What’s the best way to deal with this possessive woman who I think is a narcissist?

[Anonymous]

I met this woman but she has very toxic traits. Long story short if I don’t reply to a text message she will go onto another way of contacting me. She expects me to not talk to any girls and she claims that she is secure and trusts me but her behaviour betrays her actions

How can I get out of this situation? I like the connectedness I feel to her but her behaviour is just absolutely horrible. She’s ruined my day several times and does not take any responsibility for what she does which is a huge red flag that she could be a narcissist

Updates

6 mo

I blocked her. Cut off all contact. She’s gone

[Anonymous]

Let me tell you something I learned with women long ago. 1. All have a little crazy in them. 2. A good woman recognizes it and does her best to control it. A bad woman conversely will blame EVERYBODY but herself for it.

All you have to do is decide which one she is. If she's the latter end it and move on with your life. There is no fixing her. However if she's the former, there's still no fixing it per se. But what you can do is know where your line is. What you're willing to tolerate. If she truly is the former (and based on your post I think she's the latter) she will straighten herself out.

You always have to remember. You're the guy! You're the sensible one. As long as you're. Truly giving her no reason to distrust you then it's all in her heD. And you CAN'T fix her head. She has to do that. A guy should ONLY reason with a woman to a point. Then if she persists you tell her to get f***ed. It's just that simple. A guy always has to know his boundaries, what he's willing to tolerate with a woman.

[ManOnFire]

She sounds narcissistic and neurotic, yeah. If the connection is making you feel anxious and distressed, it's time to go. You need to just tell her it's not working out, and if she gets angry and goes on the attack, then block her.

[Asker]

Thanks king. The other day she said to me “bye” and I got upset because I have done a lot for her and she didn’t care about it at all. I told her she hurt me really badly and she didn’t even apologise but the moment I talk to another woman she gets very upset. We’re not even together

[ManOnFire]

Oh hell yeah that is absolute narcissism. Cut off everything with her, I cannot stand these kinds of women. You got this, man.

[davado88]

will the next amateur psychiatrist thinking about calling someone a narcissist, please shoot themselves first.
The pain... oh em gee... idiots have no appreciation for the pain their stupidity causes smarter folk

[spartan55]

@davado88
If there is a more misapplied, misused pop psychology buzzword circulating I haven't heard it. Drives me crazy.

[ManOnFire]

Thanks for MHO.

[HappyWoman34]

Sounds like the fish that John West rejected.

[Lycirian]

It doesn't matter what kind of story you had. If you see that she is a red flag in your eyes then call it of. Tell her I don't like the way it is between us and I don't want to have any kind of contact with you anymore. If she ain't listen and start stalking you, call the police.

I know what I'am talking about trust me in that one.

[lightbulb27]

there's more to this story than exposed. how intimate were you with this woman? She's not just "some woman" is she?

talk to a therapist to unravel it.

[Anonymous]

Suggest you read this website, It'll give some Ideas on how to deal with her;

https://psychcentral.com/health/grey-rock-method#grey-rock-method

[spartan55]

Man, it took me far too long to understand this, and it is 100% true. Every guy who starts dating needs to read this opinion and live by it.

[AnusNdaPainus]

Find the nearest exit door.

put yourself on the other side of it

close and lock it

never look back

[Massageman]

If she can't accept her issues , it's time to bail.

[Lovesoad1]

Don't date a narcissist please dont

[Asker]

I’m not going to. The main red flag is that she does not accept any responsibility for her actions. She did not apologise for hurting my feelings when I told her. She goes for days without replying to text messages but then gets upset when I don’t message her like that’s not how things are meant to work out

[Lovesoad1]

If she doesn't accept she hurt you she doesn't care about u

[Asker]

100 percent! Guys have feelings too

[Lovesoad1]

Yea I know narcissist are really difficult people. I tell you the secret to handle them. Make th feel like they are not important. The more you talk to them and try and change them the more they will feel important. if they text you just rely yes or no

[davado88]

jesus woman. everyone ever born is a narcissist. Thats just a nonsensical mental ilness dreamed up by some quack that makes zero sense. So please stop calling her that. YOU ARE DRIVING ME BANANAS she's just a selfish cnut. Thats not menal illness or a condition you have to deal with.
I've encountered many and am one myself

[Lovesoad1]

@davado88 there is suck thing as narcissist trust me I know many. They can't help themselves. It's a real illness

[Lovesoad1]

Such

[davado88]

thats my point. you are wrong. I dont trust you. Pyschiatry itself is bullshit as are most of their made up mental illnesses theories. like narissism it doesn't exist. Its not real. The woman you describe is a sekfish cnut.
not a narcissist, and that won't change just because you keep saying narcissism ad infintum

[Lovesoad1]

@davado88 psychiatry is bullshit but I have acountered narcissists and I tried to change them and honestly you can't. Those people don't accept any criticism they are rude condescending and veery unpleasant. I don't know if it should be called narcissism but honestly it's definitely a pathology

[davado88]

lets rename it to head-up-your-own-arse syndrome then

[Lovesoad1]

@davado88 yea the wholes reason why people think it should be classed as an illness it's because it's so hard to cure.

[davado88]

noone has ever been cured of mental illness by a therapist in history
its pseudo science .
and you can't cure this woman.
You can either kill her or avoid her

[Lovesoad1]

@davado88 yea psychiatry is full of shit. Tbh I think medicine in general I not accurate.

[davado88]

malevolent even

[Solo3k]

Tell her to kick rocks 🪨

[Anonymous]

Run!