Kissed my coursemate’s housemate while drunk and said I wanted to go on a date. Realised that I didn’t want to while sober. What should I do?

[Nottoxic]

Was on a night out for my coursemate’s birthday with her and a bunch of her friends. Ended up getting quite drunk, as did my coursemate. Was dancing with a group of her friends, particularly though one of her mutual friends who I had talked to earlier in the night and was interested in.

Around this time, I saw my coursemate’s housemate stood on her own (she hadn’t really been drinking), so I went over to talk to her. One thing lead to another, we end up kissing and I stupidly said in my drunk state that I wanted to take her on a date, which she was onboard for.

As soon as we stopped kissing, my coursemate came over and asked if we were both okay. Realised basically straight away that I had made a mistake.

Two days after the night out, the housemate messaged me on Instagram asking how I was. Since the night out my coursemate has seemed off with me (we usually message very frequently, however she seems different in her messages lately).

Don’t want to upset my coursemate by dating her housemate and I also don’t want to hurt the housemate by rejecting her, but I understand there isn’t really a win-win in this situation. I feel like I’m probably making a bigger deal out of it than it is but I am very close with my coursemate and genuinely consider her one of my closest friends, I really don’t want anything to come between that.

Any advice would be greatly appreciated. Thanks for taking the time to read this.

[Ozanne]

Before you get all excited, there's a possibility that she might not even push the issue. If not, then don't bother making anything out of this. There's a chance this can just fizzle out on its own. Remember, sometimes a woman will say yes to things too just to have fun in the moment. For all you know, she might have just said yes to your date to be nice.

But if your friend actually comes back to you with, "My housemate is asking about you," then you must know that avoidance will no longer work. You'll have to say, "I nearly forgot about that, but sorry--I said some things after I had some drinks that I shouldn't have said." If you're pressed for reasons, you can just say that at this current point, you're just not interested in anyone." You don't owe anyone an explanation beyond that, because it's your own private reasons what you are or aren't looking for. It's just too bad that some alcohol got in the way with some mixed messages, and you can say you've learned from that so it doesn't happen again. Good luck!

[HelpfulWoman]

To be fair, you have the best excuse to let her down "sorry but i was drunk". better rip the band aid off rather than let her stew, because 100% she's also saying about you to the coursemate which may be giving you the weird interactions

[BadApple69]

I would first talk to your coursemate. I would apologize to her and tell her you were drunk (I'm sure she knew that). Explain to her what you just told us that you don't want anything to come between your friendship and kissing her housemate was a mistake.
Once things are smoothed over with her, ask her advise on what to do with the housemate. She would know her housemate better than you and might know things that you don't know.
Communications is key. Good luck!

[OlderAndWiser]

Your coursemate is irritated that you are ignoring her roommate. Go on one date; you might actually enjoy it. If you don't feel any sparks or chemistry, at the end of the date, tell her you don't think you two are a good match, kiss her on the cheek, and say goodbye.

[Summeroflove]

I would say. Go on the date. See how it goes and if you don’t like it. Then don’t go on another date.

[DeeDeeDeVour]

"So sorry! It's all just a big mistake."

[molonski2]

Just tell her the truth mate , you are young , just be gentle , blame yourself.

[Anonymous]

time to change your name and move out of the country.

[Sasha0426]

Tell her you didn’t actually mean what you said because you were drunk.

[KrakenAttackin]

So bow out. Just say you are "really busy" right now the women so.

[shades777]

kiss her while sober and say i change my mind

[zillllll]

Don’t go

[Anonymous]

Just apologise