Girlfriend and I can’t see eye to eye. Can someone help?

[nighthawk44]

My girlfriend and I work for the same company. We used to work together. We now don’t. I used to be very social and friends with everyone. I was not out sleeping around, I was flirty from time to time. Not with interest tho. There is a woman that my girlfriend knows from work but it’s nothing personal. Just know each other and have talked here and there. In my job I crossed paths with this same person. I was in an area she was. She casually how I liked the new job. I just told her not bad so far and kept it moving. This happened after I sat for a minute to take care of forms I needed to. I didn’t think anything of it. I know my girlfriend knows her also. I didn’t think much of it. A week or so later I my girlfriend brought her up. I mentioned how I seen her recently. She got upset I never said anything about it and was upset in that brief moment, I didn’t disclose I was dating her. She claims I had the perfect opportunity but I chose to hide the relationship, which isn’t true. I talk about her all the time. I was just not there for any other reason except to get my work done. I’ve never hid it or acted shy about it. So, big fight. I have her that reassurance. I love her. Only want her. I’m completely dedicated and only want her. I think the world of her and would never want her to hurt because of me etc. Went on for a few days. So she said if this person ever said anything she wants me to deny my relationship. Sounds strange to me. What ended up happening is I seen this person shortly after who mentioned to me they seen my girlfriend and how much she liked my girlfriend. I told her I much I love my girlfriend. Since we had a fight, I didn’t want to hide it. So, knowing she “wanted me to deny it,” I’m not going to act like she doesn’t exist. Now she wants to end the relationship because I’m disrespectful to her for another girl. I see this as completely unreasonable. What am I missing? Help!!

[Finchie40]

It sounds like your girlfriend is screwing around behind your back , trying to play a victim when really she is the pos When a girl starts accusing you of little things that really mean shit and tries finding flaws in you when really there isn’t any , it’s a sign that she is clearly up to no good and trying to play a victim for her own selfish actions and behavior , pointing fingers at you like you are the bad guy when she is the bad one , Do yourself a favor and let her go , Girls like that don’t waste your time with , they only think of themselves and do what they feel is best for themselves, she clearly doesn’t trust you or respect you , she just likes the convenience of you , and just stringing you along until something better comes along, she doesn’t value you , When a girl loves you and values you she makes you her top priority , never settle for someone that can’t make you their top priority , They see no wrong in their doings , when a partner can’t wear your shoes like they expect you to wear theirs , it’s best to walk away and realize you deserve better than that , So don’t sit there with Sucker written on your head , she is a selfish whore period , that only cares about herself . She is manipulating you to get her way she doesn’t know how to give back in return , you will only be digging your own grave by trying
To keep a girl like that by your side

[Dysney1023]

Okay okay don’t listen to the people calling her crazy. They are not psychiatrists. I do however see your side. It sounds like you genuinely love her and want to make this work. You want this to be resolved. She is not in the right however. No matter how blinded she is. We as humans can all get that way. There is no excuse to treat you like a cheater. You are not cheating if you are simply talking to another woman. That’s malarkey. Sadly a lot of people don’t understand this is a great opportunity to have a open mature conversation. You both deserve to give this a shot if you care about her. Lol at people saying to just dump her. You want to build resolution skills not be avoidant. It sounds like you’re not at all avoiding which is good. You have the tools to make this work but it does take two. She needs to be equally on board. Don’t let her minimize you. You are her equal. You deserve respect. See and if she doesn’t respect you, which I am sure she does, give her space. Cuz tbh disrespect is a huge red flag. I would never say you should dump someone unless I knew the whole situation or it was damaging you mentally, emotionally or physically.


So I recommend just talking to her and standing your ground. She has no leg to stand on especially if she is making false claims. You got this bro!! And JEALOUSY is normal. It means she is insecure especially about that lady. She may feel like she is better than your girlfriend. That’s also normal. Key in a long term relationship is working through these hiccups. But only if you love her. Which definitely sounds like you do. ^_^ I hope this helped.

[Smashingdoozy]

One of you should try wearing some higher heels 😊 maybe that will get you at eye level.

In all seriousness your girlfriend sounds insecure about your relationship. Have a proper conversation about it and ask her why she feels the way she does. If she refuses to be reasonable then you make your decision on what is best for you.

[Static_In_The_Attic]

Buy A Step Stool!

Sounds like your girlfriend is nuttier than a snickers bar & if you still love her tell her & show her you love her if you don’t want to lose her.

[boobliker]

firstly it was NOT a relationship as you had just forgotten about it, that's not an action she can be upset about.
I started by thinking it was a test of your loyalty? but now I am think it her getting cold feet.
I think next time you see her call your girlfriend and ask her what she wants you to do
my ex would told me to fuck her hard so she goes away, but my did not so be careful what you do, do.
both could backfire on you.

[LazerBean]

Your girlfriend kind of sounds like a loon. I don't know how you put up with that. That would be a quick exit for me.

[nighthawk44]

It’s hard for me. When I’m home with her, I’m barely on my phone. She has my passcode abs FREE access without permission to to have it for as long as she wants. I don’t go out. She wants and needs help, I’m there. When I go shopping and what not, I bring her. We also have kids we brought to the relationship. I just don’t understand. I get feeling concerned, worried, and afraid. If I don’t mention something, I’m just hiding it. There’s a reason I’m hiding it. It even lead to her leaving the house. I don’t understand the disrespect thing the most. I’ve never done anything to her and I never would. I’ve been down that road in the past and it’s not good. I wouldn’t do it again and I respect and care deeply for it. I just don’t understand her reaction. I’m being crucified.

[LazerBean]

Whenever I have seen a person in a relationship go crazy over something small and start making big accusations over it, a huge percentage of the time it's because the person themself is guilty of what they are accusing the other person of, and their guilty conscience is making them act crazy. Maybe that's not the case here, but you should be worried and do some investigating. Having children definitely complicates things. If the children are not biologically yours then I would definitely advise to leave. Otherwise, I guess see if she will go to couples therapy with you.

[nighthawk44]

Therapy seems like the next step. Or no step at all. She left that night because “I wouldn’t listen to her.” I kept telling her I love her and I wouldn’t do anything to hurt her. She kept saying I am hurting her. She said the person she knows didn’t feel comfortable asking her, but she did me. To her that means I’m making myself “approachable.” I told her I’m not making myself available for other people. It’s just going in a circle.

[LazerBean]

Left you at night over that? Yeah, tbh she's super suspicious. Follow her and see where she goes next time.

[nighthawk44]

She left with her kid to a family
Members house

[lightbulb27]

You sound fine and she extreme. But relationship is about honoring each others wounds. she's got some need to find and protect.

[Nikki1989]

You have your hands full there. I would be ending it and moving on.

[BoopBoopBeep]

Jeez brother you dodged a bullet on that one. She's full-throttle nut job.

[Anonymous]

Do not reward her bad behaviour. But you don't have to add fuel to the fire either.

Stand your ground, be patient, and spend enough time and attention on her that she feels more secure in your relationship.

[strateguy632]

she accused you of hiding? that is awful. say bye bye now and block her.

[exitseven]

She has a jealousy problem and you are all over the place with your friends.

[FunkyMonkee]

Sure! One of you needs to wear higher heels while the other wears flats.

[Sasha0426]

I say let her end the relationship. You don’t need that nonsense.

[LemiaOfThunder]

You need to sit down and clear the air, its normal to have differece of opioion

[msc545]

GRF giant red flag. This girl's going to be nothing but trouble for you.

[Abdulwahh]

Its not like you dating the other girl i dont understand did you know her before you started working there?

[MissBoogus]

She sounds crazy 😬

[nighthawk44]

I’m feeling like I’m crazy. I just can’t understand at all.

[MissBoogus]

She sounds a bit loony and has low self esteem good luck 🤞

[zero444440000]

is she on her period?

[Deformate]

I was literally thinking that too. I just didn't wanna dodge the returned fire lol. It happened over several days after all.

[zero444440000]

@Deformate well you should try and find out when her period starts normally. trust me it with will help with things.

[nighthawk44]

It’s not her period. She’s not due for another week abs a half or so. She might have a UTI with frequent urination. However, she has been having very frequent urination with some cramps. Honestly, pregnancy crossed my mind but I’m snipped. I don’t think this kind of frequent urination would be pregnancy tho? She wakes up multiple times at night to go. Plus before that has been drinking a ton of cranberry juice

[Deformate]

Its not my girlfriend lol. I don't need to know when her period starts.

[zero444440000]

@Deformate oh sorry bro lol.

[zero444440000]

wow she wakes up and needs to pee multiple times at night? thats not good and she should really get it checked out asp.

[Deformate]

@zero444440000 Lol no need to apologise. I thought it was funny lol. I just played up to it is all :P

[zero444440000]

@Deformate lol fair lmao.

[Sasha0426]

I’m going to ask guys this when they show their emotions.

[zero444440000]

@Sasha0426 lol.

[Deformate]

@Sasha0426 Chances are that they probably are lol. I think, in general, men would find that question hilarious.

[zero444440000]

@Deformate lmao true true.

[FatherJack]

EJECT -EJECT -EJECT. Bin her now !!

[In_Trance]

Help?
You want another guy to talk to her?

[nighthawk44]

There wasn’t enough room to add more. This person knows we are dating. I’m very open about my relationship with my girlfriend. Pictures at my desk. Openly talk about my life with her etc. I wouldn’t have been upset if someone I knew, that knew we were dating, just asked her how she liked the new job. People at work do interact. A Guy would ask her. It doesn’t mean she’s acting on anything or going down some path. It’s not personal. She feels it is. If I’m not mistaken, am I crossing some lines?

[Anonymous]

She is a crazy person.

[Anonymous]

She's a mental nutjob, dump her.

[jwmiller95]

She got some screws loose

[shades777]

date someone your height, should fix it

[elontesler3]

lose the zero and get a hero

[EaterPeter]

Welcome to real world

[DreamLife7]

You never mix business with pleasure

[normandi]

Can't see I to I then don't see each other