I have been in a relationship for nearly a year. My family is very conservative and they don't believe in pre-marital dating. Therefore I have kept my relationship a secret from my family and relatives and I wish to do so until I become fully financially independent. Some of my close friends know about it though.
I don't know why but since few months I'm getting approached by a lot by men. It's not like my social media is to blame because there are very few pictures of me. Neither am I to blame since I'm pretty introverted and appear as cold. I have rejected the ones that do not know my parents by saying that I've a boyfriend. But however recently a guy texted me on Instagram. I didn't think of replying him until he said that he's a family friend's kid (I didn't know him) and he was asking about how we were doing. So I replied and initially he didn't talk about anything other than my hometown and education (we study the same discipline in different universities). However, then he asked for my phone number. I denied it by giving excuses. Nothing happened for a week and I thought he was over me but today again he asked me to share my contact details.
I fear telling him the truth because what if somehow my parents come to know about it? At the same time I don't want to share my contact number with him, that feels like cheating.
What should I do? Besides, is there any way of giving the clue that I'm 'taken' without making it obvious?
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Agreed as below, sorry I’d rather not. You don’t need to justify yourself. If he asks why you can then explain simply I’m not interested. If he does go further you know what type of person he is and just block him that should get the message across. I wouldn’t threaten anyone you never know he may know about your boyfriend at some point good luck let us know how it went ✌️
You can simply say you are not interested. If he still insists you can scare him off telling you will tell your parents if he would force more. As he is already known to your family he would not want that to happen and when he would know that you are confident enough to not hide anything from your parents he would be careful and back off.
Tell them your not interested.