Why do guys say girls don't know what they want and don't know how to communicate when it's the opposite?

Question

Men are more needy and more clingy and jealous and emotional than women in relationships.

Miristheiss · Accepted Answer

It is true.

Girls may think they know what they want or what will make them happy but look at the track record of many women. Women are rarely happy, they are regularly getting involved with guys that are no good for them, women are always worried and discontent (I think that is biological), women are very hard to please. They may have little short burst of being pleased/content but then they'll find something else to be upset about, some drama to seek out, worried about something.

Guys are usually simpler and easier to make content. Be peaceful and soothing around us (not nagging or worrying about something 24/7, if our stomachs are full and if our mates are sexually interested in us we are usually pretty content).

Women may say confidently that they know what they want and what is good for them but I'd contest that many really don't and, in fact, do things and pursue things and people that are bad for them. It is that way with most people, people really don't know what is good for them or what will give them satisfaction, meaning, purpose and contentment.

I will agree that women are better communicators. With that though, when dealing with men, with their partners women often behave as if they want men to read their minds and they like to give hints or body language and are mad if men don't get it. We'd both be happier if women would speak more plainly and direct with men when it comes to their feelings and what they want from us. Women communicate better with each other, they often expect men to just "get it" and do something or understand something by inferring it and not being told plainly.

NathanDavis · Accepted Answer

I've never said any of that before.. and you're doing the very same thing you're complaining about...  "women are not all the same... men are all the same" okay, lol...

BasedBaeBecca · Accepted Answer

I think there can be a lot of stereotypes surrounding the relationships between men and women. It's true that men can be just as emotional, needy and clingy in relationships, but women are often perceived as being more complicated and sensitive. These can be unhelpful comparisons, as we are all individuals with our own personalities and feelings, regardless of gender. Instead of comparing the behaviors of men and women in relationships, it's more productive to focus on the specific behaviors and communication styles of individual couples, as well as to understand each partner and their needs in the relationship.

Nikki1989 · Accepted Answer

The thing other than communicating that men usually fail at in relationships is listening.

coachTanthony · Answer

This is only true when the man wants the woman and she isn't quite that interested. When she is obsessed with the guy look out.

bededazzle · Answer

people who generalize like this usually have their own issues or are stuck in a pattern of meeting people it's very difficult for them to communicate with because of personality or other various issues. i've experienced that some women believe what I say, and others believe how I appear (anxious and awkward). Also, no one knows what they want 100%, and I think we should generally just accept that this is OK.

wiltingrosepetal · Answer

Here's how I see it:
Women treat every move like it's a chess game. Everything is subtle, everything is implied. We can have arguments where all we do is sarcastically compliment each other. And since we treat everything like it's chess, we assume men will too.
So when he starts ghosting her, she thinks he's making a play. When he does something that means nothing, she'll overreact.
Women are complicated.
Men are too simple and we misconstrue that as being complicated 🤷‍♀️

IceCreamSandwich · Answer

I don't know. Life is a lot simpler if you just believe that each person knows best about their own mind and heart.

I don't always explain what I want very well, but that doesn't mean I don't know it. Communication is just hard sometimes no matter how good at it you are. Trust and patience helps that process a lot though—way more than just assuming they really don't know what they want and you know it better.

Anonymous · Answer

Women are emotional. Men are logical.

Women are better communicators than men, but women communicate through emotions. Emotions change for everyone all the time.

Men communicate through logic. 2+2 is always 4. Red is always Red regardless what shade of red it is.

When men and women communicate men receive the emotional message from a woman and translate it to a logical message or desired logical outcome.

This is why women and men have communication issues.

But it is true that some women and some men are overly clingy or easily become jealous. Usually because of past experiences.

worldscolide · Answer

Having dated several women. I can definitely say the opposite is true.

I had one literally tell me, when I missed an opportunity for sex, "well I touched your arm! What do you think thst means" it's like mixed signals are a woman's forte..

DextroShade · Answer

Completely disagree, most women are terrible at communication and then get angry at men for not being able to read their mind. Men are very direct and to the point while women play stupid games or give a guy the silent treatment and expect him to figure it out.

m33ladEmjay · Answer

It took me over 10 years to tell you what Im goanna tell you now. Guys try to understand girls like they're men.
GIrls dont mean what they say most of the time. This is the hardest thing for men to understand.

BUt they can't hide or lie about their body language.

Anonymous · Answer

"Men are more needy and more clingy and jealous and emotional than women in relationships." LMAO

HaleyCatgirl · Answer

I strongly disagree here I've heard instances over Xbox plenty times where chick is freaking out on boyfriend boyfriend asking what do you want me to do and then she crazy. I'm an attraction to girls but I'm never going to date one.

u7u7u7u7 · Answer

You're talking about simps. You probably encounters only them. Cuz I'm not clingy nor needy nor all those other things. I have my dignity and pride i won't let myself look weak or let my values being compromised. If you like ms i like you if you start to drift away i won't chase you I'll give you my honest farewell.

Unit1 · Answer

Point taken. I have observed that from the opposite sex too. So it's not universal to either gender.

Truthatanycost · Answer

Compare what women say they want to what they choose...

Naruse · Answer

Some guys sure but we're talking generalities on both sides here. They probably dated a women who was clingy and you dated a man who was.

AmeerX · Answer

Girls definitely are the one who are always indecisive and first say one thing and then back off. And guess what if a girl does something wrong she is pardoned while a man is ostracized by the society

CupcakeTheDestroyer · Answer

Every negative female stereotype is straight men projecting

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Because a lot of women don't know what they want and don't communicate honestly.

Slim57 · Answer

For some reason the men y'all choose to date are the worst possible ones and then you ignore all the ones who aren't like that but when we men date a woman whether we pick a good or a bad one I've yet to find one that knew how to communicate properly

Wise4myage · Answer

Because its true in some instances, and the same thing goes for guys.

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Same reason why girls say guys don't know what they want and don't know how to communicate when it's the opposite.

Vegasrunner · Answer

It's because female behavior is not congruent with their words.

Anonymous · Answer

It’s a known fact women don’t know themselves what they want, maybe you’re just not like most women

Anonymous · Answer

They project. A lot of guys are not manly so they project. Instead of owning up and changing.

ProbablyClueless · Answer

Try dating a woman

RedInnocent68 · Answer

Is it really, though? 🤔

jahaims · Answer

You are just interacting with low quality men

Anonymous · Answer

Femininity is chaos. Masculinity is cool and calm.

Anonymous · Answer

Utter nonsense.

whistlingwh0res · Answer

Meow

Anonymous · Answer

Bullshit lol

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