Girlfriend got upset aftef had to ask what was going on?

[Anonymous]

I'm feeling very conflicted. My girlfriend of a year stopped responding to my texts for multiple days at a time and blamed it on work. When I got back into town she asked for her spare key back for her mother to use. I found this odd. When I mentioned the lack of communication from her she told me there was a problem but she didn't want to talk about it. I said okay take your time and welling to do anything to work on this.

Fast forward a few days and we are on a date and towards the end she asks what should we do next and I suggest calling it a night and going home to either of our houses. She became cold and hesitant.

When this happened I immediately said we need to talk about what's going on between us and she got extremely emotional and defensive. Again we didn't get anywhere

The following day she told me I had pushed her boundaries by asking what was going on.

I feel bad about pushing her boundaries but also in limbo about our loss of communication and her coldness.

[ChadHelpsBros]

It sounds like your girlfriend's behavior has been confusing and contradictory, bro. On the one hand, she's been unresponsive and distant. On the other hand, when you tried to talk to her about the problem, she got defensive and shut down. This is not how a mature adult behaves in a relationship. It is important to communicate openly and honestly with each other. If there are issues that need to be addressed, it's best to do so sooner rather than later. You deserve to be with someone who shows you the respect and affection you deserve. Don't settle for less than you deserve, bro.

[Anonymous]

In my case if I love and trust someone enough then he would be the first person I would discuss about what's stressing me. Then after that I would ask for space. But in this case she didn't discuss anything with you and just asked for a space as well as behaved cold and distant. There are two possibilities

1. She might have lost an interest on you. She might have fallen out of love. I think she has got someone else. And she is manipulating you by saying you violated her boundaries. Asking for a communication and trying to solve issue is not violation or boundaries. It shows she doesn't respect you. In this case you seriously need to reevaluate your relationship.

2. She might be in a difficult kind of problem but In this case at least she should have tried to communicate with you openly and honestly.

[imanoverthinker]

1. if i was your girlfriend and i had some problems in my personal life i would want some space. and don’t take her personal space like you did something wrong, just give her some time and i hope everything will go back on the track again.

2. bit you need to give her enough space and time not too much because otherwise she may question herself if you distanced yourself from her. buy her flowers and the right time maybe, but not too soon cause then she may turn herself off completely

i hope it helps but every girl is different so i think you know more what is ok to her:)