Great chemistry, wrong race?

Anonymous
I live w my roommate, who became a best friend of mine. Literally two peas in a pod

He's 28 and Im 27. We had a shirt lived friends with benefits situation until I called it off because he led me on. I agreed to be strictly sex even tho I had feelings for him, but I was down to just accept it and simply enjoy having great sex.

Things got complicated when he led me on, making it seem he was developing feelings for me. Acting possessive. Even though I had feelings for him. I wasn't down for mixed signals, so I stood my grounds..

A few months back, he admitted to having romantic feelings for me but wanted an open relationship. I told him no and to stop playing w my emotions for him. He leaves ot at that. A few days later, he took back about having feelings for me bc he was "confused and lost." Fine, I've already buried those feelings for him and treating him as a best friend.

The issue is that we have chemistry. He looks at me like a lover and always finds excuses to put his hands and body on me. "Playfully" smacks my ass and humps me as a "joke"


He doesn't want to be in an actual monogamous relationship w me bc he preffers white and Asian woman. (He's a mix of both) and wants to be w me bc I fill in his emotional needs.

I told him we could be together, but monogamous and he has since stepped back. I left it at that.. and we've been at a tango since the chemistry is great. There's a spark there, but I won't commit to an open relationship w a man who highly preffers white and Asian. When he dreams of a perfect life... it's with a white girl, lol

He won't commit to a closed relationship bc of my race.. even tho he would close it for his preferred race.


I don't understand racial preferences... he's willing to miss out on someone great bc he wants his preferred race?
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8 mo
He also panicks when I talk to a guy, whether it's over text, dating sites or bars... I'm searching for love and relationship, I've only been w two men (includes him) in my life.. It's exhausting and we are too old to be playing these sorts of games.
Great chemistry, wrong race?
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