Guys, True or False: I would be extremely bothered if my girlfriend did these tasks for me on a regular basis?

[Anonymous]

I would feel extremely uncomfortable if my girlfriend did the following for me:

1. Held the car door open for me
2. Brought me flowers at work
3. Pulled the chair out for me at dinner
4. Insisted and paid for our dinner in front of my family
5. Held the umbrella for me when it rained
6. Got down on one knee, and proposed in front of all our friends
7. Carried all our luggage at the airport
8. Told me to step aside so she could open a jar for me
9. Offered to spot me at the gym
10. Insisted she drive my car all the time

There is no way I'd "allow" my girlfriend to do these things! Sexist or not, these are things men should do

I would 100% love it if my girlfriend did all these things. I wouldn't care if she did these things for me!

Updates

8 mo

Some say chivalry/gender roles should be dead as women can do most of these things that men tend to do for their partners, but if you phrase it like this, like what if she did all these things for you...most are still like, these are men's jobs/me man. me lift. me pay! Either way, it's what works for YOU and YOUR partner, everyone else can do what they want.

[ohsheeT]

Oh that is just totally so wrong

Because you forgot a couple things

She has to put it in and then she has to ride it until I tell yeehaw dukes of hazard


You know what I was 20 years old I meant this older woman and everything that we would do she wanted to pay for it and it kind of pissed me off. Then she wanted to start paying my rent I said no and then I used to race dirt bikes and she wanted to buy me a brand new dirt bike. And she did
As I was coming down the street I've seen the shop truck from the Honda shop in my driveway
My roommate and delivery guy were unloading the bike and I pulled up got out I asked Mike I good did you get a new bike he said I wish he said no it's yours

He said dude this is sweet when did you get this I said I didn't and I told the guy that was mistake
He gets out a little clipboard it has paperwork on it

It has my name on it and then underneath it it has her name and I said no there's a big mistake here I said you're going to have to take it back

He said it's already paid for and I said that's the problem I didn't pay for it... My roommate Mike is saying so what.. I told the guy again he had to take it back Mike is going I'll take it I'll take it.

I had to wait 3 days for her to get back from Colorado but I broke up with her just because of that well because about 10 other things she tried to buy me no
That's the reason why I have a job

If my girlfriend ever did all the above I would tell her a couple times stop it please I mean if it was spur of the moment type situation but if she tried to do it every single time for me no way no way I have two arms I have two legs...

I had another girlfriend her parents were having this party type thing barbecue and we went there and next thing I know she walks up and hands me a plate of food I go with this and she goes your dinner and I just kind of like looked at her and I saw her mom going over and handing her dad some food
She went over and got her plate of food just came back and sat down next to me

I finished eating and she noticed and she started to get up she goes here let me have your plate I said no I'm fine I'm good. And when she finished her plate I grabbed a hold of it LOL I took it into the kitchen and I started doing the dishes.

She walked in and she was what are you doing I said I'm washing my hands she knows you don't have to do that I'll do that I said no you will I'll do it and when I finish I walked over and give her a big hug and I said baby please never ever do that again she said what I said don't ever fix me a plate of food please don't do it she goes what I want to and I said I don't want you to I can do it myself
Some guys might like that but I think it's rude when a woman makes her man a plate every night and he sits on his ass she does dishes she cooks it she does everything I say bull shit
At least for me it is I don't like it I want her to take care of her business I'm going to fix her plate sit down and relax I'll do the same

[Pohjolan]

[Jamie05rhs]

1. "Held the car door open for me"

Yeah, sorry; not happening. I can open my own doors, thank you.


2. "Brought me flowers at work"
I don't mind. However, receiving cut flowers doesn't do much for me. Don't get me wrong: I like flowers. I just prefer that they were planted in the ground.


3. "Pulled the chair out for me at dinner"
No; don't do that.


4. "Insisted and paid for our dinner in front of my family"
I wouldn't like that, either.


5. "Held the umbrella for me when it rained"
Sure, I guess. But I actually like to hold it for her.


6. "Got down on one knee, and proposed in front of all our friends"
The proposal part doesn't bother me. But I think it would be better if it was private. Because I want to have a serious discussion with her, and I don't want to embarrass her.


7. "Carried all our luggage at the airport"
Hell to the no. I'm not making my woman carry my shit. I'm the one who carries bags around here. That's what I'm good at. That's why I'm a man.


8. "Told me to step aside so she could open a jar for me"
Nah. Don't do that shit. That's a strike.


9. "Offered to spot me at the gym"
If she can handle it...


10. "Insisted she drive my car all the time"
Nope. Sorry. Nope. She can drive it OCCASIONALLY. That's it.

[Jamie05rhs]

I agree with your update.

[TheSpaceGnome]

1. Doesn't bother me
2. Doesn't bother me but also not interested.
3. Doesn't bother me.
4. Won't complain but I'd give her my portion of the costs in cash.
5. I don't use umbrellas, thoughtful, but you can keep your lighthing rod.
6. If she was a match, I'd say yes.
7. I don't fly or have luggage, If I did, it would be on wheels.
8. Doesn't bother me even though I can get it get it open myself, if i can;t get it open, odds are she can't either.
9. I don't date musclely women and I don't go to the gym. If I did go to the gym, I'd want a spotter, but only one stronger than me incase I burn out, otherwise whats the point?
10. Insisted she drive my car all the time.

[TheSpaceGnome]

*10. I'm fine if she drives (forgot to edit that one with an answer)

[Grovermint]

1. Held the car door open for me - I'm ok with this
2. Brought me flowers at work - I can't smell anything and don't care for flowers.
3. Pulled the chair out for me at dinner - I'm ok with this
4. Insisted and paid for our dinner in front of my family - I'm ok with this
5. Held the umbrella for me when it rained - im ok with this
6. Got down on one knee, and proposed in front of all our friends - hell yeah. Why not?
7. Carried all our luggage at the airport - I'm ok with this
8. Told me to step aside so she could open a jar for me - I suppose that's fine. I'm not sure if I my condition would worsen at some point, requiring her to do so.
9. Offered to spot me at the gym - we can be gym buddies. That sounds fun. Despite me not caring for the gym.
10. Insisted she drive my car all the time - I'm ok with this. I can't drive, anyway due to my possibility of having seizures at any time.

[Lionman95]

True if I had a girlfriend doing all those things for me I´d feel completely useless in the relationship and maybe also break up. Or more realistically it would make me get lazy and I would take for granted because if she does my parts and her parts in a relationship why should I bother to improve and be at my best.

[stepyo99]

Wow! A girl who doesn't expect to be a pampered princess and also wants to demonstrate her affection towards me by helping me out? Where do I find a unicorn like this?

The hypothetical is unrealistic because half of the things listed are things I don't mind doing and can do better than her anyways. But none of these actions would make me feel uncomfortable. I would love to have a girlfriend/wife who went out of her way to help me just like I try to find ways to help her.

[molonski2]

The umbrella , and the spotting would be okey , assuming she is strong enough to assist , but yeah , I'd struggle with most of those , the payment in front of family - hahahaha , that would be my money anyhow.

[Shockya69fr]

Because sometimes A good Queen want to show appreciation towards her Kings by catering to with out just sex meaning its not just the sex she genuinely loves you especially for her to do allthose things. She’s tell thank for really make me happy.

[Astarlessnightsky]

In the middle, most things i don't mind, but prefer if my girlfriend/wife wouldn't do them.

Eg. the umbrella would just simply poke my eye out, due to our height difference.

[DarkWinterNights]

Some of those things would be nice once an awhile, but a lot and definitely altogether would make me uncomfortable.

[DarkWinterNights]

Per the update, basically women have abandoned their gender roles, but still expect men to fulfill theirs. If women’s roles were stereotyped and sexist, aren’t to the ones expected of men?

[Asker]

We're all on this so called equality binge, let's allow everyone to do everything and anything, but if you sit there and ask women do you want to mow the lawn, and men, do you want to be in charge of doing your daughers hair every morning---eh, it's like no. We want some things to change be it for me or for women, but if we are all honest, we like or feel comfortable in certain gender roles vs. wanting to abandon them altogether.

[Asker]

*be it for men or for women

[ImalwaysrightOK]

I'm more traditional. I like a thoughtful girl, but most of the things you mentioned are things a guy should do.

[Jamie05rhs]

I'm not traditional at all. But even I agree with you when it comes to this list.