If someone has always been clingy to you and then all of a sudden got distant from you, Would you think they were up to no good?

[Finchie40]

How would you feel and what would you do if all of a sudden your clingy partner all of a sudden looked forward to having space from you , like going away with a new friend they met , and planning trips without you when , they never did before , How would you react and what would you do?

[SakuraBlossoms87]

Depends on the situation.

When I was younger I was clingy to my boyfriend but he was something of an ass. I mean who else doesn't communicate properly & then get mad because I didn't know what was going on in his life. And a few other things - in short he was emotionally abusive & damaged my self confidence.

We had a big argument and stopped talking to one another for two months.

And when he reached out again I was indifferent. Definitely not clingy. I'd found that I was far better off without the ass around me anymore - I'd regained my self confidence without him being around - and wanted little to nothing to do with him.

I hadn't found someone else. I found myself. Which due to his abusive nature I'd lost.

[DizzyDesii]

I’d think they assumed I got tired of them, so they’ve been overthinking OR that they’ve taken a romantic interest in someone else. Either way, I’d get to the bottom of it before they head out on that trip. Detective Desi at ya mf service!!

[Finchie40]

My detective days have come to an end I did that shit with my ex to find out the truth that she was cheating on me , so i no longer invest my time into someone that needs space all of a sudden , I am not saying she has to hold my hand at all times but if I am not her top priority she will not be mine , I don’t get into a relationship to be single , I get into a relationship so her and I can share things together and go places together , we are supposed to be a team , if she doesn’t want to be by my side and doesn’t want to enjoy things together with me then she isn’t the girl for me period , when someone all of a sudden needs space and starts prioritizing their friends over the relationship then in my eyes , they already up to no good , so go enjoy your trip without me because I am going to go enjoy myself elsewhere as well, When it’s not ok for you to do something but ok for them , that to me is a double standard, so if you can’t wear my shoes like you expect me to wear yours , good luck to you , because you aren’t a partner , you are a selfish person that only cares about themselves , I am not going to sit around with my finger up my ass hoping she isn’t being up to no good because she clearly is. You ever hear the term you give someone an inch and they take a mile? Live by it , because it’s so true , most people just like the convenience of each other , you can love someone with all your heart but they will not love you back the same , Most relationships go through ultimatums , If you do this I will do that , Ultimatums are only ok if the person giving the ultimatum follows the same ultimatum, it has t go both ways or it will not work period. If you want me to stand by you , you are going to have to prove you are going to stand by me or it’s just a waste of time

[DizzyDesii]

See I don't know what kinda research you be doing but i find out everything i need to know within an hour or less lmao. I got connections always and foreva

[Finchie40]

The thing is Des , most people want what they don’t have , instead of focusing on what’s important and what they already have , I blame social media for a lot of this behavior for warping people’s minds into thinking they need things that they really don’t need , and sadly those things they are reaching for , is things that will make them lose what they already have , once they realize that, they try crawling back to you begging for you to forgive them , , I’m sorry , I am not your convenience , you should of thought of that before making your selfish decision , you should of thought of that when you stopped me from doing things you didn’t like , So if my feelings don’t matter to you , your feelings won’t matter to me , I can only make a girl a priority if she is making me hers , no more of this one sided shit , I am tired of selfish girls’ period , So again go on your lovely trip but don’t be mad and upset when I go on my selfish trip without you

[DizzyDesii]

Thats why I won’t date someone who still uses social media. I was raised to not use it and GaG is the closest I’ve come to it. My guy needs to be similar. When dudes these days go “do you have snap” instead of “want to exchange numbers” , I already side eye them

[Finchie40]

Yea I am the same way , when I am in a relationship social media time becomes limited , out of respect

[DizzyDesii]

Yea i dont want it limited. I want someone who doesn't have it. I want a you dude with a bit of an old soul. Im not into all this new tech gizmo and gadgets shit

[Finchie40]

Well I have to use it for work but I have no issue letting her use my phone whenever she wants

[DizzyDesii]

Im not referring to that lmao

[Juxtapose]

Sounds like a borderline diagnosed girl getting ready to move on to someone else because you weren't perfect.

[Finchie40]

I think you hit the nail right on the head bro , she in a sense is just like my ex wife , things that never bothered her before all of a sudden are bothering her , like she is trying to find flaws in me to give herself an excuse for her actions , I told her to go live her life and I will live mine , if you don’t want to be a part of mine then leave me the fuck alone , she is very selfish and only really cares about herself and trying to play a victim when really she knows she is being a piece of shit and only doing what is best for her , She told me she is going away with her girlfriend that she knows , I can’t stand my gut instinct feels like her girlfriend has a thing for her , it’s weird as fuck , cuz her other friends don’t bother me but this one I sense something is off , but I told her have a blast, cuz I plan on having a blast when she is gone as well , cuz it was never ok for me to go away with my friends but all of a sudden it’s ok for her all of a sudden , I can’t stand selfish bitches that can’t wear my shoes like they expect me to wear theirs , My gut instinct is telling me she is going to be up to no good , so I am not going to sit here with my finger up my ass , I am just going to go be selfish as well, I made that mistake before, with my ex wife to find put she was playing me and screwing another guy behind my back , so I no longer tolerate girls that don’t understand double standards , So I hope she screws someone else or she dikes it out with this girl because I might end up in bed with another girl myself , she is now shocked that I am not throwing a fit about her going , I just told her to have a blast and don’t get upset with me when I go away with my friends and she acts like I am being crazy and completely forgets the fact that she stopped me from going away with my friends that she didn’t like , so this is pretty much the reason I don’t jump into committed relationships fast with a girl , most girls don’t grasp double standards, selfish

[Emerald55346]

It just means they could feel like other things in there life is missing or your not reciprocating their affection the way they want so they feel hurt, there is always a chance they are doing something sneaky tho, being hot and cold in a relationship is what I consider love bombing which is emotional abuse so if that’s consistent behavior in that case huge red flag.

[Finchie40]

Exactly what it is , constant behavior of hot and cold , she only c’s things her way but doesn’t see things my way , when I expressed my feelings of concern she flips it around that I am crazy and she is normal , she can’t admit to herself she is wrong period , she always makes an excuse for her actions to benefit herself , she is a user and completely selfish person that only does what is best for her , she wants her cake and wants to eat it to pretty much , the fact that I stood my ground to her and told her I will not stay in a relationship with a selfish girl that expects me to do for her but can’t do for me , I don’t want to be with you anymore , Go love your single life and I will go live mine , stop trying to play a victim when really you know you are a selfish pos. I hate people that demand space in a relationship period , When you truly love and value someone you don’t need space from them and you don’t prioritize other’s over them , I told her if she needs space from me and wants to plan trips separate from me then why are you even in this relationship? Why did you stop me from going with my friends but all of a sudden it’s ok for
You to go with your friends? Double standards don’t sit well with me , I don’t want to be in a relationship with a girl that doesn’t prioritize me the way she expects me to prioritize her, if it doesn’t go both ways it isn’t going to work period , so I dumped her and told her to go on all the vacations she wants , cuz I want to find a girl that wants to do those things together or I will just stay single , I am not saying a girl needs to hold my hand at all times , but a girl that considers me like I consider her before making decisions period is a girl I want by my side not a girl that conveniently stands by my side Part of me feels she has a thing with this girl like dyke shit , the whole friendship is really weird and my gut tells Me something is off , ever since she became friends with this girl I no longer really mattered

[Finchie40]

To her , it’s like this girl has some sort of control over her and it’s weird as shit , when they would see each other it was like they were a little to close for comfort compared to her other friends , If I questioned her about it I was all of a sudden an asshole , she couldn’t just nicely answer to question, so that’s pretty much the reason I don’t trust it

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Nope, I would probably be relieved.