How messed up is it to fall for someone because they remind you of someone else?

Anonymous

I know its bad to compare, but here it goes. Tripp is an exboyfriend. I wanted to reach out to him but lost contact. The only bad thing about that relationship was that we were young, he was younger, and we pressured one another too much. I wanted things that would cause him to have to eventually push back his goals. He wanted me to leave my family and life behind and join him in another city within only the first few months of being together. He went so far as to try to forge my signature on his lease.

Tripp and Max are both engineers, both wear glasses, both are the same height, and both have parents who could get in the way of what we have. Their voices sound exactly the same so I seek comfort in that and have even started having Max say the exact words of Tripp just so I can be reminded of what once was. Max is a more older and mature Tripp. He is not depressed like Tripp was but may be battling his own mental demons especially since he lacks a relationship with God. The sexual tension is stronger with Max, but the other day, I was thinking about Tripp while doing things with Max, so I got turned on even more. Both men are indecisive and would easily change their opinion to please me. You would think I like that, but I don’t. Max just seems more ready. I am trying not to pressure Max into things like I did Tripp. Its been 4 years and I don’t even know if Tripp is alive.

How messed up is it to fall for someone because they remind you of someone else?
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