So have them tell you so that you can decide to move on, or keep quiet hoping they will get back that feeling again?
How would you feel if after 20 years of marriage your partner said "I don't like so much salt in the soup," even though you've made it the same way for 20 years? Things don't go away just because we don't mention them. Ideally, we want to address things as soon as we become aware of them. That tends to lower the defensiveness when it is addressed, and it can be helpful if we truly want to be considerate of our partner.
Relationships are as likely to improve by waiting and hoping, as Prince Charming knocking on your door and fitting the glass slipper on your foot. Without clear, open, honest communication, people just become more frustrated. After holding it in, when the truth actually comes out, we've generally already reached our point of no return and aren't interested in working on the relationship. Work on issues when they're small. Don't wait till they become overwhelming.
That's the reason people often find it more helpful to seek therapy before life changes rather than wait till there are problems to be fixed. Though this is more helpful, people are more likely to bring their teens in for therapy to fix them rather than learn effective parenting skills before the kids are born. We tend to be more receptive to alternative perspectives and tools when we're preparing for a change. If you're going to hire someone to do a specific job the way you want it done, does it make more sense to hire someone who has little to no experience, but is eager to learn, or someone who has been doing it his or her own way for the past 50 years?
I have found that if you are open and honest throughout there really is no surprise when it over, as to why its over. So yes I would rather just hear the issue and truth, then have it be dragged out over weeks or months.
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I suppose i would like to know.
I'd rather they not say anything and let me try to win them over.
I'd always want to know if my SO is unhappy so we can work things out. And if it doesn't you can learn from it.
Better to know and deal with it
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