I asked him if he wants to stay or wait for this (as in “us”). Right now he says he doesn’t know because at the moment he is a life or death situation with helping his family out. He is the only provider for his family (his family lives in another country so they depend on him financially).
I told him that I want to still get to know him. He said that he knows what I’m talking about and he is not against it but right now he needs to be a man and take care of his family but he never leaves the door closed. It’s just a matter of who is willing to walk in that door knowing his situation. I said that I am willing to.
And he replied: “That’s all I ever wanted in my life.”
It’s been a couple of days and I don’t want to bug him. I do text him once every 2 days to share some good stuff that happened to me.
But I wonder if I should leave him alone so he can focus on work. I don’t want to bother him but I do miss him. He use to write me all the time before for 8 months straight when he was struggling but I think it’s worse now.
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I think it's a good idea to give him some space and time to focus on his work and his family, while not completely shutting him out. You can still stay in touch with him and share some positive things that happened to you, but it's important to show that you understand and respect his situation. He mentioned that he needs time to focus on his family in order to take care of them, so it's important to give him room to focus on that. You can still show your support and care for him but don't expect to spend a lot of time together right now.
Thank you for your input. 🫶 I will make sure to give him space and check up on him every now and then.
You told him you were willing to walk through the door knowing his situation. It’s time to either be that person, which is going to require great amounts of patience, or it’s time to move on and find someone who is available for a relationship. This is a hard situation for you to be in, but it’s also a hard situation for him. Don’t forget to check in and see how he’s doing, not just share the good stuff happening to you. He needs love too, and it sounds like the love he may need is the assurance that he is doing the right thing.
I understand and yes I’ll do that! I always let him know that I support him and believe in him. Thank you!
You’re welcome 😊
ask to meet in person when he is available. if he can't find time then move on.