Is it normal for someone to change moods so fast (from extremely happy to upset)?

[Anonymous]

I'm beginning to see an ugly side in my boyfriend. This is the 3rd time he has gone from very happy to furious and threatening to break up, making me feel as if I was the worse girlfriend ever. Then once the argument is over, hours later he goes back to happy as if nothing happened.

All the 3 arguments were created by him; he's the only one raising his voice. He makes an avalanche out of trivial things and I'm left wondering ''omg what on earth happened, we just were happy 1 min ago''. The last argument was because instead of making his tamales with lard, I used canola oil. Even though it came out the same in appearances and tasted good, he still expanded the argument about how I should've included him in every single step and said I had to do it all over again next week, that I stress him out, etc.

It was a great Saturday and he transformed it into one of the worst weekends ever.

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He goes from one extreme to another. One minute I'm the best girlfriend ever and is all sweet and the next minute he's all furious, threatens to break up and makes me think I'm the worst girlfriend ever.

[PositiveNote]

You need to drop that dude like a hot potato. Seriously. I have seen it a hundred times where people take the person as if it's quirk. It's not a quirk, it's a sad indication of trouble like you've never seen it before. Seriously. Run, don't walk.

[Asker]

yeah I'm beginning to think this can't be normal. How can someone go from extreme happy, very sweet and telling me ''You're the best thing that ever happened to me'' or make promises of being with me forever to get upset so easily and make break-up threats on that very same, peaceful day? I'll be honest the last time he got upset (the tamales incident) and the 2 others arguments, he had a weird expression I've never seen before, something about his eyes, as if he was void of emotions or something, some emptyness in him. It gave me the creeps, as if I was dealing with someone different all of the sudden.

[Asker]

His expression literally changed to emptyness and it scared the hell out of me. I'm going to reconsider the relationship and leaving. I can't deal with one moment being happy and the next minutes crying and thinking ''what happened we were so happy just now, why an argument''.

[PositiveNote]

Yeah, you are convincing me I'm right.

[AndrésC64]

He sounds either very insecure or like he may have personality disorder like borderline personality disorder. Or, he's just an abusive jerk.

[awkward_author]

Do you think he might have either Borderline or Bipolar Disorder? In any case, he seems toxic, and you should leave him.