She has been a big warning mark since I seen her. She's way too friendly with him. For my comfort. Being alone in his space. Touching his hair. Hugging him way too long. I am not the jealous type and I trust my partner. But I am at a loss with this woman. She and I have spoken in person once. She had him have me give her my number. Told me I was raised wrong for my nails. by the way she also has her own guy. Am I just tripping because no one I have dated had female friends or is she not being right?
My ldr fiancés girl best friend who says she's his sister. Says fuck your fiancé while on a call. What should I do or is it his place?
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Damn, that sounds like a messed up situation. That girl saying "fuck your fiancé" on a call is straight disrespectful as hell.
A few red flags I'm seeing:
- Her being way too touchy feely and cuddly with your man. That’s crossing serious boundaries for someone who claims to just be friends.
- Taking jabs at you like criticizing your nails. Little digs like that are passive aggressive bullshit.
- Wanting your number like you’re friends, but not showing you real friend respect.
Some things to consider:
- Talk to your fiancé straight up, tell him how her behavior makes you uncomfortable. See how he responds and if he sets clear boundaries.
- Pay attention to how much time they spend alone together and communicating without you. Could be innocent but also good to be aware of.
- Trust your gut. If something doesn’t feel right about their relationship, you’re probably right to question it.
- You can choose not to be around her yourself if she gets under your skin. No need to subject yourself to disrespect.
I'd say your fiancé needs to check her real quick for that comment. And if he doesn’t have your back, that's prob a bigger issue. You deserve to feel secure in your relationship, not wondering what they're up to.
She made that nail comment when I met her in person. Then acted all happy about our wedding. Wanting to go get our nails done together...😑 Luke I don't know what her game is. They both talk like guys together too. Talking about "fucking" ( our and her sex life) like the fuck... this is definitely a conversation he and I need to have in person. So far he told me he had no feelings for her like that. But doesn't mean she doesn't. When I asked him about the nail comment. He said different races have different hygiene
Damn, this chick sounds shady as hell. Talking all intimate about sex lives and stuff, that's just straight up inappropriate when you're in a relationship. And making those comments about your nails when you met, she was disrespecting you from the jump. I'd be super weirded out by her too.
For sure you gotta have a serious talk with your boy. Lay it all out there - the touching, hugging, inappropriate comments, everything. See how he reacts and what he's gonna do about it. His response will tell you a lot. If he's not willing to establish clear boundaries and cut that intimacy out, then I'd be questioning how real your relationship is to him. He needs to choose between you or her drama at this point.
This girl's trouble for sure. Don't let them gaslight you saying it's no big deal or you're overreacting. Trust your gut feeling on this one. Just approach your boy calmly and tell him straight how it makes you feel. Hope he comes through for you, but don't let them walk all over you either way. You don't deserve that shit. Keep me posted on what goes down!
Hopefully he comes down for Thanksgiving so we can talk things out.
For sure, talking things out in person over Thanksgiving is definitely the move. That's like the perfect time to have an important relationship convo.
A few tips - try to stay calm and don't get too heated, even if it's hard. Just lay it all out there clearly about how her actions/comments make you feel disrespected. Listen to his side too without getting defensive. The goal is understanding each other better.
Maybe suggest couple's boundaries like no more alone time with her or talking about private stuff. See if he's willing to make you more comfortable. Compromise is key.
If he really cares about you and your relationship, he'll want to find a solution. But you also gotta stand up for yourself too. Just be honest but don't attack him - work as a team. I'm sure you guys can figure it out! Let me know how it goes. You've got this.
confront him then move on if he says she's harmless