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Long distance relationships DO NOT WORK, unless you're able to resolve the distance issue rather quickly.
People (men and women both) now have access to online dating apps, and so when they can't find their perfect match locally, they realize they can easily seek it from across the globe on an app. And sometimes they might find a great match (often, it really isn't, and only appears to be because the distance can hide the bad stuff they don't want you to know or see about them), but the distance nearly always causes the relationship to fail - usually after you've wasted tons of time and energy on it.
The problem is that people are too picky, too entitled, too demanding, and frequently overestimate their SMV (social market value), because they don't understand (or refuse to accept) what the opposite sex values in a partner. Seeking what you want from a long-distance partner is nearly always just going to waste both your time, and in the end, you almost certainly won't end up with them.
This is why everyone should get off dating apps, go outside into your town or area, and only DATE LOCALLY. Yes, you'll have fewer choices compared to the entire world, so you're going to have to learn to prioritize and figure out what's REALLY important, and you're going to have to give up everything else - if you're lucky, they'll have at least a couple of your "nice to have" traits. The upside is that you now have a REAL relationship with someone who can actually be in your life - someone who can see you several times a week, someone who can drop you off some soup when you're sick, or rescue you when your car breaks down, or someone you can go to events with and really share your life with.
THAT is what is important about relationships, and it's absolutely worth giving up the better-looking person who is 1000 miles away from you (who may be terrible to be around in real life, but seems great over FaceTime).
Obviously you can do whatever you want, but if you try to do a LDR, you will almost certainly agree with what I've written here a year from now when it inevitably fails.
u If we start out not knowing each other at all. . . I hope she isn't ready to move to be with me, because that is very unrealistic.
I am currently engaged and my relationship began as a LDR, but not VERY L. She lived about 80 miles away from me. That distance meant that I could see her every weekend and we could proceed like normal dating couples. After eight months, she decided to move to my hometown to be with me, and we have been living together since then.
In a longer LDR, you need to be brutally honest about how often you will be able to spend time together, how that will affect the growth of the relationship, and your capacity to remain loyal to a partner who you may see only once every three months. And if you only see each other every three months, how long will it take before you are ready to move so the two of you are together?
Optimistic people always respond that you can spend time on Skype or WhatsApp or whatever doing video calls, but I can guarantee you that is not an adequte substitute for spending time together. The desperation involved in being apart may convince you that ytour relationship is rapidly moving forward, but it won't be moving that fast, in the fallacy of that thinking will eventually catch up with you.
I would not advise anyone to begin a LDR with someone they don't already know unless they are close enough to spend a weekend together at least once a month.
How could I be attracted to them if they’re halfway across the world and I never met them in person? Someone can be attractive looking but it takes me really knowing someone to be personally attracted to them. Long distance wouldn’t work for me because to me the whole point of a relationship is someone you can be with/spend time with physically… FaceTime/video chats wouldn’t do it for me…
If I had already established something solid with them beforehand I think it would be easier.
But long distance is difficult for a reason I believe. But yeah, I think it would depend on the distance as well. Too far is harder. It costs money to drive a car or go places, even a plane ticket can be expensive depending on who you talk to.
I guess you have to think they are truly worth it.
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I think I've been on this site too long because it feels like the bulk of people jump into this long-distance stuff nowadays. The topic just pops up an awful lot here.
Every time I've seen this situation in real life, which was a lot as an American stationed in Japan with other Americans, it usually results in a lot of cheating, and the women that would come there with a significant other back at home usually left married to someone different.
When I saw it "work," it was mostly Phillipinos with an arranged situation, and again, lots of cheating took place.
With all that said... I wouldn't waste my time with anything long-distance. One too many times I've dealt with a girl I just busted my nutt on that started crying and telling me they have a husband and kids. Just fantastic stuff (that's sarcasm) ya know.
Like seriously, you got all that going on, didn't tell me about any of it, and now I'm supposed to be like what? feeling sorry for you or something? I just wanted to bust my nutt and have a good time.
Desire/willingness to relocate would be a huge factor. How we vibe in person would be critical. I would also need to see or hear some clearly defined time when we would stop being long distance.
I started a quasi-long distance thing with a lady a few states away. She decided that it wasn't for her (which was disappointing, but I do understand why she felt that way), but the only reason I was down was because we had a great vibe in person and I knew that we could live closer together within a particular timeframe.
Nothing. I miss the feeling of going out of work at the rainy evening and a boyfriend waiting for me with a smiling ways and an umbrella. Standing tall in the crowd, with a smile that makes me think there’s nothing that can worry me when he is by my side.
I was so lucky when it was an everyday thing for me.
That’s what I miss the most and I can’t have it in a long distant relationship.
None. I'd consider it after they relocate, but I'm not going into a relationship with words on a screen or a video image. I can't touch you, we're not together. That's different than if we HAVE been together and now there's distance between us, which I've done most of my life, but if they're going to relocate near me I'd pursue it then.
I met my wife when we lived 2000 miles apart. She just clicked - we had the same sense of humor, she was sexy, we enjoyed playing games together and we wanted to see where it would go. We made a close the gap date and it was the best decision of my life.
If it was a new relationship I wouldn't do long distance. With my current partner I would totally do long distance temporarily. We're already married, have a great relationship and don't see ourselves with no one else.
Well just the fact that you don't have to see them everyday and like it's still like you are single 🤣.
I would have never done one. If someone I was dating up and moved away it is just a break up. Nothing more to say.
If she was willing to put as much into the relationship as I did and if there was an Endgame where we ended up together IRL.
I simply wouldn't ldr are OK at best and at worst a nightmare
Half way across the world? Nothing, I'm not doing that.
Anywhere in the US? Sure, Under the condition that she moved to where I am.
I would never do a long distance relationship. I either want a relationship or not at all. I don't do pretend relationships. And that's all a long distance relationship is.
You can cheat on them and they will probably never find out. So you have twice the sex. Basically you have a texting buddy whose always there for you and a Skype buddy when ya need to jerk off
If I really liked them I'd just relocate. It would be fun/exciting to live together.
She would have to be planning to relocate to where I am within a year, preferably 6 months.
As someone who has been in an ldr with someone from a different country once I will NOT recommend it.
I don't do long distance relationship..
For me people who do long distance relationship no one likes them in short distance.
Not going to happen, ever!
I don't do long distance relationships
not for me as will never see them to hug and kiss
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