Can people with an anxious attachment style find love and be in a relationship?

[simon]

I do not mean sexual relationships, just being in love. I think I have such an attachment style and not sure if I can fully trust someone :(

[lemonette]

People with an anxious attachment style can totally find love and be in awesome relationships! It's a bit like being a plant that needs a bit more water than others – with the right care, it can absolutely flourish.

When you've got an anxious attachment style, you might sometimes feel like a phone on 1% battery – a bit more in need of reassurance and connection to feel secure. But hey, that doesn't mean you can't have a rocking relationship.

Know Thyself: It's like being your own detective, figuring out what makes you tick and why certain things might set off your 'relationship alarm bells'. Once you get the hang of what triggers your anxiety, it's easier to manage.

Chat It Out: Imagine your relationship is like building an epic Lego set – communication is the instruction manual. It's not about making them guess what's up; it's about teamwork.

Find the Right Match: This is like finding a dance partner who gets your rhythm. Some people are naturals at providing the reassurance and steadiness that someone with an anxious attachment style might crave.

Build Trust Like Building a Fort: Slow and steady. Every little act of reliability from your partner is like adding a block to the fort. Over time, this can really help calm the anxious feelings.

Grow Together: Imagine your relationship is a garden you're tending together. Both of you learning and adapting as you go is super important.

So, yeah, people with an anxious attachment style can totally find love and have healthy relationships. It's about understanding yourself, good communication, and a bit of patience – both with yourself and with your partner.

[Anonymous]

I have an anxious attachment style, it’s definitely not easy. It can get toxic so you really gotta be self aware and be willing to work on yourself. It’s extremely hard for me to open up and trust people, I sometimes come across as controlling because I’m just so anxious all the time. I have improved but I still got a long way to go. It’s definitely possible to get in a relationship and be in love, but it’s up to you to make the best out of it and not let your anxious attachment style get in the way.

[smne35]

Please inform me, what is anxious attachment, serious please stop it with catchy or clever labels if it's trust issue say trust issue only confused things complicates it further, like toxic, what the, I heard toxic I'm thinking nuclear waste, harmful gas chemicals things like that, not equate that with people, why is there a need to label everyone, everything, a person immigrate to this country to live now they're Asian American instead of just an American, can't say black is African American, it makes no sense but one thing I don't ever hear is European American and why do we separate ourselves so much here, I mean with places within cities like little Tokyo little China stop that, there is no little actions anything here, it's los Angeles New York Chicago etc, all this does is divided this country and says to people coming here is welcome but separate unless your European, no one from elsewhere assimilate in this country anymore, they find their clan and wall themselves in around their own culture, and giving sanctuary cities to illegals what the hell is really going on in this country, I know I'm off topic here but it's all revelent am I the only one who sees this spiraling out of control here or who cares any way please help me to understand what the heck is anxious attachment, new one on me

[GoodEnoughThen]

Perhaps it's more about trusting yourself than others.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Yes. My ex had an anxious attachment. I had avoidant.

We made it work somehow.

Even though I notoriously self sabotage my feelings as soon as I realize I catch feelings, I act totally obnoxious to make sure I’ll not get myself into a commitment of any kind.

Deep down though, I feel lonely. I feel sad, for how I tend to ruin all the wonderful things.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Once committed, I am vulnerable and turn more into secure. The initial stages are very hard for me and takes a lot of patience and understanding from my potential partner.

[GoodEnoughThen]

And hopefully you are patient and understanding with yourself. :)

[KrakenAttackin]

@LaFemmeFatale_1. ... but he is an "ex".

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

@GoodEnoughThen But… What does it change of I am patient and understanding with myself?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

@KrakenAttackin It was still a 3.5 year relationship and a big milestone for me, because I sabotage any new beginnings long before they reach the relationship stage. As soon as I start catching feelings I start sabotaging things as successfully as I can.

[KrakenAttackin]

@LaFemmeFatale_1. So what will be the turning point for you?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

@KrakenAttackin Have no idea.

[sheikalana]

Absolutely. I tend to be the anxious one and I'm happily married. My husband is a great partner he doesn't really give me reasons to feel anxious. The times I felt anxious in our relationship were my insecurities talking.

[Thestupidusername]

Yes you can. But remember whoever your partner will be it will be a human...

[Whitewulf]

Right there with you bro and it has destroyed every one I’ve been in.

[WhitneySnow]

Yes but it’s better for them both if they work on changing their attachment style

[Luméa]

Yes, but I think their relationship would be better if they worked on their anxious attachment styles.

[Still-alive]

Yes it can if you go out with someone secure. avoidants or other anxious attachment style people won't workout as well usually.

[syncheart]

Probably if the other person is patient with you.

[systemsareyo]

I would've assumed two individuals like that would be best suited to each other.

[DreamLife7]

Anxious attachment blah blah is just an excuse for people who are stalkers that can't move on

[OddBeMe]

If you become a good actor. Like me.