I mean it's not even an old boyfriend. A case of right person wrong time and you've been in touch over a decade. After a few years you both were normal acquaintances who dated other people and when you're single you never asked each other out. (yeah stupid). They got married and you got married after that. But hearing that they got divorced because their partner was abusive, should it make you unsettled? Move you a bit? If you're happy in your new perfect marriage with your perfect partner, would that news even make u think anything? Is it regret? Or is it just feeling bad for them.
Because all this time you dated other people but deep inside had kept news of that person and talked to them with an open heart. You only made your relationship public when that person got married. But the week you got married they get divorced. Why does it hurt to see them hurting? Is it cheating on your partner?
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hmmm sounds like the guy who you never dated was your first option
I've delt with something like that. i had this friend where she liked me, and i never even looked at her like that. then when she got in a relationship i realised i liked her too. then i found someone else and was happy with them but in the back of my head i wasn't sure what i would do if the first girl became single because i saw her a the perfect girl for me, even if i did care about the second girl
similar situation for you. there's that" what if" thought in the back of your head on what wouldve happened if you got with the first guy. although i didn't get married to mine so you took that shit to another level🤔😂
its not cheating, but that shit ain't exactly harmless either😂 its kinda fucked up but you can't really control it honestly. the fact that you didn't go public with your relationship tells meyou were waiting on him. the fact that even in this post you said something about you being stupid for nothing dating him when you both were single tells me you still having feelings for the dude. what you should do about it? fuck if i know, i never got that far i ended up losing both haha.
Maybe the first person is perfect for me.
But I also feel since my marriage ended up being so horrible and my husband being so emotionally verbally abusive that I am trying to cope with that? Compared to my husband, everything seems like a better option.
Most of the time I tell myself it's alright, you fcked up, nothing u can do about it except for learning a lesson and being careful in the future.
But he does pop up quite frequently. I will never ever think about him in a romantic way. That's just shitty but regret and guilt is always there. with the first guy, it's been 10 years of what ifs. I'm not a spiritual person but I feel like some shit aren't just meant to be.
But even though my life is in shambles, hey he got his perfect fairy tale! It's because we didn't end up together that he has been able to find his wife.
That you for you response by the way.