What is 'micro-cheating', the latest dating term?

[gayesblog]

And how to recognize Micro-Cheating in a relationship? What are the signs that your partner is doing it? And what to do about it?

[DaveJord]

Seriously micro-cheating... it's just cheating. I had a girl freind actually go out on a date with guy. She said she did not cheat on me, because there was no sex. I said you cheated by accepting the date, that you can violate trust on emotional level and it's the same as or just as bad as physically cheating.

She insisted that even though it was a guy she just met a few days ago, they only went out as freinds, because she wanted to be his freind and it had nothing to do with cheating.

Cheating is cheating.

Micro or Macro... micro meaning a smaller or more detailed portion of a large segment, and macro meaning larger, but less detailed part of the segment.

So, calling something micro makes people think it less significant, when in reality its actually more detailed and specific form of cheating.

So as in the example above, my girlfriend meets a guy at an event, then links up with me a few days later for a dinner and drinks. She is actually engaging in the process of building an emotional bond with this guy, that has the potential to turn sexual at any given time for any reason. And to me that is worst then just getting drunk at the club one night and having sex and immediately regretting it.

[Lydia_deets]

I agree and sorry to say but no one goes out of there way to go on a date with someone of the opposite sex that they just want to "be friends" with. That's not right and I'd actually consider this worse than a one time mistake as well. If someone is interested in another person, they obviously don't love their current partner enough smh

[DaveJord]

@Lydia_deets Yup, obviously we did not work out. But micro or macro or how ever they want to categorize it... cheating is cheating and you do not have to have sex with someone to be a cheater.

And yes, that was my take on the situation... she obviously did not care all that much about me. I would have kept dating her, but she wanted commitment, and I could not do that with someone that dates other guys, while dating me.

She was toxic.

[Sayitagain]

I’m a sex and marriage and family therapist and I’m inclined to agree with this sentiment totally

[DaveJord]

@Sayitagain She was victim of childhood trauma, and I knew that going in. Serious abandonment anxieties. I know some say do not blame the person but blame the disease, but unfortunately the disease is about of who the person is, and she was 42 in therapy and obviously has not worked it out within her lifetime, to reach the point where she can have healthy relationships.

Her parting words to me were, if I think she is bad now, I should have seen her before therapy. Which was actually reassuring to hear, because that a big step for someone like her to say. It means on some level she knows, and she is trying to work on it. But it's not a path I want to walk with here, if these are things, she feels are right and justifiable.

[DaveJord]

Apart of... not about

[Lliam]

Micro-cheating?
Sounds like something a possessive guy would accuse his wife of if she wears a bikini to the beach or a pool party. He assumes that she is looking for attention from other men.

Or a woman who gets mad at her partner because she sees him notice an attractive female walking by. She thinks he's not supposed to look at any woman other than her. If he does, it means that he wants to cheat.

Accusing people of micro-cheating sounds like a way for insecure people to destroy relationships.

[ShesRad80]

so many silly labels & terms these days, i can't... from the definition online i read-- to me its still cheating. whether its simple as texting/sexting another while in a relationship, there is nothing micro about it. you have people both male and female who sext, secretly text others while married, in a relationship etc --cheating is cheating.

[Lydia_deets]

Exactly. If you feel attracted to someone else, and that you'd actually act on those feelings, it's cheating. If you just look at another person or say something like "oh he's/she's hot", that's innocent and human but wanting to be with someone else, is cheating

[lilBigPotato]

Never heard of it. Either you cheated or you didn't cheat. There's nothing in-between. Maybe you flirted with someone or did something else that made your partner uncomfortable but still they didn't cheat so calling it something like that would still be stupid in my opinion

[OlderAndWiser]

Sounds like someone is inventing a new justification for feeling offended, the national pasttime of the young and easily led.

[MrOracle]

Any of these invented "micro-aggressions" are just a sign that the person complaining has a victim complex and is way too oversensitive. I don't keep such people in my personal circles.

Those people need their baba and their wubby and shouldn't be out in the world on their own until they can grow up. Imagine if they had to face any REAL danger or strife!

[D_Bone_Steak]

Naw eff that term. Cheating is just cheating.

Some people try to justify stuff like flirting... but that's just cheating in my book. You're either exclusive to your partner or you're not.

If you wouldn't do or say it in front of your partner, you're an active cheater. The deception and manipulation is there... even if it's just lies by omission... that's what I'm looking at. If something physical happens at all... it started with that other bullshit first.

[worldscolide]

Its an idiotic term used to shame men for being even slightly off. Like if their behavior slightly changes. Cheating is sex acts with someone who is not your wife or husband. Micro cheating is not a thing. Its the same as micro aggression and other nonsense terms the psychology community have come up with. Also i asked a question on this...

[ProbablyClueless]

"micro-cheating" sounds like something an insecure woman and her girlfriends came up with to justify getting mad at their boyfriends for looking at other women on the streets.

[Sasha0426]

Translation: “No matter what disrespectful thing we do, you have to tolerate. If you don’t, you’re the bitch.”

[ProbablyClueless]

@Sasha0426 Let the record show that those are your words. I did not say that, nor did anything I say imply that. Your choice to construe "getting mad at their boyfriends for looking at other women on the streets" as "no matter what disrespectful thing we do" is your choice and your choice, alone. I do not agree with that interpretation.

[genericname85]

i don't even understand what the word is suposed to mean, cause you didn't define it. but i'm already assuming that it's yet another term that tries really hard to find problems in a perfectly fine relationship.

[Drewtate]

A new fancy term. With men it's being willing to cheat with other women if they are available. With women it's the first stage of monkey branching to another relationship

[Lydia_deets]

Not always, some women just want a different lay. They aren't all wanting a relationship lmao

[Drewtate]

@Lydia_deets if they want a different lay, they looking for a new relationship

[Anemone978]

No such thing.. either they physically cheated or they didn't.. other shit doesn't count..

[Bilboes]

Apparently, people keep creating sub-terms so as not to take responsibility for their mistakes. Gotta love that..

[FreyaRed]

Cheating is cheating and must be punished with end of relationship no matter how 'micro' it was.

[OfMiceandMen]

Is that when someone with a micro-dick humps your leg without really knowing it or feeling it?

[EmmaMary]

'Micro-Cheating' = CHEATING... The End.

[BunBun369]

So you're cheating with an even smaller dick 😂😂😂🤦🏽‍♀️🤷🏽‍♀️

[Simslover92]

I honestly didn't know that was a term used. I thought it was just cheating.

[SolitarySolace]

Too many ways to cheat. Not enough reasons to find and remain in a relationship. Goes to show they’re just not worth the hassle

[catarecute]

has anyone heard of nano-cheating and pico-cheating

[artgorgeous]

Who the hell invents these new terms? cheating is cheating.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Never heard that term before, but it sounds like cheating on a spouse by humping a midget.

[Wonderingguyy]

I don’t know what that means. Cheating is cheating… why does it need a ‘micro’ in front of it?

[Fireguy17]

I don't know what that is.
Isn't cheating just cheating big or small?

[Anonymous]

Micro cheating is, for example, when a woman talks to another man.

[Kelly6]

There is no such thing as micro cheating.

if it’s cheating then it’s Cheating. The end

[msc545]

It is labeling trivial problems such that you can then take umbrage at them and make a scene.

[In_Trance]

This is not the latest thing. This is another layer of retarded

[Jennz6]

Flirting and nothing else

[Jennz6]

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@Simslover92
Maybe just a BJ only

[LunarEclipse433]

@Jennz6 Flirting to BJ, I knew I liked you!!!

[Jennz6]

@LunarEclipse433 thank you, let me do you

[LunarEclipse433]

Please. LMAO

[BoopBoopBeep]

I hate society.

[alice55]

never heard of it what's it?

[ericclayton]

More newspeak.

[Sasha0426]

What’s micro cheating?

[BigDog1989]

It's always been there, it's not new

[BLP11520]

What in the world?

[Anonymous]

Getting a blowjob if you have a micropenis

[iseekpinetrees]

It's just cheating

[Mrtiny]

What is micro cheating?

[Anonymous]

Oh wow