Has it happened before? If it has happened before, I can see why.
If it hasn't, you shouldn't shy away from potential love along the way.
Either way, this mentality can really be crushing if you try to pursue relationships down the road. It makes it hard to maintain the relationship and your own happiness from the paranoia involved. It's like sabotaging yourself and your happiness. Could you explain more about what made you feel this way, what happened, whatever is more comfortable for you.
My wife is the same, you just need to find someone that understands how and why you feel like that. Over time the feeling will start to go away.
At first my wife was like that thinking I will leave her or cheat on her. But I did understand that it was not because of me it was because of her past ex boyfriends. As our relationship went on she started to be less and less worry about it and now she don't bring it up at all. Yes she still looks in my cellphone but if you are a honest guy you will not mind or care.
Learn about self-fulfilling-prophesies. When we're sure something will happen, we generally cause it to happen. That way, you don't have to accept responsibility for anything, as you declared it would happen from the start. We have the option to choose any life we wish. You're choosing a life of deception and pain. Don't complain about that which is chosen.
I get you don't trust. Maybe you should stay alone tell you feel different
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its not good. that's called being hurt in the past, which requires healing... otherwise, you project it into the present. There methods of healing that, do your research.
Basically, you won't allow anyone close because of fear of loss. That's not healthy. Nothing can be achieved that way. Columbus would have sunk 100ft out in the ocean if he thought like that.
definitely not a great thing. you are largely creating a self-fulfilling prophecy. a massive number of guys don't cheat and never would. but if you refuse to believe that he isn't cheating eventually he likely will or he'll walk away. you just need to work on yourself and realize that you have worth and are deserving of respect and honesty etc and then you'll start attracting the kind of guys you want
Bad? I can see you are trying to protect yourself. And I'm not going to say "its bad". The side effect is that at the same time you are also not letting in a good man.
How do I know? Well its not what you think it is in my case.
That's because your dating the same types of Guys, Your gut instinct is usually right.
Because in a good relationship you would feel good wouldn't you so if your in a bad relationship you would still feel it, But odviously the feelings would be bad wouldn't they.
So try approaching a different type of Guy like a Shy Guy.
Hell yes its bad. .
It's a brutal pandemic within itself
As it's plaguing relationships n possible future ones to a worse reality than we face now..
Perpetual shallow surface level impulse driven superficial relations every transforming into a slightly worse image of its self worse than last.. cause unfortunately.. we gave our innocence to unworthy individuals. A time too many. It's no wonder I only get buried by woman cause the ass they married..
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No, you don't have to be with a man if you don't want to be and based on what I see here, your instincts are right for about 70% of the guys here. Not all are men are bad people but many are.
unfortunately, you can't have a relationship without trust. you should work on this. you would not be the first person to have trust issues and resolve them. in your case, I think you should see a therapist.
When women say they dont trust or hate men it's usually because they don't have any good men in their life so they don't have any way to vet potential partners. They don't have a good guy to compare them to and don't know what to look out for. It isn't men you dont trust, it's your judgment.
You're likely making it happen with all the negativity of "he's going to cheat on me eventually"... because if he's going to get blamed for it anyways...
don't worry.
trust is a very large part of any relationship, without it you don't have anything.
unless you can figure out how to trust people you might just as well start adopting cats.
That sounds extremely bad. Not being able to trust anyone is definitely not healthy. It's also probably a self fulfilling prophecy.
I don't believe it is possible to have a satisfying long-term relationship with someone who is not trusted.
Unfortunately when it happens once.. almost everyone has their guard up. I am the same way but over time you have to learn to be more vulnerable.
There’s nothing bad about protecting yourself. You’re protecting yourself because you’ve likely been hurt. But if you want a healthy relationship with someone you should think about getting therapy. It can help you to open up more and learn to trust.
I mean... it's probably not great if you want a relationship. Fear of abandonment will wear you or your partner down. Wish I had a solution for ya.
Self-fulfilling prophecies are a dangerous thing. But at least you’re acknowledging the possibility…
Trust has to be earn not give you can't look at a guy and think I give him some trust
You need to talk to a therapist or something about fixing your negative outlook on life
Why do you think you'll "end up" with someone in the first place?
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