Can men and women be "just friends"?

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MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Can they be acquaintances? Sure. Colleagues. Yes. FRIENDS - as in, hanging out with each other alone on a regular basis by choice? Not if the guy is single and heterosexual (with very few and rare exceptions), and the girl is even remotely attractive, and anyone who tells you otherwise is lying to you.

This is not the fault of women - men are simply incapable of platonic relationships with attractive women they are close to if they are single. Sure, a guy who is already in a happy, healthy relationship can be just friends - though he probably won't be for other reasons - but not single straight guys.

Don't believe me? Offer your single guy friend casual sex (tell him you are lonely and are dying for some sex) and see if he turns you down, like a true platonic friend would. Then you'll find out the truth.

by the way, dozens of women who have gone on interview podcasts, who believed that they really had a platonic guy friend, have done this on camera - calling the guy on speaker phone. Every single guy immediately agreed to smash. Because of course they did.

TipsyFr · Accepted Answer

Yes even if you’re physically attracted ! most of my female friends are attractive women in my eyes but I’ve set myself straight as they have a personality that better matches with me as a friend. Ruining the friendship would be a shame as it’s not that easy to get good friends. If one was to say phone me up like in those videos claiming men and women can’t be friends, I must say if I was single I would be tempted but would also decline. You can meet women everywhere but ones you actually get along with platonically not that easy. If I was to agree I’m sure I would end up regretting it.

jennifer_bloom · Accepted Answer

It depends how much desire is involved and how much self inhibition you have if you do meet somebody that is very attractive. I would say yes, I can be just friends with a guy, cause I don't base my mental affections for others, on their romantic value or romantic desirability to me, but a man that only talks to women he wants to date, might be incapable of being just friends with a female.

Zatsuma · Accepted Answer

Yes and no. One always ends up having some sort of attraction for the other and they will some how manage to interfere with whatever relationship you have going on.

AviatorTom · Answer

Not according to Harry...

AaronKrieger · Answer

Yes, but it's not that common where both a girl and boy do just want to be friends - not push it any further. I am like that and will not befriend a girl I'm into, since it's no longer a friendship. I make my intentions known from the beginning for either too

midnightmoon05 · Answer

Just - yes.  anything more than just - NO.  he is not a girlfriend who wants to go shopping with you or listen to girls talk about other guys…

Anonymous · Answer

Yes definitely. Some of my best friends are girls. I used to have a crush on one of them but that didn't work out. Anyways I think I've found someone else now and hope that goes well. But yes I repeat men and women can indeed be just friends. I am saying this as someone from a so-called third-world conservative country.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

For sure, I've had a girl who is a friend since high school and we always got along like brother and sister.

Anonymous · Answer

So long as they actually have friendly motives. A woman can't say she wants to be my friend and then exploit my gender when she starts feeling lonely. That's being manipulative and selfish. Friends don't do that.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

If you need to even ask the question; the answer is "you can't just be friends with that person."

DancingQueen16 · Answer

Sure they can because one of my best friends is a boy and I've never had those kinds of feelings for him

Static_In_The_Attic · Answer

Yes they can until one or both of them don’t want to be just friends.

AnusNdaPainus · Answer

Nope.  Human beings are jealous creatures and you can’t be a good friend to this girl while being a good boyfriend to another

AngryCarl2 · Answer

Yes, I've become friends with my housekeeper. She's a married lady and I don't fancy her at all.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Totally depends if they aren't physically attracted to each other.  If one is attracted to the other then no.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes! I have a male best friend I've known since kindergarten and he is Asexual but prefers masculine people. Im feminine woman straight.

Pete671 · Answer

Yes 100%, I have more female friends than male friends,,,

Lokiion · Answer

Yeah my best friends a female I don't know why you think men and women can’t just be friends

Anonymous · Answer

Rarely, very rarely  Most of the time the guy just wants to bang

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. I have female friends I'm attracted to and not attracted to. The dynamic with each friend is relatively the same with the exception that I might know one longer than the other.

Anonymous · Answer

No, and here is why...

Nikki1989 · Answer

Obviously. Most of my friends are male.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Yes, that happens a lot.

exitseven · Answer

Yes, i have done this before.

Unit1 · Answer

Yes. NEXT QUESTION.

BigDog1989 · Answer

No. They can not, I GUARAN FUCKING TEE IT

BLP11520 · Answer

Most of my friends are women

balyai · Answer

If they know their limits well then yes.

Jmmmfi4 · Answer

Definitely not

LiamJHayden · Answer

Yes.

LavLavLuv · Answer

Of course… 🤷‍♀️

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