Was my boyfriend too strict or she was a toxic personality?

Anonymous

Our week-long sailing trip with my boyfriend as the captain on his dad's boat turned into a wild ride thanks to one friend's girlfriend, let's call her "I." Ι'll provide you some context-examples

Right from the start, things got rocky when we tried to choose food at a restaurant. I and her boyfriend, J, had picky tastes, and she created drama out of nothing because she didn't like what the rest of us ordered. She complained about every little thing in general

Mo my boyfriend suggested using outdoor showers for economy in water. She didn't like it and when my boyfriend one day showered inside she looked anrgily at him.

At a barbecue night we shared steaks from a bowl that was in front of her , and I hardly ate until there were just a few left. Then, she accused us of not leaving her any food and devoured the salad by herself

She kept bashing her boyfriend, behind his back and dropping passive aggresive comments a about him in front of us

She wouldn't stop complaining about expenses and she only spent 100 euros for the week

Her boyfriend passed her with a joint that was half smoked but had much to smoke left and she told him "oh now you remembered me" even though she hadn't paid for weed.

When I made breakfast for everyone and they thanked me, she said "I didn't hear you all thanking me for washing the dishes"

Most of us chose to ignore her but my boyfriend, as the captain, couldn't. Her negativity started to rub off on him, and he responded more sharply. One day she alerted my boyfriend to a something 200m away. Her passive-aggressive response: "I won't speak again."

He only was compassionate when she felt nauseous, offering her dry food and comfort.

After thinking it over, I told my boyfriend to chill out a bit in his responses to I. He tried to be less sharp. She also told me she was afraid to ask my boyfriend questions about our plans because she thought he was too strict. Now, we're wondering if we were too hard on her.

Who was at fault here?

Was my boyfriend too strict or she was a toxic personality?
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