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Moved/moving on from cheating?

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So my SO cheated on me 5 years ago. We are married now with a baby otw. Yes, I have forgiven him, but that doesn’t mean I’ve forgotten what happened. I always see people saying that if you choose to move on then you can’t bring it up again or you have to forget it happened, but that’s just not how it works. He is 100% a good man who did change for the better (which is why we are married now). That part is not up for debate, there’s no need in telling me once a cheater always a cheater, I too use to believe that till him. Anyway with being pregnant my emotions are all out of wack and we were talking about our s*x life and how it’s just not what it was before pregnancy. I was honest and told him that more recently I’ve been thinking about his past infidelity especially when it comes down to having that private time. I cried and he of course comforted me and we talked, but I’m just at a loss. I will note that we did not ever fully talk and get everything out in the air like we probably should have when the infidelity happened. We did not go to therapy or anything of the sorts. This is totally a me problem and I’m just unsure what to do. I love him and do not want to make him feel sorry and feel like he has to make it up to me, because it was my choice to move forward too. Our marriage wouldn’t be healthy if everyday he had to make up for what we both agreed to heal from. Anyway sorry for the long post, I don't know if I wanted to vent or get advice honestly. If it’s advice I guess has anyone gone through something similar? If so how did you fix it? Pregnant people anyway to get your emotions in check?

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