can't offer much advice here. I see your point about taking him to see his band and doing that to him, but do you still want to be with him until end of year? Or do you want to break it off now and potentially be happier? That's something only you can answer.
you're not the asshole for that, you're the asshole for choosing to be a loser's hoe.
Could of worded it better without calling me a “hoe” 😂