“Good things come to those who wait”. How patient are you when it comes to love?

[Pinay_ako]

[ChiTown33]

No. Time has zero to do with it. Unless you mean time and effort put into a person you've already met. Because I agree then. But you could wait a lifetime for the right person to come along if you aren't putting any effort forth it won't matter. Now if only they made it easier to understand which women are truly worth your effort. I think more guys would be willing to make great effort with women if they had a better idea that they weren't just wasting thier time. I don't think women get that for every one woman that has genuine interest in a guy there's about a dozen other women just playing around with him and leading him on because she just enjoys the attention (Yes I realize some men do this to women to).

Conversely when it comes to women this is the single most baffling thing on this site to me. It amazes me how many women today want to travel at light speed with a guy like he's going to disintegrate or something. I always tell women there's no need to hurry with a guy. Because if he's a decent guy and you make him feel loved, valued, and respected he isn't going anywhere. And if he does go he wasn't a good man and you were never going to keep him anyhow regardless of what you did. So there's no reason to beat yourself up if he leaves.

I can tell you I kind of place people into 2 groups. 1. People I care about deeply 2. Acquaintances. The people in the first group I would go to the ends of the earth for. The people in the second group are just people I associate with. They may think they're my friend, but they're not. And I simply feel no need to tell them otherwise. I do not use them. But they have exhibited enough character flaws that I cannot extend the same kind of commitment that I do to group one.

I guess the point I'm trying to drive home is when you love someone they matter. They matter to you as much as you matter to you. And there is no limit to you. Your patience with them is unending. You can't love with half a heart. You love with your whole heart or not at all.

[Reorx]

Really patient. I've been single 23 years. Circumstances I have to deal with. You don't drag someone you love into a bad situation. I think I may have finally found one:)

[Pinay_ako]

Good for you if you have

[Reorx]

she's modest, has blue eyes a man could drown in, average looks. Exactly what I'm looking for:)

[Rei13]

I have been patient with people in the past and it didn’t work out for me for most of it. Which honestly is ok, we weren’t compatible for whatever reason and it got me to where I am now. If you are waiting for a specific person don’t ignore the other people who may come in and out of your life. The person who makes you happiest is might be there and the one you thought you wanted could have you waiting for a lifetime

[LivingExample]

I do Not agree with “Good things come to those who wait.” Nothing is coming and Knocking on your front door. People must go after what they. “Go after” and Chasing are two different things!

[OlderAndWiser]

I was still dating and looking for love at age 66, and then I found it!

[Pinay_ako]

Good for you

[DaveJord]

Honestly, I have not idea. But I still believe that someday it will just happen, and it will be the best thing ever, and at that time it will all seem totally worth it. With that said, I am 46 so it's kind of messing with me.

[Avicenna]

It's very easy to be "too patient"

[Being_a_good_Indian]

The concept of patience in love is subjective and can vary from person to person. While it's important to be patient and allow a relationship to develop naturally, it's equally important to set boundaries and have realistic expectations.

1. Building a foundation: Love and meaningful relationships take time to develop. It's essential to invest effort and patience in getting to know someone, building trust, and nurturing a connection.

2. Red flags and deal-breakers: While patience is important, it's equally crucial to be aware of any red flags or deal-breakers that may arise during the process. Trust your instincts and establish boundaries if you encounter behaviors or values that are incompatible with your own.

3. Personal growth: Patience in love shouldn't mean compromising your personal growth and happiness. It's important to continue pursuing your own goals, passions, and interests, as this contributes to your overall well-being.

4. Communication and mutual understanding: Open and honest communication is essential in any relationship. Express your needs, expectations, and concerns, and ensure that you have a mutual understanding with your partner about the pace and direction of the relationship.

5. Self-care and balance: While waiting for love to flourish, make sure to take care of yourself. Focus on self-improvement, engage in activities that bring you joy, and maintain a healthy balance between your personal life and the relationship.

Ultimately, there is no set timeline for love, and the level of patience required will vary from person to person and relationship to relationship. It's important to strike a balance between patience and actively assessing whether the relationship aligns with your needs and values. Trust your instincts, communicate openly, and prioritize your own well-being while nurturing a connection with someone special.

[Peter_Penetrator]

I met someone 8 months ago. She has a lot on her plate right now. I have seen personality traits in her that are worth waiting for. I will wait as long as it takes.


Of course, time has ways of changing the course of people’s lives. If it never happens between me and her, oh well. But we will happen.


I haven’t dated in the last 2 years since I divorced my ex of 18 years. I don’t date out of fear of being alone anymore. I don’t date just anybody.


This woman I am patiently waiting for; we just crossed paths through her work and over the course of weekly appointments, she really went the distance to get me to notice her. I am no longer in need of those appointments, and I offered to give her my number and she just handed me her phone. I then called my phone. We both now have each others numbers.


Once she has her current personal issues resolved; then she will contact me. I text her sporadically, not in an attempt to converse, but just enough so she knows I haven’t lost faith and to keep her spirits up.


She also has a work friend that got to know me and vetted me out rather well for our mutual friend.


Patients is a virtue as the saying goes.
Good things come to those who wait.


The way I see it, we weren’t out looking for each other. So we are meant to be.

[ObscuredBeyond]

I'll wait up to three months to see if something looks like it'll get serious in a good way. If after three months, I see plenty of reasons for an exit strategy, then rest assured I try to never lose sight of the exit.

And if it looks like a sort of labyrinth where I'm about to be compelled to take my eye off the exit, and would have to tie a long string to the exit so I don't lose my way, then I decide best to bolt and not even bother.

Because the minute I tie a string to find my way back out, some lowlife is gonna cut the string, then bring it to me to taunt me.

Then, it ceases to be a willing visitation. It becomes a hostage situation. And if she insists on being a lure, then I smell a trap.

[JSmuve]

Well if good things happen to those who wait then I'm about due for something amazing to happen. Cue the back to back lottery wins and playboy models falling from the heavens.

Good things do not happen to those who wait. Time passes by to those who wait.

[shades777]

I think its a quote that should be taken with a grain of salt, you have to create an environment for success, a man on couch isn't going to be successful regardless of the patience.


However same man hits the gym, and improves his body and confidence will have better environment for which success "could" happen.


Same man takes his gym results, dresses up, wear alittle cologne, and hits a bar, or goes for a walk in the park looking better than before. This man will have a better environment than the previous two.


So the patience comes from doing the work to improve and get exposure at the same time.
Couch doritos fingers isn't going to have the same environmental success as gym dude or fit well dressed man.

[provokeesmokee]

Normal?

I won't force it or settle early, but I have no rush.

I don't care if I don't find anyone. Or if I find someone in years. Or months.

I'm just living my life. Cool if someone wants to tag along and share the path.

[Adam1978]

Waiting when it comes to love is a bad idea, well okay it's not like you should ask the girl to marry you on the first date that's crazy behavior. But just sitting doing nothing when there is nothing going on is just a waste.

[roy_ricky09]

Nope not true.
You are to put the effects to get what you want.
People who wait for the right time, person etc., life gives them what's left and they settle with it thinking good things happen to those who wait.

[Massageman]

I am 100% patient - until I run out of patience.

Corollary rule about trust.

I trust everyone 100% - up to a point!

[Pinay_ako]

You trust everyone?

[Massageman]

Up to a point. Some people have very short points.

[JeffersonA]

It's more keep looking through the trash.

Be strong enough to find and break up with those who are not good and don't match with you

Don't settle either

[Ammyreddie]

If u think and believe that no matter wt it is his keep loving u for the rest of life... and if u believe he is the perfect and who understands ur emotions without anydramas... if he keeps a healthy and happy realtion with u and if he won't hurts u ... if he is genuine, honest and loyal without any mess then ur waiting is worth for him and ur paitience get a reward... if this rnt their please dont waste ur time on worthless person or love..

[Lliam]

I never sat around waiting. If you want something, you have to actively pursue it and take chances.

[Red-Blaze]

Too much
But it may be too much burn or just too many options that I am not intrested in killing it for me, that I prefer to keep waiting

[VadeinVain]

I'm patient because I never expected love in this world. I accepted feeling lonely and depressed. I appreciate feeling love and being loved as it's a blessing I won't take for granted. Nobody inherently deserves that, so I won't rush. I believe I've met a wonderful person for this time in my live, and I wasn't even anticipating them.

[Sparkie460]

I waited a while for my so. I guess I'm pretty patient

[Sparkie460]

Your friend is going to fall off the bed. He's too close to the edge. Lol

[Pinay_ako]

🤣 he’s trying to get in the picture 😝

[Sparkie460]

Photo bombing you?

[Pinay_ako]

🤣 yes the dragon is hiding somewhere 😂 there always together

[Sparkie460]

I think it's so cute

[Pinay_ako]

Yea they help me in my sleep. The dragon is for my neck

[Sparkie460]

You put it under your neck? Where does the pig go?

[Pinay_ako]

In my arms

[menina]

I'm very patient. I've been waiting for love since I was a teenager.

[Izzy_3991]

I am not patient but I don’t want a bad man, so I’m cool waiting 😊

[slatyb]

When I divorced, I didn't wait. I used online dating sites.

[electromagnetic]

Not true. Sometimes waiting results to nothing.

[humanearth]

You don't need my answer. You have many opinions already.

I just posting this so I can say this

Happy Fathers Day

[OfMiceandMen]

I like to take my time when getting to know someone. I am a firm believer in that quote.

[strateguy632]

that may be true for some stuff, but for lovers must search and meet people.

[molonski2]

I don't believe in that premise at all , you need to make things happen , never wait.

[Vikkrram]

I've waited so long that i end up loosing them. It really hurts.

[Nikki1989]

I waited till I was 26. I think that was patient enough.

[asphaltrhymes]

Very patient. I'm 29 now so, what does that tell you. Patience 😜😄

[MemeSupreme]

very. i'm very hesitant to trust people so i give it time to see if they're worth it or not.

[DizzyDesii]

I dont know how to wait. I know how to distract myself while hoping for the best lmao

[PBandJ_Nerd]

Well, I'm stuck waiting so what choice do I have?

[Iron_Man]

Very patient I’ve had two long distance relationships and I’m on my current one now. Before was a long time ago with waiting 2 1/2 years to meet in person. This one is two years and counting.

[PointTaken]

I was talking with this one girl. Just to see if what we feel is real we are not talking for 4 days. There's a lot involved that's why we're seeing if it's real or just part of lust.

[sheenagwapa]

i'm not patient it's either yoy love me or you don't... fond of me or yoy don't

[RavVid]

It is not really optional re waiting. You can only wait.

[DaddyDiablo]

Like years of it I get to know you first which is nice and a pace that's slow n not so fast is really nice I think personally

[Samantha_17]

No patience LOL. I like straight cutting guys when it comes to love. Straight to the action..! :D

[FunkyMonkee]

I've been waiting most of my life!! When's it supposed to start?

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

I agree with this one thanks for sharing

[AutisticLonelyWoman]

Honestly I’m very impatient. I’ve never had a long loving healthy relationship

[asphaltrhymes]

Perhaps patience is the future key or learning experience, peace ☮️

[AutisticLonelyWoman]

@asphaltrhymes I guess

[motownplayer2000]

I never waited… I didn’t think about “love” like that. Was perfectly content to be alone for the rest of my life…

[Juxtapose]

I am not patient, because whenever I am told to wait that is when another man is being chosen over me and I am being kept as a backup.

[Jltakk]

Too patient possibly. It's not a priority for me anymore.

[asphaltrhymes]

Better to get a good job and or second job and make savings, make money, pay taxes, be responsible and affordable 🤑💰🤑💰

[Lauliss]

Oh, I'm not interested in love. So neither patient or impatient.

[hbg84]

I've been waiting for 39 years for good things to come my way

[Snakeyes7]

I am in no rush. I am already fine with a solitary future should it come to it. If love happens and it is reciprocated, I'll take it.

[WhiteBoyChill]

I’m definitely frustrated with how hard its been. But then again, relatively speaking there’s plenty of adults that find their love at age 30

[Staximus]

Good things come to those who go out and make them happen

[Christoff92]

Very patient. I don't really look at love as a need but a opportunity for pleasure ☺️

[Wise4myage]

I am not a very patient person, but I hope to improve.

[AnusNdaPainus]

Love doesn’t wait.

Love is a battlefield.

Belligerently pursue those you want.

[DiegoO]

From what I've learn, nothing happens when you wait.

[driven159]

you can't force so everyone has to be patient

[TrillXHippy]

I’m more patient than everyone else who thinks they are

[Guardian45]

I try to be patient, but I AIN'T gonna live forever!

[loyalhumblesmart20]

Well I waited almost 30 years and it got me more heartbreak

[MementoMori777]

patient enough to know im wasting my time lmao

[Enlightenme21]

To patient that I honestly doubt it even exists.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I am a patient person.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Ans no, good things don’t come to those who wait.

When it’s about something I want, I don’t wait, I go and get it.