I’m from a rich family, but brought up not to be a snob. How do I meet someone who loves me for me rather than my family’s wealth?

[Anonymous]

I’d never even questioned that until my parents admitted that we’re not middle class. We’re a rich family, living amongst middle class families. I’m a rich girl, brought up with middle class values. I’m not a snob. I’ve noticed that many people who are set to inherit millions and a house worth millions like I am, are obsessed with acquiring more wealth and really cynical about being used by gold diggers. How do I ensure this doesn’t happen to me? Do I just see who sticks around when the times are tough? I’m not afraid of being poor. I’m afraid of becoming homeless if someone takes me for all I’ll have, because I have severe depression that has made me unable to work long hours, as hard as I’ve tried to and wanted to do so. Like my parents did, to make their wealth. To me I don’t care about other’s backgrounds and I’m not interested in acquiring more wealth. I just want to marry for love. I can afford to marry just for love, as long as I’m not taken for all I end up inheriting.

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5 mo

I’m going anonymous so no one figures out who I am, judges me or thinks I’m trying to boast. Anyway, I did nothing to earn or deserve what will be my inheritance. I’d rather my parents lived forever than I got their stuff.

[Luckycharms12]

Find someone who cares about people. There friends family etc and hide you have money so normal clothes so on so can be sure there with you for you. But don't get mindset being a snob just because come from money doesn't mean can't be nice person and kind to everyone

[Asker]

Good advice. Thank you. I’ll never be a snob. I was raised not to be and it’s something I feel strongly about. I hate people who brag and big note themselves, over something they never earned or deserved.

[Asker]

I’m eager to prove, to others and to myself that I can make my own way, by living in public housing, as it’s not my money I can’t afford to live well alone. It’s my goal to move out when I’m done paying for my diet food.

[Luckycharms12]

Good want to prove yourself and sure you will. Public housing can be tough

[CalmUntilAbused]

Meet people incognito if possible, act and dress modest. Basically, do not show off Your wealth.

[Avicenna]

That will be very hard to find, unfortunately

[Unit1]

When you meet someone you just act middle class. You don't have to tell about your wealth or express extravagant things.

If you drive a Ferrari then pull up with a VW or use a motorbike.

If you usually do vacations in Miami or Dubai, consider cheaper vacation locations such as Thailand or staying in the country.

The key here is pretending to be not so rich. You do it for your own safety in order to repel off gold digger regardless of gender.

If you don't flash money, then no one plans to extract resources from you. And if they stay, that's probably who you want to be with in the long haul.

[Anonymous]

Just don't bring up your family's wealth and don't talk about the figures you or your parents make by year nor anything like that.

And when meeting up with someone for a relationship, try not to wear the most expensive stuff.

I mean, I'm not sure if it's entirely possible to pretend not to be rich though. Especially in case you live in a small town and your family is well known, but it wouldn't hurt to try anyway.

But yeah, even if you try your hardest to not mention anything about your financial situation. They will sooner or later find out about it somehow.

If post finding out about your financial situation their demeanor with you changes 180° and they keep on talking about money related stuff, fancy trips, or maybe even inquiring about your wealth... Then yes, that's a red flag.

Someone who actually loves you for solely who you are wouldn't change the way the behave with you just cos they find out about your financial situation.

[BourbonAndBacon]

I'm with someone who grew up in poverty. When she asked me not to buy her new clothes because she preferred "pre-loved" clothes and when she asked me not to go to fancy restaurants or buy her flowers because the expense made her uncomfortable, I got on my knee and gave her a ring. Live a minimalist life like life's luxury's aren't important and you'll attract a like minded partner

[andreasderjuengere]

Live out of your own resources, and leave that family wealth out. You didn't make that anyway.

This will bring you to the level that you desire.

However: ''The camel, and the eye of the needle...''

[Asker]

Exactly. I’m proud of my parents’ hard work and I’m grateful to have nice things, but we’re no better than anyone else. How do I go about doing this? Do I go and live in government housing and survive off my pension? That’s been my goal once I’m finished paying for my diet food.

[patrick994]

At the beginning of the acquaintance, try to keep your family's possessions hidden, make no reference to money, dress inconspicuously, no designer clothes, only then will you be able to tell if he is really interested or not.

[Jmmmfi4]

NOT POSSIBLE

[Asker]

Of course it is, if your family weren’t born into wealth and reach you the right values.