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Broke up with boyfriend via text. Was I wrong?

Anonymous

We had been dating for almost 8 months, and I had previously discussed things that I thought were lacking in the relationship more than twice and nothing had changed. My boyfriend did the bare minimum. He hardly put in any effort, and seemed to care very little if any at all about my wants and needs, I felt as though I put in the most effort, and for me that effort was effortless and was not work, because as you all know, in a relationship, you do things for each other out of love and care it is not daunting, does not feel like a task. It is not difficult, it does not take up energy and time, it is not a lot of work. It is something you look forward to. To see a smile on your significant others face because you want them to be happy. You want them to feel loved and appreciated. I would always buy him things, considered him, paid attention to things that he needed and would get them for him. Me on the other hand, not so much. He didn’t wish me a happy birthday, let alone get me a card or a gift (at this point we had been dating for 1.5 months). He’s never gotten me flowers, a teddy bear, chocolates, nothing of the sort. I explained these things to him and told him that small gifts are important to me and that I’m not looking for expensive jewelry or anything extravagant but something small and inexpensive from Amazon would’ve even sufficed. I also spent most of the time commuting to him, as well as spending most of my money on us when he’s the one who made more. I also made most plans as he claims that he’s such a homebody. He also hates driving and so I basically was always the one to drive even after I spent almost two hours driving to him for the weekends. He never seem to want me to meet anyone in this family or social circle and he never really wanted to take any photos.

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5 mo
Just recently he used my card for a purchase and rather than being a gentleman and paying for my $12 purchase he charged my card for his $50 purchase along with my $12 purchase and claimed that he was going to pay me back and he never did so I had to remind him to do so. That’s what drew the line for me. I felt like I was being taken advantage of at that point we had already parted ways for the day, and I didn’t feel as though he deserved an in person break.
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5 mo
So I sent a brief text letting him know that I was fed up and that I was done and I didn’t hear back from him. Was I wrong to break up via text? I felt used and taken advantage of it seems from my point of view that money was the main factor here because I’m the one who seemed to always spend the most. I wasn’t keeping track, but if you were to have paid attention, you could definitely see that it wasn’t fair.
Broke up with boyfriend via text. Was I wrong?
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