Do women like it when their man orders for them at a restaurant?

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MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Coach, it seems that a lot of people here don't realize that the proper way this is done is to TALK to the woman FIRST, figure out what she wants (she may know already if she's familiar with the restaurant, or she may defer to him to pick something for her, but either way, you get her input first), and then HE talks to the waiter for her.

The idea isn't to force some new food on the girl, it's to keep her from having to interact with the waiter, which many woman hate to do. And sometimes it's also to help if she has no idea what to order and wants a recommendation.

Several women have already replied here that they hate the pressure of dealing with the waiter and giving their order, and this is exactly why it is something men do, or used to do.

My girlfriend has an accent, and she hates to order in restaurants because she's self-conscious about her accent, even though it's pretty mild. The fact that I order for her (AFTER asking her what she would like) is something she loves, and something she never even knew was a thing, as it isn't commonly done where she's from.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

I think it happens so rarely that they are impressed when it happens. I would not do that unless I really knew what my date wanted. Since I am now engaged, I have a good idea of what she wants!

kylee2437 · Answer

I’m a restaurant server and I find it pretty odd when couples have their man do this. Like girl you have your own voice and you are a grown woman. There’s no reason to have such a father young daughter dynamic.

AviatorTom · Answer

I have no idea if women like, or dislike it. My SO often orders for me when we go to a restaurant. She is much more food-knowledgeable than I am, and I have no problem with that.

Apple1996 · Answer

No I would hate if a man ordered my food for me

Pinay_ako · Answer

Yes if it’s my first time at that place and he’s knowledgeable of the menu and have tried them.

Whatthefluff · Answer

Hell no. I’ll make my own choice, thank you.

musicbrain5 · Answer

I’m married and I wouldn’t mind if my husband ordered something for me - of course he knows me and I trust him. He’s never done it though.

If I was dating a new person though, nope, I wouldn’t like that. I have an anaphylactic nut allergy and some other dietary restrictions - I need to have total control over what I order, how it’s ordered, and how it’s prepared. For example, there cannot be any cross contamination with nut products of any kind. That’s why I would want to pick the restaurant as well.

midnightmoon05 · Answer

I love it when my man takes charge!! or say early dates..

before we meet in person, we would have communicated some of our likes and dislikes in food chlloices…if the guy is not on my level with food, he will not have a chance with me.

then, we set up a date

we meet, look at menu together, talk about what looks good. Next HE orders!! When the food comes…tell him…wow…that looks amazing! Thank you for ordering with a smile…then say, bon appetite

dating etiquette 101

really…life is not that complicated!!

ShellyB · Answer

It can be good or bad. I would say "yes" but it should be done the right way, which means, don't just guess, we should talk in advance or else you should know what I will get bc you have heard me order it myself a dozen times. This is a relationship thing not a first or second or third date thing. I am engaged now but when I was dating, a couple of times guys would order for me wo actually knowing me that well and that was annoying. I let them do it but then didn't really enjoy my meal as much. JMO!

EricSummer · Answer

I think most like it better to order for themselves.

However, they will often value a suggestion or help with a decision. A woman may sometimes ask if she should order the one or the other. It is best to just take a decision for her in that situation without giving reasons. Not sure what is behind this behavior.

In some cases it is obvious that she wants reassurance to go for a high-calorie choice compared to an alternative. In that case always go for the high-calorie option. This will give her a good mood.

Plus, always order something different from her choice, but something she might also like. You can then swap with her in case she does not like hers. - Well, that's if you really want to please your woman.

molonski2 · Answer

It often tends to work in reverse here , I generally have a pretty specialised menu that I try to stick to , naturally my first language is English ( I can order in Thai ) , but I know if the order is placed by khun Thai female , it will generally be correct.

Possibly in say Australia / USA / UK , the opposite function would be appropriate , as in I would order , but I've not really answered the question , not sure if Western women would like it , probably not is my guess. I would never just proceed unless there was some reason for it.

WhiteSteve · Answer

My lady likes me to PLACE her order for her, but she wouldn’t want me to decide for her as to what she’ll be eating. I’d feel weird as hell doing that. I even feel a little weird placing her order, but she likes it for whatever reason. I usually try to order in a manner and tone that suggests she’s told me what she wants, just for my own social comfort, lmao.

BoopBoopBeep · Answer

Several of my ex-girlfriends would always have me order. Half the time they'd give me a broad stroke idea of what they wanted, but if it was a fancy place or something foreign to them and they wouldn't know how to answer the questions anyway... Sometimes they'd just flat out tell me what they wanted all at once.

Typically that would be her easy timeframe to get up, go to the bathroom, smoke, fix her lipstick, grab a cocktail from the bar on the way back, whatever...

ProbablyClueless · Answer

You have to be EXTREMELY careful before pulling some shit like that. lol I've only done that once. It was a total crowd pleaser, but the only reason I got away with it was that we were in a tapas wine bar that neither of us had ever been to, and I told the waitress to give us the 3 most popular, highest rated items on the menu.

nastyb · Answer

Im not a child. Im a grown woman. I dont need someone dictating what i will eat for the night. Anyone who enjoys this is weird. Likely she is submissive type of woman who gets some type of satisfaction being whipped by her husband for overcooking dinner.

silvermoon84 · Answer

Nope. God gave me a pair of working eyes and the ability to read the menu. He also gave me a voice. Now of course it’s fine if we sit down and I tell him what I want and he orders while I’m in the bathroom (which is a situation I normally avoid) however, if he just takes it upon himself to order for me without letting me look at the menu (which I will never allow), then it signals to me that he’s a control freak.

PBandJ_Nerd · Answer

I think if the woman knows what she wants to order but needs to do something then it would be helpful for the guy to tell the server. I'm soft spoken so it's much better if I try to say what I want to order.

SnowedIn · Answer

U less she explicitly told me or asked me to do so, I wouldn't even suggest it.

provokeesmokee · Answer

No. I tried letting him, once, by telling him what I wanted. I did also have to go to the washroom, so I went, but when I came back he revealed he forgot what I wanted (chicken alfredo) and instead told the waitress to come back after I came back.

It's a waste of time. I'll order for myself.

thatshydork · Answer

Some do, some don’t. Also depends on what you mean by ordering for them. If you mean picking something for them at a restaurant, I’d rather pick it myself. If you just mean telling the waiter/waitress what I picked, then I don’t have a preference on who tells them what I want.

Screenwriter · Answer

It's according to the woman, I'm sure, and the restaurant.

If the food is unfamiliar to the person, might be nice to have someone order for you according to how well they know your tastes, OR they order to give you a general overview of the food, if it's something new to you.

But if you're at a restaurant where the food is familiar to you, why would you want someone to order for you? I wouldn't..

DizzyDesii · Answer

Only if he orders something I always get. If he orders something random, then I’d be pissed that one of us is about to waste money

Anonymous · Answer

personally, yes. it gives me anxiety just having to say my order, i have to word it in my head first. but if he does it, all the pressure is off and i can relax.

Sanser · Answer

I dont order without knowing what she wants but when we have to lrder to the waiter I tend to talk for both of us. I don't know if women like that but i feel its comfortable 🤷🏽‍♂️

ArrowheadSW · Answer

I have never ordered for a woman in a restaurant, that I can recall. I wouldn't feel comfortable doing it. If she were unfamiliar with the menu, I'd explain it to her and let her make the choice.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I don't think I'd ever presume to know what she is feeling like, just let her order what she wants herself.

The only time I'd order it for her is if she is running late or in the washroom and asks me to.

more_than_a_guy · Answer

In my experience yes, we discuss the food, and she tells me what she would like to eat. Then when the waiter comes, I tell him about both of us, what would she like and what I would like. It just happens. Maybe to see some initiative and checking how the guy talks to other people (like being rude to waiters is a red flag, rightfully so).

_SillyShoes_ · Answer

I don't know about other people, but I don't.

If they want to suggest something they believe it delicious and that I'd like I am open to it, but ordering for me without asking first or elaborating on what they're ordering - no.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

I’ve been on dates where we discussed what we wanted to eat. If she didn’t say any custom alterations I’ve ordered for both of us and it seems chill.

4ngelic · Answer

if he knows what i like then its all good but if he has no idea then no. what if he orders me something mid, too expensive, etc want to eat something i like

richardcory · Answer

Seems strange to me. Why wouldn't a women want to order for herself, she knows what she wants. Making suggestions "the X is really good here", but no more than that

Sparkie460 · Answer

I would let her place her own order first. If she wanted me to order for her, I would.

Little_Bumblebee · Answer

No, I would feel quite iffy about that. He's not my parent and I'm not a child. I love it when he gestures to me to order first.

Shamalien · Answer

I don’t always do this, but I definitely have before and have had no complaints. Discuss what you are getting so you know what she’s going to order, then beat her to it when the waiter arrives :P

Yannishka · Answer

Unless I already told you what I want, no. I want to eat what I want to eat. You either "order for me" what I want or not at all.

Sirenboobzilla · Answer

Only if I've already told him what I want. Otherwise he's smart enough to never pressume

katiesmuff · Answer

Much easier to get what you want by ordering for yourself!

asphaltrhymes · Answer

I'd say no because I'd not want a woman ordering for me if I could order myself lol 😆😁

Sweetsurprize · Answer

No, I have a voice thank you very much. I can speak for myself.

Boomchakalaca · Answer

A salad for mi lady… mmm no! He can order my drinks for me as i always choose water.

Nikki1989 · Answer

No, I am more than capable of placing my own order.

RavVid · Answer

I am answering more in the sense they can like it and that's surprising as hell.

slatyb · Answer

Like everything else, some do, but I expect most do not.

Anonymous · Answer

I'm guessing most wouldn't unless he knew her to a T. And even then she could just want something different.

Minahh · Answer

I don't. Like even my 7 year old niece orders what she wants.

chicken_nugget24 · Answer

I do because I have anxiety so it helps when he orders for me 😂

Blueeyes81 · Answer

That always seemed like a rather condescending tradition. She knows better than I what type of food she's in the mood for.

HippieVeganJewslim · Answer

Probably not. I hate it when I get ordered for me.

TacosRAwesome · Answer

Yes unless it's a sad salad. I like salads but not sad ones.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

I only vote no because I don't know. Order whatever you want, but we're still splitting the bill :)

als24 · Answer

I'd only do this if I knew exactly what she wanted.

Sasha0426 · Answer

Only if I haven’t been to said place before and he has.

Fuentes · Answer

Lol how tf am I gonna tell another human what to eat hahhaa

Anonymous · Answer

Sir always orders for me, I'm not smart enough to decide something like that on my own.

Thecubs22 · Answer

Yeah. Just like opening doors and ladies first. Just being a gentleman.

petitedollbabee · Answer

I don’t. I’m capable of making my own order.

Jazzy54 · Answer

No. I’m his date, not his child.

boobliker · Answer

that down to the women your are with I think

Christoff92 · Answer

Yes. But it's very sweet of him to do so.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

She would like it if she told him what she wanted.

msc545 · Answer

No idea - I don't do this, never have.

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