Why do some people get into relationships if they are going to cheat on their partner?

[Anonymous]

[MrOracle]

Some people (in particular, but not limited to the the good-looking, popular people) are selfish, self centered, and entitled, and only love themselves, and these people will always cheat. Unfortunately, these are also the people that the majority of people find the most attractive.

You also have people who are just spoiled growing up and are never told "no" or are never denied anything. Of course these people will feel incredibly entitled because they've always gotten whatever they wanted in the moment.

Finally, you have people with no morals or boundaries. They can't understand why everyone doesn't just do whatever they want to all the time, or how anyone could have a problem with them doing so.

The real problem is that most people today are not taught to pick their romantic partners based on their morals, values, and life goals, so most people pick them solely on their attractiveness and how exciting they are. It should surprise no one that this nearly always leads to disaster. But if you try to tell someone that the people they find most attractive are going to be lousy relationship partners, no one wants to hear it. Most people today won't give up the hot, exciting person to get morals and values, but then they get upset when they don't get good morals and values in their partner. They only have themselves to blame, but no one wants to take personal responsibility for their own decisions either. It's always someone else's fault.

[Asker]

Well explain to me how Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt didn't work out? You don't think that them two fit each other's league?

[MrOracle]

Brad Pitt is a top 1% guy (actually, more like top 0.01%). He had 2 or three entire generations of women throwing themselves at him. Hell, guys would go up to him and ask him to fuck their girlfriends. That kind of guy is NEVER, EVER going to be faithful, and it's insane to believe otherwise. I guarantee you that his body count is over 1000.

Then you've got AJ. She is quite literally crazy. Yes, she was hot when she was young, but she was crazy then and she's crazy now, but while crazy might be fun for a couple of months at most, it's impossible to live with for too long. And, cruel as it may be, a girl who can be hot enough in her 20s for guys to overlook her crazy is not going to be hot enough in her 30s, much less 40s, for her crazy to be excused. Even in Hollywood, AJ is a lot crazier than average, and Hollywood women in general are crazier that most other women. I understand why you used it as an example, but it's really not a great example.

Neither of these people had solid morals and values - and why would they be? They grew up being ultra-attractive, and then became rich and famous, so they're used to doing whatever they want and getting away with it. You never find morals and values with people like that - it just doesn't happen.

[OlderAndWiser]

I have never cheated so I can only speculate based on my experience with being cheated on, and hearing others talk about it. If you aren't in a relationship with someone else and the cheating isn't "forbidden," then it is not nearly as exciting.

[Nikki1989]

I don't think anyone plans on cheating. It usually happens when the primary relationship is failing.

[Anonymous]

Because monogamy doesn't work. Even "open" marriages don't work.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Men cheat because life is short and they want sex with multiple partners, but don't want to lose the comfort and stability of a relationship with a person they probably love and care about.

"But you don't really love someone if you cheat on them! 😡"
Not always true, sorry. The connection between mind and heart is a complex issue

[NamerOfStars]

They probably don't get in expecting to cheat; they simply chase the feeling of butterflies, and move on when the novelty wears off. They don't, however, break up with their partner, because they want the benefits of a relationship without having to limit themselves to monogamy.

[Sexiestjohnson]

I think it was Socrates that said "man know thyself". It is good to know what you want before being monogamous.

All I need is two wives and two maids to build a solid house after the order of Jacob.

[boggboss]

Because theyvdont care about how it would effect their partner

[Asker]

That means they don't care about their partner so why be in a relationship with them if you don't take them serious.

[boggboss]

Plenty of people get into relationships without being serious as for reasons could be anything from wanting a easy option to not wanting to be alone could be anything

[Asker]

They're a dumbass that's what's wrong with them.

[boggboss]

Anything from being shitty people or being immature

[BarryLiverstone]

Same reason people choose to go on a diet. Just because they make a decision doesn’t mean they will stick to it.

[In_Trance]

Nobody starts a relationship with the intention of cheating. People cheat because they're given reason to cheat

[Asker]

There's no reason to cheat only scumbags use that as an issue. Break up with the person if you are done with them it's not like you're not hurting them anyway with your dishonesty.

[mommymommymommy]

You just basically proved why marriage shouldn't exist.

[Asker]

Well I'm stating the obvious people really do cheat

[mommymommymommy]

A lot do, yes

[Anonymous]

I don’t really know why, but I guess they just want to be loved and have sex whatever they want

[CallmeTheKnight]

Because some people aren’t good people at all

[Anonymous]

Gotta keep up with appearances.

[LimitedBenefits101]

Because we can.