How do you cope with your S. O.'s mood swings?

[TrueConfection]

Does your SO have gentle or drastic mood swings? How do you handle them? Do you tip toe around them or confront them? Do you try to help them? What is your way of living with the ups and downs?

[midnightmoon05]

there was a time when I was at a bad position for 2 years. I marked my calendar and noted my time of the month. I thought I had PMDD. My mood was extreme. It was “out of my control”. I was unstable for a week each month.
The good thing was, I was able to track it. So I started to “warn” my family. Then slowly change my behavior because I did not want to “abuse” my kids. Being able to do that helped me prepare my daughters mood during her time. we are able to pinpoint her time of the month. she also notices and verbalizes that she is not in a good mood due to her PMS…so it helps us prepare, listen to her. she is working on it as well and with all our help/support when she feels overwhelmed with her school work/teen life “confusion”

our goal is to be there to solve issues and support each other.
I’m not sure how old your kids are…at some point, we all learn to “take control” of our behavior and as a family to be understanding and help each other. It goes along way to have family love, support. To have one who is willing to listen.

[TrueConfection]

Yes, that is very helpful! I have daughters (grown, but not grown up yet).

[midnightmoon05]

Not grown up yet! 😂
Me too…I’m not grown up myself!

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

My ex had drastic mood swings, I coped by being loving to him regardless, trying to understand where his mood change was coming from and be patient with him.

But time by time it hurt me more and more…

[TrueConfection]

Yes, it can be exhausting!

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

She's usually pretty stable with her moods, but sometimes she can go from sweet and patient to inhumanly icy. If glares could kill, she'd be a mass murderer by now.

I usually try to not get in her way when she's really mad about something, because I know her well and it would be like prodding an already angry wolf - she'll take out her anger on me. Better leave her alone until some of the anger fizzles, and either

• let her come to me with the situation
• bring her something to drink or eat and gently enquire about it

[TrueConfection]

Does that ever get tiring for you?

[Sun_Kim-Ai]

No, because It doesn't happen that often.
The fact that she can intimidate people into place is actually a bonus for me.

[TrueConfection]

Nice!

[exitseven]

When I could tell it was getting to be that time of the month I kept a very low profile.

[TrueConfection]

Low profile is usually best, but it can be exhausting.

[exitseven]

yes but the alternative is worse.

[TrueConfection]

Yup.

[exitseven]

Thanks for the MHO😎

[AviatorTom]

With love... you just have to learn to put up with... I mean, accept. them.

[BasedBaeBecca]

I would say that I am generally not someone who tip toes around people's feelings.
I am very upfront with how I feel and I am honest and fair.
I am able to communicate how I feel in a non-confrontational way which is something I need to do when dealing with someone who suffers from mood swings.
When it comes to my SO we have a deep understanding and mutual respect.
However, I make it clear how their behaviour is impacting me and how I feel.
It is important to do this in a non-blaming way and in a caring and compassionate manner.

[TrueConfection]

You're wise beyond your years!

[sheenagwapa]

my ex is hot tempered I don't know it doesn't affect i am still in a good mood and just try to appease him. he keep sayinh sorry afterwards which i get tired of hearinh so i told him that he will know if i am affected i will clap back since i'm not clapping back then it's fine no need to apologize

[TrueConfection]

You have a great attitude and easy going too!

[sheenagwapa]

thank you!

[lightbulb27]

Try to anticipate and begin supporting with emotional goodness in advance. Be extra kind, clear, understanding. Don't get into arguments, agree as much as possible. If it goes bad, just accept it.

start over... rinse repeat.

Thankfully it's much better.

[TrueConfection]

Rinse, repeat 😱

[Exterminatore]

Wife gets a little over emotional from time to time as is exceedingly common amongst women and with men less often, yet still a behavior we see in them also.


I deal with it like this:


Ignore and repeat when possible. When not possible I retreat to my man cave which seldom happens but during her period may become necessary.

[TrueConfection]

You have a man cave?

[Exterminatore]

Yes…it’s the entire house…but I call it my man cave to appear humble and unpretentious. Lol

[TrueConfection]

Wait... Doesn't your wife live with you? How do you "retreat" in your house?

[Exterminatore]

No, but seriously I do. Got a 55 inc tv, a bar, 2 couches, a cigar humidor, a dart board a whole fridge full of beer and meat and an indoor grill just so I don’t have to go to the kitchen and end up missing a live play in the game. Also independent heating and cooling from the rest of the house and satellite TV with every sports package possible.

It’s also disconnected from the main part of the house. We have a 3 car garage, which is connected but turned it into a 2 car garage and made that lounge out of the extra space.

I call it my man cave but we all use it to entertain guests…. when I’m not being selfish and hoarding it for myself lol

[Exterminatore]

It also has it own entry ways, one from the garage and one to the back patio, that’s how I’m able to perform a tactical retreat.

She lives with me of course, but to hide I turn the volume down on the TV, draw the shades and lock both doors. I usually pull a couch over to Barricade one of the doors just in case she unlocks the door. Kidding. Lol

[TrueConfection]

Sweet!

"Barricade the door" 😂😂😂

[Exterminatore]

😂😂😂😂

[TrueConfection]

I try to hide, but my husband and kids always find me. I've spent many hours trying to plan a hiding spot. I haven't figured one out yet.

[Exterminatore]

😂😂😂😂

That’s when you gotta buy a economy size box of tampons. Leave them prominently on the kitchen table.

As soon as they see that they will voluntarily not try to find or contact you for approximately the next week.

This will enable you to hide in plain sight.

😂😂😂

[TrueConfection]

😂😂😂
That won't stop these people! I used to have a similar trick, but it stopped working.

If I could just hide my car...

[Exterminatore]

Hmmmm……. perhaps the shed, or a tree house? Maybe the attic or crawl space?

[TrueConfection]

I have a few places I can try to hide, but if my car is home the search party will be launched.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Tell her to check her ist like an adult because I'm not going to treat her like some porcelain princess. Men act like a flaming asshole and get punched in the face. Female privilege doesn't afford you carte blanche.

[TrueConfection]

I would never punch my husband. 😂

[BoopBoopBeep]

If your husband acted like a raging a-hole to a stranger he'd get hit in the face. That's why men don't act like that to one another. We know it sucks to get hit in the face. I don't give my S. O. privilege to act like a raging a-hole just because I'm dating her. I'm not going to hit her in the face but I do require that she behave like an emotional adult or find somewhere else to be a child.

[TrueConfection]

Gotcha

[SnowedIn]

Help them. And it sucks. Love them and work through it. Coffee and chocolate typically help.

[TrueConfection]

Sweet 💕

[sheikalana]

My partner doesn't have many mood swings but if I see he's a bit more moody I just give him space and let him be the one coming to me when he's feeling better.

[TrueConfection]

That's a good idea! 😉

[Alwayreckles93]

My ex had mood swing I would drink cold water deep breath and try to calm him with a cup of water.

[TrueConfection]

That's one approach I have not tried.

[Exterminatore]

Pro tip: Next time put some cyanide in his water. He will calm right down and probably deserves nothing less anyway.

Chloroform on a dust rag is a good alternative if cyanide is unavailable.

[Alwayreckles93]

@Exterminatore I can imagine his eye balls getting bigger lol

[Exterminatore]

😂 😂😂😂

[worldscolide]

Thankfully she doesn't really have many. but when it happens i love and support her, unless said mood swings push her to do something stupid, then i put a stop to that BS right away.

[TrueConfection]

It's always good to have someone with a level head on their shoulders looking out for you! She's a lucky gal.

[humanearth]

I hide in the tractor shed and work on stuff

[TrueConfection]

Good call! Lucky you have a tractor shed! 😂

[humanearth]

Heck I can hide on 168 acres

[TrueConfection]

That's a lot of space!

[Sparkie460]

I just worked more so I don't have to deal with it. Thank God she has calmed down with her mood swings

[TrueConfection]

Make money and avoid the turmoil... I like it!

[Sparkie460]

It's just what the doctor ordered. Lol

[MissBoogus]

I’m the one with mood swings. I have PMDD. We try to talk things out or practice calming techniques

[TrueConfection]

It's very mature of you to acknowledge your own mood swings.

[midnightmoon05]

I thought I had PMDD. I am not sure…it was so bad for 2 years!! I thought I was crazy!! I felt really bad for my hubby and kids…
I hope yours go away soon. And glad found ways to handle it better.

[BarryLiverstone]

Not well. I didn’t confront them directly like I should have

[TrueConfection]

Would it have helped?

[BarryLiverstone]

Yes, better communication and boundaries would have helped. Don’t you think running away is a bad idea?

[TrueConfection]

It depends. Sometimes people won't take any responsibility for their actions or their feelings.

[BarryLiverstone]

Ya I noticed the same. Why don’t they step up and admit it?

[TrueConfection]

Pride maybe?

[BarryLiverstone]

But if they are in a relationship pride would be blocking trust and connection. It seems like people are motivated often by fear

[TrueConfection]

Excellent point! I hadn't thought of that.

[BarryLiverstone]

Thank you.. I’ll be here all week ;)

[TrueConfection]

Tomorrow's Friday. 😂

[BarryLiverstone]

Omg fr? That’s the best news I heard today! Woot, weekend here we go. Let’s party

[TrueConfection]

🎉 🎈 📅

[BarryLiverstone]

See? If you were in a bad mood now you would be dancing on the rooftop :)

[TrueConfection]

Right! I am, but it's a glass ceiling.

[BarryLiverstone]

Women have been trying to break their glass ceiling for years. So dancing on top just wear shoes

[BarryLiverstone]

And possibly a parachute

[TrueConfection]

That's going up. I'm on top and it's going to hurt when it cracks.

[BarryLiverstone]

Which is why I reminded you to wear shoes. Don’t dance barefoot

[TrueConfection]

😎 Thanks for the advice

[BarryLiverstone]

I got you

[Charliefretz329]

I leave. Distance is my best tool. That and breathing exercises, grounding, and exercise

[TrueConfection]

Maybe I should get a job as a truck driver and hit the road once a week. 😎

[Charliefretz329]

I do sometimes drive for Uber 😂

[TrueConfection]

Do you ever get a moody passenger? 😂

[Charliefretz329]

Working somewhere else is a decent alternative for sure. And profitable

[Charliefretz329]

Occasionally for sure, but I have all the power in that situation 😂 and they don’t want a bad review

[TrueConfection]

Nice! It's probably easier to deal with someone else's attitude of you're getting paid.

[Charliefretz329]

Yes, and you can end the Buisness transaction anytime

[TrueConfection]

Imagine of it was that easy...

[Charliefretz329]

Yes 🙌

[Crushboy29]

I just cry my eyes out silently on my bedroom

[TrueConfection]

Awe 🤗
Things get a lot better once you're on your own.

[Fuentes]

I don't deal with Rollercoasters

[TrueConfection]

Smart!

[CubaPirate]

Councilling therapy or medication

[TrueConfection]

For you or for her?

[CubaPirate]

Both lol