Does anyone truly ever love anyone?

[Anonymous]

I was listening to a clip of an interview of Jada Pinkett Smith today and she was talking how her an Will Smith have been separated since 2016. So the whole slap thing went down when they weren't even together. And she explained that after years. They got tired of trying to make it worth. Now I know the name Jada is going to dredge up a lot of personal opinions. But this is more of an example of the bigger problem I'm talking about. Knowing that basically everybody you enter into a relationship is just chasing thier own personal happiness, what is the point of a relationship. I mean people will tell you they love you. But what they really mean is, "I love the feelings I experience with and around you. And as soon as those feelings start lessening, as soon as this stops feeling shiny and new. Then I'm going to seek that feeling elsewhere". I wonder do women feel this way about men as well. This isn't any kind of bitterness. Just a realization. What's the point of a relationship when you realize women are incapable of real love?

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@LiamJHayden gets it. a lot of you women would do well to listen to him. Most of you just THINK you love. You're equating "emotion" to love. That's infatuation, that's limmerance, that's not love.

[Rei13]

It depends on who you’re looking at as a role model or what your own personal relationships look like. Based on your last sentence and your paragraph in general I’m just going to take that as you just have bad experiences to draw upon. If I went off my parents I’d assume neither men or women are capable of real love (or at least not healthy love) but then I just have to look at my mom’s parents to know that isn’t true. They were so happy together and when my grandma got sick my pap-pap did everything for her that she used to do for him. My sister is in a loving relationship (around 15yrs for her) and so am I. Honestly my favorite part of a relationship has always been when it wasn’t shiny and new anymore. At that point both you and your partner know what is good about both of you but also what your flaws are. If you can get through that portion together after the honeymoon period is over then you know you truly love each other and can hopefully work through anything together.

[jennifer_bloom]

I think love has three factors, one is moral demands, one is devotion, one is mutual mood boosting. I’m single, but when I see somebody I love and make them smile, that makes me happier than doing things to make myself happy. Finding meaning in your loyalty when things are hard can also boost your mood when you have to do crises management work that seems achingly unfulfilling. I remember when my mom was throwing up and my dad wanted me to hold her back while she threw up. That was depressing, and I remember when my dad cleaned up my vomit when I got sick as a child. I find, when you view the relationship as your home, and not your opportunity, you stay loyal when it gets tough.

[Anonymous]

Not in the USA they don't. It's not a nation that cherishes the values that nurture a healthy relationship or that inspires loyalty. It cherishes that values that accelerate self destruction. Quickly.

[LiamJHayden]

Yes, some do. But those people realize that true love is a commitment, not emotional.

[Asker]

Exactly! And since virtually no one commits anymore to begin with. Or only till they stop feeling emotionally connected through boredom or what have you. I think we can agree the vast majority of people do not love eachother.
You get MHO!

[MzAsh]

It’s human to pursue personal happiness. Everyone does, regardless of their marital status. I don’t think love is their issue. I believe they have love, but not compatibility. Their desires don’t align.

[Anonymous]

Yes they do. You can't go off of a Hollywood couple. They don't call it Hollyweird for nothing.

[Nikki1989]

I am in love. My best friend is in love. People I work with are in love.

[Lovesoad1]

Most people who truly love someone are either in prison (for stalking) or dead by suicide.

[AmeerX]

Yes they do love for real

[CoolCatMar1]

Yeah.

[Gabriel-Chicanito]

Yes, but unlike vice versa.

[sheikalana]

Yes.

[Jmmmfi4]

WISH I KNEW

[jahaims]

Duh.

[Malwi93]

i sure do

[LostA__Aryen18]

of course they do!