Do women like it when their man orders for them at a restaurant?

[coachTanthony]

Yes

No

[MrOracle]

Coach, it seems that a lot of people here don't realize that the proper way this is done is to TALK to the woman FIRST, figure out what she wants (she may know already if she's familiar with the restaurant, or she may defer to him to pick something for her, but either way, you get her input first), and then HE talks to the waiter for her.

The idea isn't to force some new food on the girl, it's to keep her from having to interact with the waiter, which many woman hate to do. And sometimes it's also to help if she has no idea what to order and wants a recommendation.

Several women have already replied here that they hate the pressure of dealing with the waiter and giving their order, and this is exactly why it is something men do, or used to do.

My girlfriend has an accent, and she hates to order in restaurants because she's self-conscious about her accent, even though it's pretty mild. The fact that I order for her (AFTER asking her what she would like) is something she loves, and something she never even knew was a thing, as it isn't commonly done where she's from.

[coachTanthony]

they all assuming the man just going to slap a bitch and say shut up I am ordering for you ha

[OlderAndWiser]

And on a first or second date, a woman asking a guy for recommendations also guarantees her that she is not ordering something too expensive for the guy's budget.

[coachTanthony]

@OlderAndWiser Which is a smart move.

[OlderAndWiser]

I think it happens so rarely that they are impressed when it happens. I would not do that unless I really knew what my date wanted. Since I am now engaged, I have a good idea of what she wants!

[Fabiana1]

I don't think such a man deserves a partner

[OlderAndWiser]

@Fabiana1 You probably don't need to worry about that.

[Fabiana1]

yes it has nothing to do with me

[OlderAndWiser]

@Fabiana1 Undoubtedly!

[kylee2437]

I’m a restaurant server and I find it pretty odd when couples have their man do this. Like girl you have your own voice and you are a grown woman. There’s no reason to have such a father young daughter dynamic.

[AviatorTom]

I have no idea if women like, or dislike it. My SO often orders for me when we go to a restaurant. She is much more food-knowledgeable than I am, and I have no problem with that.

[Fabiana1]

I don't think such a man deserves a partner

[Apple1996]

No I would hate if a man ordered my food for me

[Pinay_ako]

Yes if it’s my first time at that place and he’s knowledgeable of the menu and have tried them.

[Fuentes]

Lol that's strange tho

[Pinay_ako]

@Fuentes why is that strange? If the menu is complicated 😂 or in another language

[Fuentes]

Another human can't tell u what to eat so u look through the menu til u see something u like if u don't understand something u ask lol nit have him choose for u haha

[Pinay_ako]

@Fuentes oh 😂. I do that with friends too. So I trust them to choose something good.

[Fuentes]

Hell nah I do not lol

[Whatthefluff]

Hell no. I’ll make my own choice, thank you.

[musicbrain5]

I’m married and I wouldn’t mind if my husband ordered something for me - of course he knows me and I trust him. He’s never done it though.

If I was dating a new person though, nope, I wouldn’t like that. I have an anaphylactic nut allergy and some other dietary restrictions - I need to have total control over what I order, how it’s ordered, and how it’s prepared. For example, there cannot be any cross contamination with nut products of any kind. That’s why I would want to pick the restaurant as well.

[SpyderMurpph]

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[musicbrain5]

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[SpyderMurpph]

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[musicbrain5]

@SpyderMurpph If you’re DMing it to everyone, then there was really no point in going anonymous lol.

[SpyderMurpph]

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then realized I posted anonymous afterwards
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[midnightmoon05]

I love it when my man takes charge!! or say early dates..

before we meet in person, we would have communicated some of our likes and dislikes in food chlloices…if the guy is not on my level with food, he will not have a chance with me.

then, we set up a date

we meet, look at menu together, talk about what looks good. Next HE orders!! When the food comes…tell him…wow…that looks amazing! Thank you for ordering with a smile…then say, bon appetite

dating etiquette 101

really…life is not that complicated!!

[ShellyB]

It can be good or bad. I would say "yes" but it should be done the right way, which means, don't just guess, we should talk in advance or else you should know what I will get bc you have heard me order it myself a dozen times. This is a relationship thing not a first or second or third date thing. I am engaged now but when I was dating, a couple of times guys would order for me wo actually knowing me that well and that was annoying. I let them do it but then didn't really enjoy my meal as much. JMO!

[EricSummer]

I think most like it better to order for themselves.

However, they will often value a suggestion or help with a decision. A woman may sometimes ask if she should order the one or the other. It is best to just take a decision for her in that situation without giving reasons. Not sure what is behind this behavior.

In some cases it is obvious that she wants reassurance to go for a high-calorie choice compared to an alternative. In that case always go for the high-calorie option. This will give her a good mood.

Plus, always order something different from her choice, but something she might also like. You can then swap with her in case she does not like hers. - Well, that's if you really want to please your woman.

[molonski2]

It often tends to work in reverse here , I generally have a pretty specialised menu that I try to stick to , naturally my first language is English ( I can order in Thai ) , but I know if the order is placed by khun Thai female , it will generally be correct.

Possibly in say Australia / USA / UK , the opposite function would be appropriate , as in I would order , but I've not really answered the question , not sure if Western women would like it , probably not is my guess. I would never just proceed unless there was some reason for it.

[WhiteSteve]

My lady likes me to PLACE her order for her, but she wouldn’t want me to decide for her as to what she’ll be eating. I’d feel weird as hell doing that. I even feel a little weird placing her order, but she likes it for whatever reason. I usually try to order in a manner and tone that suggests she’s told me what she wants, just for my own social comfort, lmao.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Several of my ex-girlfriends would always have me order. Half the time they'd give me a broad stroke idea of what they wanted, but if it was a fancy place or something foreign to them and they wouldn't know how to answer the questions anyway... Sometimes they'd just flat out tell me what they wanted all at once.

Typically that would be her easy timeframe to get up, go to the bathroom, smoke, fix her lipstick, grab a cocktail from the bar on the way back, whatever...

[ProbablyClueless]

You have to be EXTREMELY careful before pulling some shit like that. lol I've only done that once. It was a total crowd pleaser, but the only reason I got away with it was that we were in a tapas wine bar that neither of us had ever been to, and I told the waitress to give us the 3 most popular, highest rated items on the menu.

[silvermoon84]

Nope. God gave me a pair of working eyes and the ability to read the menu. He also gave me a voice. Now of course it’s fine if we sit down and I tell him what I want and he orders while I’m in the bathroom (which is a situation I normally avoid) however, if he just takes it upon himself to order for me without letting me look at the menu (which I will never allow), then it signals to me that he’s a control freak.

[nastyb]

Im not a child. Im a grown woman. I dont need someone dictating what i will eat for the night. Anyone who enjoys this is weird. Likely she is submissive type of woman who gets some type of satisfaction being whipped by her husband for overcooking dinner.

[MrOracle]

The point isn't for him to CHOOSE your food (unless you can't decide or aren't familiar with the menu and you WANT him to do so), it's for him to pass on your choices to the waiter, so that you don't have to.

[nastyb]

@MrOracle

no that stupid shit doesn't turn me on. I'm gonna need something a little more than that. More like a man who can pay for our vacation and all our dates. Now that is a respectable man.

[MrOracle]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6vwNcNOTVzY

[nastyb]

@MrOracle

women like rich men just as much as you love women in their 20s. deal with it.

[PBandJ_Nerd]

I think if the woman knows what she wants to order but needs to do something then it would be helpful for the guy to tell the server. I'm soft spoken so it's much better if I try to say what I want to order.

[SnowedIn]

U less she explicitly told me or asked me to do so, I wouldn't even suggest it.

[provokeesmokee]

No. I tried letting him, once, by telling him what I wanted. I did also have to go to the washroom, so I went, but when I came back he revealed he forgot what I wanted (chicken alfredo) and instead told the waitress to come back after I came back.

It's a waste of time. I'll order for myself.

[thatshydork]

Some do, some don’t. Also depends on what you mean by ordering for them. If you mean picking something for them at a restaurant, I’d rather pick it myself. If you just mean telling the waiter/waitress what I picked, then I don’t have a preference on who tells them what I want.

[Losalt]

I think that's better.
Women often prefer men being the outwards face due to testosterone giving us more self confidence (and aggression) on average.
We're often better at getting what we want then women.
But she should of course have a say in the matter.
Him just picking something, especially if he doesn't know her is just a bad idea.
At most add a desert you know she'll probably like on top of her own preferred order (if you're paying for it as the man)

My approach would be to present her wishes then check in with her during the ordering process to see if I got it correct or if there's adjustments needed.

Besides, it's a way to show of that self confidence too. ;-)
Probably a part of why *guys* like doing it too.

[Screenwriter]

It's according to the woman, I'm sure, and the restaurant.

If the food is unfamiliar to the person, might be nice to have someone order for you according to how well they know your tastes, OR they order to give you a general overview of the food, if it's something new to you.

But if you're at a restaurant where the food is familiar to you, why would you want someone to order for you? I wouldn't..