I've been seeing this guy for about 5 months now, and it's going really well, he's a lot of fun, caring and sensitive, has a good job and own home, takes care of himself, is very easy going.
Recently we were talking about relationships, our views on certain things and how we see the future. He said that yes, he does want to be married some day, with children, as do I, which is great.
When I brought up cellphones, however, things changed. I've always had access to my boyfriend's phones and regularly kept an eye on them.
He, on the other hand, said the furthest he will go is sharing his pin, because he feels that "checking up" on your partner, going through their phone, reading their private messages is all toxic behaviour, and he will have no part in this. He also said "what are you hiding?" is not a legit reason to go through someones phone and if I have doubts or worries just talk to him about it.
What do I do? I've always been adamant about checking phones, but he makes some good points.
