Is this the end of an 8 year affair? What should I do? (Page 2)

[PragmaticProfit]

It didn’t just happen. There were many steps that led you to this.

[PragmaticProfit]

The more I read the more I’ve conclusively noticed you’re a horrible human being. You’re a narcissist who’s managed to convince yourself that you’re a victim. I’ll be praying for you and your husband. What a horrible thing to do. His life will never be the same when he finds out.

[California_Poppy]

I've never had an affair, and I'm not sure if you are looking for advice or compassion, but my advice is to be honest -- with yourself and your partner.

[Moose304]

Sounds like somebody has been listening to this song!

https://www.youtube.com/embed/xFB1yytGLRA

[WanderingLoveWizard]

Thanks for proving my (and many other people's) point about work "friends"

[SoJust]

Of course this relationship is end, but you shouldn't be too upset mate , instead of ou need to create one fulcrum point within yourself and look ahead

[LiamJHayden]

" believe it or not you could fall into the same situation easily enough."

No, I couldn't.

[Asker]

Yeh I 100% thought the same!

[RyanK9b]

Well you're fucked.
Maybe continue your affair on slightly higher lvl and look if it works out. In the end maybe not and u can roll back to normal.

[RyanK9b]

So u found your answer

[Asker]

Don’t understand?

[RyanK9b]

Didn't u typed in your update that its over? So it doesn't matter anymore

[Asker]

Well I thought it been over a 100 times already, but somehow we end up back where we started 🙄

[RyanK9b]

Then it seems you 2 belong together. If always come back to the beginning is it either a deep desire for the person or adrenaline rush.

You have to found out for yourself

[Asker]

How can you tell the difference

[RyanK9b]

If the excitement fades away after a while and u get kinda bored or sick of him. The good feeling should start again after u "broke up" and start the beginning phase again.
Thats the dopamine/adrenaline effect

[Asker]

I’m not sure, it’s hard to distinguish. I’ve never felt bored or sick of him ever. But I can’t speak for him….

[RyanK9b]

Well then is at least your desire not short term based. You just could ask him what he feels and how he wants to proceed

[Asker]

I have asked him in the past, and his reply was always that “he accepts we can’t be anything more than we are, and if life was different we could be together, but if during this life all we can be is friends then that’s good enough for him as at least I’m in his life”

[RyanK9b]

So he have kids or so? I guess that's why he keeps it priority than be with you.

[Asker]

Yes we are both married with children. We both actually got married the same year, so are both in 15 year marriages

[RingOfFire]

You reap what you sow. You sowed the seeds of deception, dishonesty, trickery, disrespect and infidelity and should not be surprised at the results.

[KrakenAttackin]

You are a cheating whore and it is just that you suffer.

[Sasha0426]

You got yourself into this mess so you can get yourself out 🤷‍♀️

[mommymommymommy]

You did exactly what you're saying you're not doing. YOU CHOSE TO DO THIS

[mommymommymommy]

And that my friend, is why, you generally shouldn't marry your ONLY relationship

[red_knight]

All Things come to an end. He's never really yours it's just your turn.

[shades777]

should have divorced 8 years ago lol

[Talk2laura]

Pray to God for your next relationship