So a couple of months ago a nice gentleman sent me flowers to my work with a card telling me I’m beautiful and he would like to take me out. I had no idea who he was. I politely called him and said thank you but I’m married. A couple weeks later he came in. I work for a city and he’s a contractor. I was working on his project and we just got to talking. We hit it off. We exchanged numbers and talk all the time. Text and on the phone. Just like great friends and with a crazy connection. I’m married. I feel horrible doing this. But to backtrack, my husband of 21 years has spent most of it commenting on pretty women’s posts online, once signed up for 22 different dating sites, had secret apps to hide pictures, went to strip clubs, and the worst, paid for a happy ending massage or more. I don’t know the extend of that. He claims he’s sorry and loves me and begs me not to leave. So there’s that. I love him but I’ve been so hurt and just felt stuck. This man who sent flowers is 13 years older than me, the sweetest man, constantly tells me I’m beautiful and amazing and then apologizes because I’m married and he knows he shouldn’t. We just seem to have a connection and can’t get enough of talking to each other. I don’t know what to do. It’s like he’s swept me off my feet. I don’t know if I want to leave my husband Or continue working it out. Maybe this man came into my life for a reason. He’s so kind and it’s like his soul and pure and honest. Please help. What do I do?
Do you believe in fate?
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1. Your husband's lapses in morality do not justify you engaging in similar lapses. You either have moral standards which you follow because you believe they are correct. . . or you don't.
2. Unhappiness in your marriage can cloud your judgment about your would-be suitor.
3. You need to resolve your marital problems in the way that is best for you and any children you have.
4. Having sex with your admirer now might salve your injured soul - for now - but you will later probably regret doing it.
I don't believe in fate or any other supernatural thing, you make your choices, not the fate.
No, life is mostly just a sequence of random events.