Is there anyone with experience and good emotional intelligence who can help me?

[Anonymous]

I am a social person, I've had a few relationship experiences so far, but i was not happy. Because they didn't suit my character.
A few months ago, I met a man completely by chance, we had a short chat (actually my friend had a short chat i just listened...) and he was a friend of my friend's friend... :)
That day, I wanted to hug that person I had never met.
Then I stalked, found social media accounts, blogs etc.
Someone who thinks and feels just like me, it's like he's the missing piece of me.
But I don't know how to reach him, it will probably seem strange/weird to him. I want to meet him more closely, not like romantic.. love, but intuitively, I am irresistibly drawn to him.. What should I do? Why do you think this happened?

[kitsachie]

You found someone that you subconsciously feel that they're a soulmate. We meet people throughout life that we really click with, and we're drawn to that. Fun spiritual answer is, that person must be cut from the same stardust I originated from. Realistic answer is, we are drawn to people we relate to.

The least creepy way of going about contacting him is to reach out to a friend that is a friend of his and ask them to put you in contact, unless you directly can contact them. Men love being approached first, it's always a breath of fresh air.

[Asker]

Unfortunately, I don't have a mutual friend to ask for help, my only option is social media. But most people say don't take a step, men don't want this i don't know how to text him, what should I write?
I also looked at our birth charts.
There are 12 houses, maybe you know.
All our zodiac signs in the 12 houses are exactly the same, is this normal?

[kitsachie]

Take your chance then. You do nothing you will never be with him, you contact him and he rejects you the outcome is the same as if you didn't take action. You only stand to gain from contacting him. I don't want to tell you what to say because this is your journey but just shoot your shot. I'm not too familiar with birth charts, but if you feel this strongly about this person, I encourage you to try.

[Asker]

Thank you for your comment :) I will try my luck this week, wish me luck

[Chisprtsfan11]

Tell him how you feel. If he's single lol

[Asker]

I'm going to send a message anyway, but I'm a shy person, as far as I understand, he's a shy person, wish me luck

[Tharithi]

Why this person is special

[Asker]

@Tharithi intuition.
It's like he has something that belongs to me, and I need that thing

[Tharithi]

How do u both look. Do u feel physical attraction in the least?

[Asker]

@Tharithi. I am blond. That man is also blonde. I am 28 years old or 37 years old. I want to touch him, hug him, so much. I feel physical attraction towards him. But the weird thing is, I normally like dark and tall men, he's not normally my type.

[Tharithi]

Dark guys? 🤣🤣🤣🤣. The beauty standard is fair guys

[Tharithi]

What ways are u similar

[Asker]

@TharithiThe keyboard is faulty, I am writing to more than one person and it can get confusing :d

[Tharithi]

You are saying he’s darker than u , so not your type?

[Asker]

@Tharithi We are both introverts.
We both love spending time in nature.
We are both sensitive and emotional.
We both have similar faces, nose, eyes and mouth look exactly the same.
I play the piano, I'm not a professional, but he plays the piano.

[Asker]

@Tharithi kinda yep

[Tharithi]

So how u both look. By your statements u aren’t physically attracted to him

[Asker]

@Tharithi This is the weird thing. It's seriously weird. Normally I shouldn't like it but I want him so much like crazy

[Tharithi]

How do u both look

[Rei13]

My emotional intelligence is questionable sometimes but I do have experience when it has come to relationships. You will never gain if you do not try. It may or may not work out if you reach out to him, but it definitely won’t work if you don’t do so and you may regret it. Someone has to make that first step. It doesn’t matter who it is. My longest relationships, including my current one, was me reaching out to the guy first and then him putting in the effort on his end. You can start out as friends at first to get to know each other if you’re nervous (you know the whole you’re just friends but not actually lol) and then build off of that

[Holsen]

Oh that’s quite good actually, I usually do the same thing like when I see new people and say girls I look once at the looks and for each I have some kind of intuition that lets me select the type I would feel more drawn inn, well ofc that reduces the overall chances as it’s a selective process but I think it’s worth it and when you find someone like that I would also like to see how an interaction with that person would feel and go like;well I think you should keep a check on him at least the social media and take it slow and find an opportunity, generally if you have the intention of wanting ti meet him, speaking form experience you will genraly stumble across a chance!! I wish you luck!!

[sage2021]

I know exactly what you are thinking about! It's called Twin Flame.
You Wii have to read up on it yourself and you'll see that that is what you're talking about.
Believe me, I know because that is what happened when I met my last boyfriend. I kept telling him that I know him already. I could feel something different from him than any other person I have ever met.
He knew what I was talking about because he read about it on the internet and agreed that us what we are - twin flames.
Look it up and get back to me
@sage2021. I can't follow you because you are anonymous. If you use your user name you can follow me and we can talk about it.

[Anonymous]

Without pissing you off, because you haven't known him that long. You're only seeing the good and positive right now. He might be all the things you say he is. But the odds are greater that he isn't and you're going to see his flaws. Nothing wrong with seeing more of what he's about. But do yourself a favor. Pump the brakes and take it slow.

[Tharithi]

U are weird. If u don’t want them romantically, why would u hug them. What are u trying to do? Lead a person on

[Chisprtsfan11]

So I see you like to belittle others too. Classy lol

[Asker]

this is not an easily understandable situation. But I had feelings for him that I cannot describe. When I said I didn't want anything romantic, after all, I didn't know him, I shared that I felt all these without knowing him. Thank you again for your sarcastic comment, different perspective.

[Tharithi]

Then u get a friendly feeling?

[Asker]

I am a logical person. I am a psychology student myself, I try to give logical explanations to every thing. I don't understand why I feel these things about him. In fact, i might fall in love with him if i get to know him well enough. But that night it felt like he was the person i had been looking for for years. And i just wanted to hug him, that's all

[Tharithi]

How long do u know them

[Asker]

It's been exactly 3 months

[Staximus]

Shit he posts online may reveal some things about him, but don't get all twitterpated before you even get to know him personally. Tell your friend to bring him along next time you hang out so you can get to know him

[exitseven]

you have a connection to him through a friend. That would probably be the best way to see this guy again.

[RedInnocent68]

You do. And not that weird. Just message and be like, ‘hey, I’m… I heard you talking to… it really resonated with me, and I wanted to connect’.

[Joker_]

I'm here to answer your prayers

[Bellawiththefatass]

Just start chatting with him and see 😄

[D_Bone_Steak]

Is is name Chad?